4: Parenting Flashcards
The parenting style that values obedience & respect the most. Pushing vs resistance.
Authoritarian
Task concerned with the raising of children.
Parenting
When both external force (punishment) & development of internal sense of right & wrong are used:
Discipline
When the parent is demanding, punishing, and has severe restrictions and constant direction & supervision.
Authoritarian
What are the possible child’s response to the authoritarian parenting style?
- Submission - obedience
- Active rebellion - overt defiance & verbal refusal
- Passive resistance - forgetting & covert, devious rebellion
Aggressiveness, moodiness, irritability, low self esteem are clinical correlations to a child raised by what parenting style?
Authoritarian
An authoritarian’s child may develop what attitude in the future?
Bossy or follower
Compulsive or refusal to comply
Procrastinator, resistant to schedule
Sex & marriage are duties
Describe a child of an indifferent (detached) parent.
Demanding
Less compliant
Poor peer relationship
A child is passive, bored & discontented in the midst of indulgence.
Permissive parenting
True or false: in permissive parenting, the child is the boss.
TRUE
When the child sees the adult as probider of pleasure & comfort, loses initiative & spontaneity, and has tantrums.
Permissive
What are the clinical correlation in children of permissive parenting style?
Impulsivity
Behavioral problems
The child’s attitude in the future would be to hate work, no career decisions, attaches to partner who can indulge, and has passive expectation of getting from others.
Permissive
A combination of parental warmth & acceptance or involvement w/ parental control.
Authoritative/democratic
Describe the discipline in a democratic parenting style.
Consistency
Firmness
Warmth
Reinforcement of appropriate responses
A child who is independent, has strong social skills and is confident is raised by what parenting style?
Authoritative/democratic
The most effective parenting would involve what:
Consistency
Reward for good behavior
Punishment for undesirable behavior
For Filipinos, what is the natural outcome of marriage?
Parenthood
Describe a Filipino family.
Child-centered
True or false: In the rural areas, children provide help as early as 5 years old.
TRUE
The investment for social mobility:
Good education -> good jobs -> raise the socio-economic standing of the family
True or false: Parenthood is not necessarily a furnishing incentive for success.
FALSE
For Filipinos, how is masculinity measured?
By the number of children produced
True or false: To bear a child is the fulfillment of womanhood. (Filipino culture)
TRUE
The process in which an individual acquires & internalizes the norm.
Socialization
In which personality is developed.
Socialization
What are the agents of socialization?
Family
School
Church
Other groups individual is exposed to
Considered as the closest and most influential social group in a child’s life:
Family
Reasons for parents’ dedication to child rearing:
Genuine love & concern for child’s welfare
Community expectation
Legal prescription
Who assumes the bulk of child care responsibilty?
Mother
What are the 4 types of fatherhood?
Procreator
Dilettante
Determinative
Generative
Refers to the emotional tone of involvement with children:
Affective dimension
The degree of involvement with children:
Activity dimension
Type of father that equates fatherhood primarily w/ raising children:
Procreator father
The father who is often away from home but maintains warm relationship with children.
Dilettante father
Obsessed with directing his children’s lives.
Determinative father
Spend much time with children & enjoys being with them that fatherhood becomes an opportunity for own growth and fulfillment.
Generative father
At what type do the Filipino father tend to fall in?
Procreator and dilettante
If you are a young father, what is the primary responsibilty to focus on?
Nurturance
The older fathers consider _______ their primary duty.
Provider role
The father’s role is to be:
Authority figure & disciplinarian
Receives the most attention & affection in the household.
Infant
Too much crying may give the baby:
Gas or colic
True or false: In child rearing, techniques should be static.
FALSE (it should change as society changes)
What is a child’s major role?
To be a diligent student
Encourages good behavior through praising, granting privileges and rewards.
Positive technique
Examples of negative techniques:
Scolding, spanking
Depriving the child of what he wants
Isolation
Instilling fear
What is the most common and considered as most effective method for negative technique?
Corporal punishment (scolding, spanking)
Factors affecting child rearing behavior:
Site Birth order Gender Age Subculture
Factor that is utilized when you are strict if a place is hazardous to health.
Site
Who bears the greatest demand and expectations but receives special attention & privilege as parental surrogate?
Eldest
Who are less subjected to corporal punishment?
Adolescents
Filipino child rights:
To be born (w/ name&nationality) To be free (w/ caring family) Have good educ Develop potentials Have food,shelter,healthy body To play To be protected To live in peaceful community To be defended and assisted by gov Express own views
Give the types of solo-parent families.
Widow/widower & his/her children Single man & adopted children Separated parent & children Unwed woman & children Mistress & her children by a married man
More than 2M of Filipinos. Thus comprising the bulk of single parent families.
Widow or widower
True or false: Females have longer life expectancy than males.
TRUE
What do homosexuals who have achieved high socio-economic status commonly do?
Adopt a child
A comprehensive package of benefits such as tax breaks, housing benefits, health & educ insurance.
Solo parents welfare act
The big advantage of windows:
Favorable attitude of family, friends & community
Source of security of widows:
Emotional support
Left alone in the task of bringing up their children w/o adequate financial or emotional support:
Divorced or separated
__ out of 10 Filipino marriages are intact.
9
Reasons for marital discord:
Infidelity or irresponsibility
Incompatibility
In-law problems
Number of confirmed wives to be unfaithful.
8-10 out of 100
Children in what period are more affected after separation?
latency period
Permits spouses to live separately but the marital bobds are severed so neither spouses may remarry.
Legal separation
Voids the marriage & considers it not to have taken place at all.
Annulment
Resorted to by some upper class individuals who would like to formalize an existing extramarital relationship
Divorce abroad
If one of the parties is a foreigner, who had validly obtained a divorce abroad, enabling him or her to remarry, will the Filipino spouse be able to remarry under Phil law?
YES
Resorted by the bulk of troubled couples in the Philippines.
Abandonment/desertion
Child who is abandoned may:
Express desire to be exact opposite of absent parent
May idealize absent parent
Develop poor self-esteem
Difficulty expressing emotions
The dramatic and highly emotional responses are present in this phase of separation:
First, acute phase
When the parents begin to disengage from each other’s lives & move into new relationships
Transitional phase
Establishment of a relatively stable single or remarried household
Third phase of separation
Give the ages of the ffg: Preschool Early latency Later latency Adolescent
Preschool: ages 3-5
Early latency: ages 5-8
Later latency: ages 8&1/2-12
Adolescent: ages 12-18
They are likely to regress following one parent’s departire from home.
Preschool
Usually the most recent developmental achievement upon departure of a parent.
Regression
Sleep disturbances are common & an intense yearning for the departed parent.
Preschool
They grieve openly for the departed parent and have terrifying fantasy of replacement.
Early latency children (5-8)
Fierce anger at one or both parents, they see one as good and one as bad qnd they grieve over loss of their intact world.
Later latency
There is acute depression accompanied by suicidal preoccupation and direct violent attacks on custodial parents.
Adolescents
They identify with one parent and do battle against the other but also capable of considerable compassion for their parents’ weaknesses.
Adolescents
True or false: Marital turmoil has greater impact on girls than boys.
FALSE (greater on boys)
Reflect the quality of life & parent-child relationships w/in postseparation or remarried.
Ongoing effects
Reflects the concerns associated w/ the possibility of repeating failure of relationship bet man & woman.
Delayed effects
The need for the father increases in both boys & girls.
Adolescence
Represent a major addition to the expectable tasks of childhood & adolescence.
Psychological tasks
The task for acknowledging the reality of the marital rupture is ranked:
1st
These need to be addressed immediately at the time of separation. Should optimally be resolved within the 1st year.
Tasks 1 & 2
Disengaging for parental conflict & distress & resuming customary pursuits.
Task 2
What is task 3 in the psychological tasks?
The resolution of losses.
Resolving anger and self-blame is what psycholigical task?
Task 4
What tasks will be worked & reworked by the child over many years?
Tasks 3, 4, 5
What is psychological task 5?
Accepting the permanence of the separation
The salient tasks at adolescence.
Tasks 3 4 5 6
Achieving realistic hope regarding relationships is task __.
Task 6
The problems related to absence of father:
Problems related to gender identity, discipline, academic perfornance in school and health risk behavior
It is the root of many social ills
Follow up children who were assessed when they were 6 & 7 yrs old and did not show effect on their school readiness.
Henry Ricciuti
Positive effects of single parenting:
Developing strong bonds Experiencing community Shared responsibilities Handling conflict & disappointment Seeing real life, balanced priorities
True or false: Single parenting is neither positive or negative.
TRUE (it only becomes negative if parent abandons his responsibility)
