Unit 4

Question 1

Definition of the self

Answer 1

A multidimensional process that involves forming and acting from social perspectives that arise and evolve in communication with others and ourselves. System of perspectives that is formed and changes based on our interactions.

Question 2

Characteristics of the self

Answer 2

Physical self, emotional self, cognitive self, social self, professional self. It is multidimensional and it is not innate. How society sees us and how important people in life see us impact self.

Question 3

Six styles of love

Answer 3

Agape, eros, lupus, mania pragma, and storge.

Question 4

Agape

Answer 4

Selfless kind of love in which a beloved’s happiness is more important than one’s own. Agapic lovers are generous, unselfish, and devoted.

Question 5

Eros

Answer 5

Style of loving that is passionate, intense, and fast moving. Not confined to sexual passion, eros may be expressed in spiritual, intellectual, or emotional ways.

Question 6

Ludus

Answer 6

Playful, sometimes manipulative style of loving. For ludic lovers, love is a challenge, a puzzle, a game to be relished but not to lead to commitment.

Question 7

Mania

Answer 7

Unsettling style of loving marked by emotional extremes. Manic lovers often are insecure about their value and their partners’ commitment.

Question 8

Pragma

Answer 8

Pragmatic and goal-oriented style of loving. Pragmas rely on reason and practical considerations when initially selecting people to love.

Question 9

Storge

Answer 9

Comfortable, “best friends” kind of love that grows gradually to create a stable, even-keeled companionship.

Question 10

Definition of relational dialectics

Answer 10

Opposing and continuous tensions that are normal in all close relationships.

Question 11

Autonomy/connection

Answer 11

The desires to be separate, on the one hand, and to be connected, on the other.

Question 12

Novelty/predictability

Answer 12

Reflects tension between the desire for familiar routines and the desire for novelty.

Question 13

Openness/closedness

Answer 13

The desire for openness in tension with the desire for privacy.

Question 14

4 ways dialectics are managed

Answer 14

Neutralization, separation, segmentation, and reframing.

Question 15

Neutralization

Answer 15

Balancing or finding a compromise between two dialectical poles.

Question 16

Separation

Answer 16

Way of managing in which friends or romantic partners assign one pole of a dialectic to certain spheres of activities or topics and assign the contradictory dialectical pole to distinct spheres of activities or topics.

Question 17

Segmentation

Answer 17

Meet one dialectical need while ignoring or not satisfying the contradictory dialectical need.

Question 18

Reframing

Answer 18

Transcends the apparent contradiction between two dialectical poles and reinterprets them as not in tension.

Question 19

Turning points

Answer 19

Particular experiences and events that cause relationships to become more or less intimate.