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Question 1

Technique #31 The Jawsmith’s Jive

Answer 1

Read from different speaker’s books and explore various sayings, quotes, wisdom, jokes that could range for a diverse audience - prioritise relevance and humor

Question 2

Technique #32 Call a Spade a Spade

Answer 2

Don’t hide behind euphemisms, say things as they are

Question 3

Technique #33 Trash the Teasing

Answer 3

Never make a joke at someone else’s expense

Question 4

Technique #34 It’s the Receiver’s Ball

Answer 4

When delivering news, keep in mind the receiver, change mood, tone and actions accordingly

Question 5

Technique #35 The Broken Record

Answer 5

When questioned about an uncomfortable subject, repeat the same answer in precisely the same tone of voice

Question 6

Technique #36 Big Shots Don’t Slobber

Answer 6

Be cool and don’t worry about compliments - if needs be, be polite compliment a recent accomplishment - if there is someone with them, involve them in the conversation.

Question 7

Technique #37 Never the Naked Thank You

Answer 7

Always add something to the thank you be more specific

Question 8

Technique #38 Scramble Therapy

Answer 8

Learn a new skill once a month - learn and incorporate the jargon

Question 9

Technique #39 Learn a Little Jobbledygook

Answer 9

Learn different jargon for other professions. Ask an experienced friend to teach a few opening questions

Question 10

Technique #40 Baring Their Hot Button

Answer 10

Find out the biggest issues and events in the fields and professions of attendants.

Question 11

Technique #41 Read Their Rags

Answer 11

Read monthly magazines and other materials that keep up to date with their interests

Question 12

Technique #42 Clear “Customs”

Answer 12

Read the do’s and dont’s what’s allowed and what’s not

Question 13

Technique #43 Bluffing for Bargains

Answer 13

Learn from vendors what you want and learn how to bargain

Question 14

Technique #44 Be a Copyclass

Answer 14

Watch people and match there movements - imitate the style (large, small, quick etc)

Question 15

Technique #45 Echoing

Answer 15

Echo and use the words that the other person is using.

Question 16

Technique #46 Potent Imaging

Answer 16

Use language techniques, metaphors, analogies that relate to the listeners interests

Question 17

Technique #47 Employ Empathizers

Answer 17

Don’t say um or ah, be specific and vocalise complete sentences to show your understanding. E.g. “I see what you mean”.

Question 18

Technique #48 Anatomically Correct Empathizers

Answer 18

Communicate using empathisers that match the listeners senses - visual learners = visual empathisers.

Question 19

Technique #49 The Premature WE

Answer 19

Start early conversations by saying: “we”, “us”, “our” etc.

Question 20

Technique #50 Instant History

Answer 20

Make some reference to a memorable and funny moment during.a first experience with that person

Question 21

Technique #51 Grapevine Glory

Answer 21

Give someone a compliment through telling someone close to her that will let her know

Question 22

Technique #52 Carrier Pigeon Kudos

Answer 22

Be a messenger of compliments that you hear from others - tell someone the compliment that you hear

Question 23

Technique #53 Implied Magnificence

Answer 23

Throw some comments into your conversation that presuppose something positive about the listener

Question 24

Technique #54 Accidental Adulation

Answer 24

Give an undercover compliment - sneak a reference to the ability of the other person

Question 25

Technique #55 Killer Compliment

Answer 25

Search for one attractive, specific, and unique quality he or she has. At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.

Question 26

Technique #56 Little Strokes

Answer 26

Let others know how much you appreciate them by congratulating them with verbal encouragement like “Nice job!” “Well done!” “Cool!”

Question 27

Technique #57 The Knee-Jerk “Wow!”

Answer 27

Like a knee-jerk reaction say, “You were terrific!” Don’t worry that they won’t believe you. The euphoria of the moment has a strangely numbing effect on the achiever’s objective judgment.

Question 28

Technique #58 Boomeranging

Answer 28

Let compliments boomerang right back to the giver. Like the French, quickly murmur something that expresses “That’s very kind of you.”

Question 29

Technique #59 The Tombstone Game

Answer 29

Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Chisel it into your memory but don’t mention it again.

Then, when the moment is right to say “I appreciate you” or “I love you,” fill the blanks with the very words they gave you weeks earlier.

Question 30

Technique #60 Talking Gestures

Answer 30

When talking on the phone, turn your smiles into sound, your nods into noise, and all your gestures into something your listener can hear. You must replace your gestures with talk