NVC

Question 1

NVC focuses on 2 questions:

1. What’s a____ in us?
2. What can we do to make life more w____?

Answer 1

Alive

Wonderful

Question 2

The first step is ___-_____ so that my response can be authentically warm.

Answer 2

Self Empathy

Question 3

One core need I have is to feel that I _____. In other words, s______, wanting autonomy and choice and respect.

Answer 3

Matter

Significance

Question 4

Sometimes two people in conflict actually have the same unmet ____.
That’s ironic.
I can always ask him if he’s feeling the need that I’m feeling, often the need to _____.

Answer 4

Need.

Matter.

Question 5

When giving empathy, always __ a question. Don’t assume.
For example:
“Are you feeling frustrated because you want to feel like your time ____?”.

Answer 5

Ask

Matters

Question 6

First empathy for ____, then empathy for _____. Then honesty and r______.

Answer 6

Myself
Them
Request

Question 7

When my need for s________ gets stimulated, say “yeah! My need for signficance is popping up and its’ the s___ one he has!”
Everyone wants respect and to matter.
Not “shit, my need for significance came up.”

Answer 7

Signficance

Same

Question 8

When my empathy has a harsh tone, I’m still in my s___.
Actual empathy sounds different, it’s w____er.
Imagine the person feeling overwhelmed.

Answer 8

Shoes

Warmer

Question 9

Name the steps:
I”m wondering if I “came off” like I’m not valuing your time (this is ____),
really i just need the prices on the bikes (this is ___)

Answer 9

Empathy

Request

Question 10

With a big talker:
I”m not as i____ as I want to be in what you’re s___,
You cool if we talk about something e___?”

Answer 10

Interested
Saying
Else

Question 11

With a big talker 2:

“I want to continue e______ this conversation, would it be okay if we ____ about something else?

Answer 11

Enjoying

Talked

Question 12

The ace in the whole is telling the t_____ by focusing on what you do w____.

For example,
“I want b___ of us to really enjoy this conversion.”
“I want to keep e____ your company.”
“I want to stay e____ed with what you’re saying.”

Answer 12

Truth
Want

For example,
“I want BOTH of us to really enjoy this conversion.”
“I want to keep ENJOYING your company.”
“I want to stay ENGAGED with what you’re saying.”

Question 13

Must ask the question at the speed of l___ - otherwise the other person will feel d___ on.

For example:

“Would that be okay?”

Almost any kind of ____ will work. Question is b____ to connection.

Answer 13

Light
Dumped
Question
Bridge

Question 14

I can always clean up an awkward situation by saying “Was I c____?”

Answer 14

Clumbsy

Question 15

People who talk more than I’d like are often seeking c_______, and yet I’m experiencing the o____, so they d_____ to know.

Answer 15

Connection
Opposite
Deserve

Question 16

Big Talker 3:

“I like you and I want to keep liking you. I’m wondering if you would be w_____ to use less words?”

99% of people talk about stuff I’m not i______ in more than I’d like

Answer 16

Willing

Interested

Question 17

Replace “I have to” with “I c___ to”

Answer 17

Choose

Question 18

Replace “I should” with “I m____”

Answer 18

Might