The Myths Of Happiness - Lyobomirsky Flashcards
Instead of focusing being rich with money, focus on being rich with ____.
When I had my internet business, I was rich in time that many with more money would envy - set my own schedule, surf, ski and workout when I wanted, never missed my kids games.
Time.
To feel gratitude, remember a time in your life that was ___.
For example, when I was single, or didn’t have abundant money.
Worse.
We have a degree of control over the way we remember our own personal story, by what we ____.
Emphasize
Don’t fall for the ____ of how the future thing could be. Be calm and realistic.
For example, living in San Clemente won’t be Nirvana. It will make it more convenient to surf more.
Fantasy
The difference between intrinsic and extrinsic goals is important.
Intrinsic goals include feeling competent, variety, connecting with others, personal growth, and ____ (making a difference).
Extrinsic goals include becoming rich, famous, powerful, beautiful or popular.
Contribution.
Abraham Maslow suggested choose ____ over security.
Growth
My happiness doesn’t depend on my ____.
It’s more about how much I can give to others.
Success.
Part of the reason my internet marketing business had only mediocre success was because I focused too much on ____ goals (making money) and not enough on _____ goals (becoming a subject matter expert, truly helping people).
Extrinsic. Intrinsic.
And it’s tough to focus on intrinsic goals when I’ve got bills to pay. Now that’s not the case.
Avoid the “I’ll be happy ____ mentality”
When.
Instead, appreciate and savor now.
Is Death there to teach us to appreciate the ___ we are given?
Life
If we lived forever, would we begin to take life for granted?
Perhaps in another realm we do live forever, but we come here to learn the lesson to appreciate life.
Spend your money on ____ rather than posessions.
Experiences.
And the best things in life aren’t things.
And the best thins in life are free.
One way to boost happiness is to get good at squeezing ____ out of the things in which I invest my money.
Experiences.
Goofing around on my soft top surboard is one example.
