Stoicism 101 Flashcards
Happiness is ______ health and well _____.
mental
being
Discipline your eating habits: no more sugar! If Marcus Aurelius can sleep on the floor, you can give up sugar… once and for all. Just think it through. SOS = Stay Out of Stores. Grocery shop AFTER eating, NOT before. Use the replacement idea to form a new habit instead of trying to break a bad habit. My relationship with my Daimon, my conscience, is my most important relationship. I am the best friend of my Daimon, my soul. Forgive yourself right now! You are getting stronger and stronger.
My inner me is my inner ____
Daimon
My me that is watching me.
My healing soul.
My conscience.
Wisdom is the _____ of life: The ____ ___ work.
goal
way
things
Live congruent with time honored principles.
What can I change, what can I NOT change?
Reflect on the three golden questions:
What works? Why it does? How to do it?
Justice is a ______ and _____ balance.
Living with ______.
fair
equal
integrity
Integrity is the moral courage to make my decisions based on my knowledge of right and wrong.
Fortitude is ______ with hardship, with difficulty.
courage
Press on in spite of obstacles.
Courage enables and vitalizes all other virtues.
Fortitude with courage is to move in spite of fear.
Temperance is not too ____ not too ____, in Swedish it’s ______
much
little
lagom!
Self-restraint. Practice self-restraint with food, sweets, candy, etc. You can do this! Remind yourself.
Lagom means “just the right amount”. The word can be variously translated as “in moderation”, “in balance”, “perfect-simple”, and “suitable” (in matter of amounts).
Get yourself into action, ____ into the ____.
lean
battle
No. 1 Rule of Stoicism is _____ .
Self-control, self-discipline. No matter what.
Some things are in your control.
Some things are not in your control.
Care only about what is in your control.
- live with virtue
- control your thoughts
- control your behaviors
- love mercy
- do justly
- walk humbly with your God.
If something happens to you, choose how to think, react and feel about it. Pause for a mindful moment. Choose to think about it with your values and virtue. As you do this, you will feel a certain way: Mindfully dispute irrational or inaccurate thoughts. Choose the most empowered response.
Practice self-control all the time!
Tranquility is to_____ your way then ___ your way.
know
walk
Play your given role well:
Where ere thou art, act well thy part.
- Be congruent with your higher self, your values.
- Be what you wish to seem.
- Walk your path: steeped in virtue.
- Play as powerful and fully as you can.
Stay grounded: calm, confident, and tranquil.
Reserve Clause: focus on your _____.
Process
Do your best, forget the rest. Process is a way to discipline yourself, ground yourself. I can do this but it will be hard. Nothing is certain. An archer is responsible for shooting the arrow straight. An archer is Not responsible for hitting the target (wind, quality of feathers, wood, bow string strength, etc. could impact the flight of the arrow).
- Have goals but focus on Process.
- Create a smart step by step (SBS) Process.
- Let go of your attachment to outcomes focus on Process.
The Art of Acquiescence: It’s not a good idea to argue with ___, the universe, or ____: You will lose.
God
reality
The stoic idea is to be energized, yet tranquil and not attached: loving what is.
You can only control your thoughts and behavior and thereby influence the next moment but you cannot control it.
You can be a good influence on others, you cannot control them. They are free agents just like you are. Free to choose: right over wrong, virtue over vice, thankfulness over despair. You choose. You influence. That’s it, that’s all you can do.
Equanimity: When life hits you, how _____ do you get ____ again?
fast
up
What knocks you down?
How long does it take you to get up again?
Practice what helps you find your balance.
OMMS – obstacles make me stronger.
Our body’s, our minds, adapt with pressure – within reason.
I don’t care about _____ things.
trivial
I care deeply about living a virtuous life.
I am mindful and pay attention.
Note: If your attention is on the world around you, you will not be in touch with your Daimon.
Why care what people think of you?
- You know your virtuous intentions.
- That’s what counts… your intentions.
- Build potential with focused virtue.
My ideal Sage is ____ _____.
Jesus Christ
What makes him special?
Jesus inspires me.
What would Jesus do?
Retreat to _____ and _____ .
pause
reflect
What’s going on now?
Maybe its time to hit your journal.
Dismiss cravings: jump to journal.
The purpose of these _____ is to give myself time to _____ and ____ before returning to the fray of everyday life.
exercises
repair
heal
During my ____, I learn and reflect on fundamental ____ and ____ to help me make good, ____ decisions.
life
truths
principles
conscious
Dye your ___ with a new color.
soul
Color your soul with a good, smart attitude, your sentiments. Take time for wisdom, reasoning, and the benefits of virtue.
Remember and reflect on what you did ___.
right
Boost yourself.
Ponder and ____ over your ____.
pray flocks
Becoming _____ would be the highest version of yourself right now.
self-disciplined.
Practice elements of Stoicism every day.
I am a _____ and ____ person, well _____, and able to do what I need to do, when I need to do it.
kind
loving
disciplined
______ is to know your path, then to walk ___ ___, live well, and to stay in your lane.
Tranquility
your path
Energize your path: build Potential Energy as you go.
Reflect on fundamental truths:
eating, moving, sleeping.
Keep a journal.
Mental health is the ____ and ____to reflect on what I have ___ NOT on what I have ____ out on.
intention potential learned
missed
How could you train your mind to apply wisdom?
I would ____ wisdom.
love
I continue to study and to develop my mind.
Intense, hard-driving wisdom.
Emotional stability is a function of a trained mind.
Reflect on time honored truths.
Habit 1: Be ___.
Proactive
Creating or controlling a situation by causing something to happen rather than responding to it after it has happened.
Creating or controlling a situation by causing something to happen rather than responding to it after it has happened is being _____.
proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the ___ in ____.
End
Mind
Habit 3: Put ____ Things ___.
First
First
Habit 4: Think ____ ____.
Win
Win
Habit 5: Seek ____ to _____, Then to be _____.
First
Understand
Understood
Habit 6: _____
Synergize
To combine or coordinate the activity of (two or more agents) to produce a joint effect greater than the sum of their separate efforts.
Habit 7: Sharpen the ____.
Saw
These are principles of self-renewal. Reflect on Values, Principles, Drives, etc. Practice a new skill.
Fear is the ____ of dreams
thief
Positive coaching by Jim Thompson.
Success equals ____ over _____.
effort
time
S = E/T.
Strong effort within reasonable time, wins over weak motivation with procrastination.
I ____ my activities by understanding the _____ of my actions.
govern
consequences
ASK: ask, seek, knock
Understand the answer to “Why am I about to do this”?
Think it through.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
____ more of what you _____.
Give
want
Jesus reminds us that it is more blessed to give than to receive.
Ya gotta give to get! Earl Nightengale mentions if you want heat from a furnace, put in the wood first. Give to get. Build potential first, then spend it wisely.
I’m gonna ____ it.
make
From a U of Md classmate. He made a difference in my life. Endeavor to do the same in someone else’s life.
George Washington had ____ his ideals.
There was no ____ between what he _____ to and what he did.
internalized
gap
aspired
What you put ____ into gets bigger.
energy
Be careful where you spend your energy.
Keep your heart pure.
Understand your values.
I am an ____ manager.
energy
I continuously choose good energy for good outcomes. Smart values build useful energy. Pay attention to what is valuable to you. Something that will help get you where you want to go. Avoid stupid! Remember: begin with your end in mind (not someone else’s)!
Thou shalt ____ the Lord with all thy ____, with all thy ___, and with all thy ____.
love
heart
soul
mind
Take care of your inner daimon, your soul, live to be proud of yourself.
Faith is ____ on with ____ and well measured thought, believing that your ____ on is right.
hanging reason
hanging
Go as far as you can see.
When you get there, you will see farther. - Thomas Carlyle
____ is the key to happiness.
Forgiveness
Especially forgiving yourself for every stupid, immoral, dumb thing you have ever done. No way can you change your past. You must focus on your future, make smarter decisions, be more virtuous: Be someone else’s good example.
Practice living with virtue all day long!
If any of you lack ____, let him ask of ___, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
- New Testament, James 1:5
wisdom
God
I am sensitive and ____ to all people all the time. No Matter What.
kind
I choose to _____ 170 pounds.
weigh
I can do it and I am worth it.
I limit carbs to 20mg every day.
Walk several 15 minute segments every day.
Walk two 60 minute segments every weekend.
No matter what!
Plant the right _____.
Habitually feed it with strong ____ thought.
Always directed toward the ___ in mind.
seed
affirmative
end
This seed will grow into a mighty force, finding ways and means to overcome any obstacle.
When ____ and ____ for something are well understood, then the ___ ____ ____ ____ develops.
When your why to do it is well understood, your how to do it follows. You become excited in the right direction.
values reasons
why to do it
When you think ___ ___ ___ this, then and only then,
the ___ ___ ___ it develops.
I can DO
how to DO
Keep a positive attitude!
Maintain your thinking on how to be successful.
Focus on your process.
Engage and re-engage your reasoning faculty.
Look for ___.
Understand ____.
value
reasons
Well developed values are the seed corn for your next smart decision making harvest. Make time to increase the value potential in your soul. Values contained in your soul build and enable your ability to make smart decisions.
Make every step ____.
deliberate.
Think it through. Go over your homework, your algebra problems, your health classes, again and again. Look for flaws. Make corrections. Have questions? Get some tutoring or ask out loud in class.
What is the ____ version of _____ right now?
best
me
Stoics endeavor to always have their best possible self on display.
Divide externals into what I can _____ and what I cannot ____.
But, be a good influence.
control
control