Week 7 Flashcards
Definition of family
One definition provided by Anderson and Sabatelli describes family as a complex structure consisting of an
interdependent group of individuals who:
Have a shared sense of history
Experience some degree of emotional bonding
Devise strategies to meet the needs of individual family members and the group as a whole
History of Family Counselling
Emerged in 1950s after the Second World War as a new way of dealing with human problems, previously addressed by individual or group psychotherapy
Based on a new conceptualisation of how problems come to exist, rather than traditional view of childhood experiences
Based on the belief that problems are related to current interactions taking place between individuals in the family
and the way the family interacts with other system
Pioneers in family counselling
Gregory Bateson Carl Whitaker Murray Bowen Jay Haley Virginnia Satir - lecturers fav Salvador Minuchin Peggy Papp John Gottman Michael White - also she liked him
Stages of Development
Leaving home – single young adults The joining of families through marriage – the new couple Families with young children Families with adolescents Launching children and moving on Families in later life
Stressors Impacting on Families
Uncoupling through separation or divorce
Blending biological siblings with half-biological or non-biological siblings
Having children at home longer, leave home, or return home
Dealing with financial pressures
Dealing with potential losses, such as miscarriage, death of offspring, death of partner, death of family members or
grandparents
Separation from children (access arrangements)
Issues of abuse and government intervention
Post-separation and post-divorce contact
Developing your own model of family therapy
Belief in or commitment to a particular method of treatment has a significant influence on treatment outcome
Best methods are those:
◦Intended or believed to be therapeutic
◦Delivered with a cogent rationale
◦Acceptable to the client
Find a model of family therapy that you think is consistent with your values and temperament
Structural family therapy
Developed by Salvador Minuchin
Problems reside within the family structure (not necessarily caused by it)
Children’s problems often a result of marital distress (problem projected onto child)
What roles do family members play?
What are the subsystems?
What are the patterns of relating, how are they sustaining
the problem?
Boundaries – diffuse (too much interference) too rigid (too little support) resulting in enmeshment or disengagement
Individuation of family members
Communications / humanistic
Developed by Virginia Satir
Triads/triangulation (comes from a place of bringing in someone else to relieve tension (psych, friend) but if one parent brings in a child, creates a split)
Subsystems
Boundaries
Styles and meaning of communication
Family rules and roles (each fam has their own)
Intergenerational and multigenerational issues (what’s been experienced generations back come up. Because this is the way parents attach and how those children attach and so on)
Enhancing self esteem and strengthening communication
Narrative therapy
Narratives or stories are socially constructed and effect our perceptions and predictions
Externalising and investigate the problem
Deconstruct the problem saturated story
Re-author and thicken an alternative story
‘News of difference’ and ‘unique outcomes’
Focus on and amplify evidence of an alternative story
Use less problem saturated language
Clients change the view they have of themselves and access hidden resources
Solution focused therapy
Steve de Shazer & Insoo Kim Berg
Problems are socially constructed and shaped by language
Strengths-based and focused on solutions
Looking for exceptions
Scaling questions (“where are you on a scale of 10 is life is perfect and 1 is pointless, want to give up)
Miracle question (If a mircale happens over night and everything is as you want it, what are you all going to be doing?)
Therapist is coach or cheerleader (coaching them along, talking about when change occurs)
Assume client is expert
Use language that presupposes change
From second sessions: E (elicit) A (amplify) R (reflect) S (start process again)
Good with adolescents too cause gives them a sense of agency.
Family Systems Theory
Systems theory forms the basis for several key approaches to family and relationship counselling.
Each approach focuses attention of different aspects of family and relationship functioning
Family Systems theory suggests that individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another - families are
systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the system
Look at their blueprint for life, their family
A family as a system (mobile)
To understand this better, consider the example of a mobile.
When you move any one piece of a mobile, all the other pieces move too. They do not exist in isolation from one
another, and movement in one part of the system will affect all the other parts of the system.
Terms from Family Systems Theory
Terms from Family Systems Theory
Family Roles Family Rules Homeostasis/Equilibrium Tasks Boundaries
Family Roles
What is expected of each family member
◦The most basic types of roles are father, mother, aunt,
daughter, son, grandmother, etc.
What is expected from people in each of these
roles?
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Other roles: Clown; Peacemaker; ‘Glue’
(keeping the family together); Responsible one;
Emotional one; Crazy one; Caring one
Family Rules
Family Rules are rules about how the family
operates; these rules are often unspoken. For
example…
What happens with anger?
How do family members express affection?
How do decisions get made?
What are the rules for interacting with parents – how much can they argue?
Can family members talk to people outside the family about their problems?
Families tend to develop patterns of behaviour and communication, which become unspoken
rules.
Different families do these things differently from one another
What are the rules in your family?
Homeostasis (Equilibrium)
Systems develop typical ways of being which are reliable and predictable.
Roles and rules are examples of this
Within a system there is a push to continue functioning as things have always been
Consider the example of the mobile – one part moves, then all parts move. If you let go of that one part, the other parts will pull back to the way they were before that one part moved
This tendency of systems to keep doing things as
they have been done is known as homeostasis or the system’s equilibrium
Feedback
A mechanism of controlling interactions of the system. Feedback loops create and maintain interactions
and behaviours
Negative feedback attempts to maintain homeostasis by introducing self correcting information
Positive feedback attempts to bring about further change to the system
Tasks
First order tasks – family uses rules and strategies to accomplish these tasks: ◦Identity tasks ◦Regulate boundaries ◦Create emotional climate ◦Devise strategies to maintain household
Second order tasks – when rules and strategies require modification
◦Problem solving
◦Changing the rules
Second order tasks (behaviour based) involve modification of family customs, strategies and rules to change the system
“Effective families recalibrate or fine tune the ways in which they manage their first-order tasks in response to the changing developmental and contextual realities of
the family system” (Anderson & Sabatelli, 2007, p 12)
Flexibility
Flexibility
Flexibility and adaptability are required by families as they make adjustments to the strategies and rules
Need for change may arise from inside the family, through developmental changes, or external to the family as new information comes from outside sources, such as the school
Family may attempt to remain the same, using morphostasis, or be amenable to change using
morphogenesis
Case study
Gerald and Emma have just had their first
baby, who is now 3 months old, and was born
on her due date and healthy. While they both
adore their new daughter, they are finding
that stress on their relationship has increased
to the point that they are wondering if they
are “going to make it”. They enlist the help of
a family counsellor.
Throughout the counselling session Gerald
talks about how he wants things to be the
same as they were before their daughter
arrived. He expresses frustration at the lack
of time he and Emma have together and the
fact that she is always tired now.
Emma explains that there have been a lot of changes
since their daughter was born. She left paid
employment, finalised the nursery in her last weeks of
pregnancy, gave birth and recovered from a long
labour, and adjusted to lack of sleep. Gerald generally
is not affected by lack of sleep as Emma looks after
their daughter during the night, and is trying to
establish a rhythm for her parenting and other
activities. Although she appreciates the impact the
changes have had on Gerald, she says she needs
him to support her in the change process she faces.
On further discussion, the counsellor concuded that
Gerald is in a process of morphostasis (wants things
to stay the same) and Emma is in a process of
morphogenesis (adjusting to changes).
The counsellor helps them to empathise with each
other about the amount of change a new baby brings
to a family, the impact these changes have had on
each of them and the ways in which they seem to be
responding
Through discussion, the counsellor and the couple
agree that this is a major change period and both
need to balance the need to adjust to the change with
keeping the important features of their relationship
that they enjoyed before their daughter’s arrival.
They decide on one night a week where they would
share a meal and relax after their daughter was in
bed. They also decided that Emma needed some
time without their daughter so she could look after
herself. It was agreed that at a time suitable to both
of them, Gerald would be responsible for caring for
their daughter, and Emma would have some time for
herself
Sub systems
Various smaller units or subsystems together for the larger family system
Subsystems work together and separately to create organisational complexity of family structure
Subsystems may include:
◦Subsystems for each individual family member
◦Subsystems of gender
◦Subsystems for each generation
Boundaries and hierarchies
Boundaries are physical or emotional barriers that protect and enhance the integrity of individuals, subsystems
and families
External boundaries demarcate individuals, subsystems and families from outside environment
Internal boundaries regulate flow of information between and within family subsystems
Clear boundaries allow subsystems to carry out their functions supported by effective communication and respect for autonomy
Diffused or enmeshed boundaries allow members of other subsystems into subsystem – communication generally intense, characterised by extreme concern, over-involvement, over-protection, inappropriate interference and intrusion
Rigid boundaries mean disengaged subsystems with poor communication. Members disconnected and isolated from each other, with
little involvement in each other’s lives
Alliances – joining of two members, such as mother and child to perform task Coalitions – joining of two members against a third Triangulation – process of including a third person into a two-person conflict
Family Patterns
Often the roles that various family members take on are related to one another.
Distancer/Pursuer: In a relationship, there may be one person (the pursuer) who seeks more closeness with their partner, while the partner (the distancer) wants more space or independence
This could occur in the marital relationship but might also occur in the parent-child relationship
Distancer-Pursuer Dyad
& Circular Causality
As the distancer and pursuer act out their
roles within the relationship, a cycle
develops
◦The pursuer pushes for closeness while the distancer pulls back.
◦The pursuer then feels even more of a need for connection and so pushes even harder for connection.
◦As a result, the distancer feels smothered and pulls away even more.
◦So develops the cycle.
