Week 7- Deepening the relationship: Resistance, ruptures, repairs, summarising

Question 1

The inevitability of running into ‘resistance’

Answer 1

A game to resolve the issue

Question 2

Transference and Countertransference

Answer 2

Transference is when a client treats you as a significant person of their past.

Countertransference is when the counsellor reciprocates this and acts as the significant person of their past. Mother or father, etc.

Both are inevitable, but preventable. For it is debilitating for the relationship to be coloured with past experiences.

Question 3

Resistance defined

Answer 3

The apparent lack of cooperation and motivation in the therapeutic relationship

Question 4

‘Here and now’

Answer 4

The focus of counselling a person must be on what is happening within the person now. If the intervention is to be optimally therapuetic

Question 5

Negative feelings

Answer 5

-Learns early that expression of negative emotions is not ideal despite it being the appropriate response.

-Suppression of such emotions is found to lead to depression, anxiety and stress.

Question 6

Modelling

Answer 6

A skilled counsellor will model adaptive and constructive ways of relating.

Question 7

Do not suppress emotions in the counselling room?

Answer 7

However, wait to express these emotions undersupervision

Question 8

Feedback

Answer 8

Information to the client on how a behaviour is perceived (maybe noted from an emotion the counsellor felt talking to them).

Question 9

I statements are here and now, objective and factual. You don’t have to like the individual but you must be accepting. So, is this I statement objective enough you would say it to anyone you like or dislike?

Question 10

Projection

Answer 10

Projecting characteristics, otherwise seeking specific characteristics to validate a narrative.

Question 11

Feedback and Modelling appropriate behaviour in clients…

Answer 11

Transference, Countertransference, Projection,

Question 12

Solution to resistance

Answer 12

The clients may themselves not be aware of what is happening, best to point it out by… ‘I noticed that you…’

Question 13

Method step to resistance

Answer 13

1. Return the focus to sender. Help a person focus on their own behvaiour, inner feelings and thoughts.
2. Help them learn to deal with their own. Eg owning negative feelings.
3. Give acceptable constructive feedback
4. Help a person deal with the human tendency to project.
5. Help a person to deal with their own resistance.

Question 14

Summarising

Question 15

Matching Language and metaphor- skill of NeuroLinguistic Programming (Bandler & Grinder)

Answer 15

Every person has a unique experience.

Also people can use different modes of attaining experiences , and also use it to think with. We must match by using similar language and metaphors

Question 16

The feeling (kinaesthetic) mode of awareness

Answer 16

I sense your discomfort. It feels good. You touched a raw nerve

Question 17

The seeing (visual) mode of awareness

Answer 17

I see what you mean

Question 18

The hearing (auditory) mode of awareness

Answer 18

I hear what you are saying

Question 19

Extending metaphors

Answer 19

You will notice clients use particular metaphors and it is important to match this language. However, do not match undesirable ; most common example is aggressive however, inappropriate self-sabotages should be flipped.