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Question 1

What are sexual scripts

Answer 1

combinations of thoughts, beliefs, values, amotions, and experiences both real and imagines influenced by culture, people, personal history, and te self that directly impacts our experiences of sex and sexuality.

Question 2

What causes disruptions to our sexual scripts?

Answer 2

discrepancies.Can be a disruption in how someone views this sexuality if its in the outer circle (taboo about sex)

Question 3

What is a charmed circle

Answer 3

everything that is promoted in society

Question 4

What is desire

Answer 4

psychological experience interlaces with emotion. Takes cues from arousal and interprets them. (happens after arousal)

Question 5

What are the types of desire

Answer 5

• Spontaneous: typically what we think. Arousal cues and psychological interpretation of them happening very quickly. Light switch on.
• Magnificent: Enjoying all the planning and prep that goes into hosting a dinner party but when the night comes and youre in the thralls, youre happy to be there. May not enjoy the lead up but once your in the sexual experience youre happy you planned and prepped.

Question 6

how is desire different from a drive?

Answer 6

• Drives are biological mechanisms that keep our body in homeostasis
• Sex isn’t a drive, you wont die from not having sex.
• We use sex to fulfill other needs (deeper and more meaningful) , connection, emotional intimacy, validation.

Question 7

Gender identity

Answer 7

how someone thinks about themselves

Question 8

Sexual dysfunctions of males

Answer 8

• Erectile dysfunctions: Rarely just a physiological issue. Level of erectness fluctuates throughout a lifetime.
• Premature Ejeculation:

Question 9

What is the average time of intervaginal ejaculation

Answer 9

5.4 minutes

Question 10

Average time for females to orgasm

Answer 10

10-40 minutes

Question 11

Female sexual dysfunctions

Answer 11

Female Orgasmic Disorder:

Question 12

Pelvic Floor Pain

Answer 12

pain within its functional context rather than the pain in and of itself. (reason for not calling is sexual pain).
- Provoked vs. unprovoked
- Primary vs. secondary
- Mild, moderate & severe

Question 13

what kinds of treatments used for pelvic floor pain

Answer 13

usually composed of multidisciplinary approach to treatment:
- Physio (specialized physical therapist): adding exercises
- Medical intervention: making sure doctor is aware, maybe referring them to gynocologist
- Psychology: addressing correlated issues (trauma, etc.) support, grief
- Additional Treatment: Cannabis, TCM.