2nd week Flashcards
is the period in a couple’s relationship which precedes their engugement and marriage.
• a test of compatibility between the two persons
> is an opportunity to know the background of each other, including the family where each one belongs
COURTSHIP
In the courting stage, it is traditionally the man who has to prove his true intentions to the woman.
• He has to bring _____ or _____ for the parents and something special for the woman, such as ______
pasalubong, gifts
flowers or gifts.
the man also has to do the uct of __________
• He will also serenade the woman during the night, sometimes with the aid of his friends as backup singers or supporters
paninilbihan or servitude.
serenading (harana)
> “to be in front of the woman’s house”
TAPAT
llocos Region
Serenading with Tagalog love songs accompanied by a guitar
> Doing household chores
> Pay respect to the woman’s parents by saying “Mano po.”
Batangas
GESTURES & ACTIONS
Way of serenading
> Love letters (sent through a trusted friend or relative of the woman)
• Presents
• Love potions
Cebu
BALAK
Send a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of the courted woman for inspection.
• Accepting the weapon is equivalent to accepting the man’s romantic intention and advances.
Bagobos of Mindanao
A suitor can court through the use of cellphones, the internet, and social media.
> This courtship practice is alarming.
• You should be careful and responsible. for everything you post in social media.
Courtship Practices at the Age of Technology
Importance of Courtship?
It gives a person time to know better the character and background of someone being considered as one’s future lifetime partner.
> It gives time to understand one another and determine if you can get-along with minimal conflicts.
Importance of Courtship?
reveals one’s interests, likes and dislikes, limitations, and aspirations in life.
> It allows couples to decide whether they are ready to be committed
Importance of Courtship?
> It develops security and establishes respect for each other.
It develops understanding and acceptance.
It allows couples to determine and focus on what to expect in marriage
> is an act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity, together as a couple.
• the couple can now be seen in public together, but still with some companions or a chaperone.
DATING
Types of Dating?
> Standard Date -
Double Date -
Group Date -
involves two people
Standard Date
two couples go on a date at the same time and place
Double Date
where any number of couples can enjoy a date
Group Date -
Importance of Dating?
> Strengthen the relationship
Spend quality time with each other
Observe the other person’s character
Know one unother better
Risk of Dating
> Date rape
Use of illegal drugs
Early and unwanted pregnancy
Dating Guidelines?
> Inform your parents about the background information of the person whom you are going to have a date.
Arrange for transportation
• Tell your parents about your dating plans:
• Follow the curfew set by your parents or by your date’s parents.
• Establish a code of conduct that both you and your date will follow.
This is a way for the man to seek the blessing and permission of the parents of the woman and to show that he is now ready to get married and start a family
Pamanhikan
Before, dowry was given by the male to the female’s parents
When both parties already come to an agreement, an engagement ring is given and the couple is known as engaged to be married
Pamanhilan
is a ceremony that unites the couple as one.
> It has the blessings of families of both the bride and the groom, and most especially, of God.
Marriage
provides intimacy und companionship.
> It serves as a framework in building a family.
Marriage
Factors to Consider in Choosing a Lifetime Partner
Good character
> God-fearing
> Responsible and honest
> Hardworking and industrious
> Respectful and compassionate
