Skills

Question 1

Opening Question 1

Answer 1

“What would you like to talk about today?”

Question 2

Opening Question 2

Answer 2

“What’s on your mind today?”

Question 3

General door opener

Answer 3

“Can you say more about that?”

“Can you tell me a little bit about that?”

Question 4

“Meaning” door opener

Answer 4

“What do you mean by that?”

“Can you tell me more about what you mean when you?”

Question 5

“How” door opener

Answer 5

“Can you tell me how?”
“Can you tell me about how so and so is for you?”
“How did this come about?”

Question 6

“Topic” door opener

Answer 6

“What’s happening in your life about…?”

Question 7

Basic emotions

Answer 7

Joy, 
sadness, 
anger, 
guilt/shame, 
fear, 
disgust, 
surprise, 
interest/excitement

Question 8

Basic reflection of feeling

Answer 8

You feel (emotion)
It must be (emotion) for you

Question 9

Full reflection of feeling

Answer 9

You feel (emotion) because (paraphrase of content)

Question 10

Stopping a rambling client

Answer 10

Let me stop you here for a second and see if I understand correctly.

I’m sorry to interrupt, but let me tell you what I know so far.

Question 11

Reflection of meaning

Answer 11

“you feel (specific emotion) because (of the personal meaning behind the situation that accounts for the feeling)”

Question 12

Focusing summary

Answer 12

“Let’s review what I know so far…”

Question 13

Signal summary

Answer 13

“Before we move on let me just summarize what I heard so far…”

Question 14

Thematic summary

Answer 14

“There seem to be a pattern…”

Question 15

Planning summary

Answer 15

“Let’s recap what we have talked about so far…It sounds like (a particular area) needs to be addressed (in a future session)”

Question 16

Competency box one

Answer 16

Join with the counselee

Question 17

Competency box two

Answer 17

Choose a direction by creating a goal

Opening question

Question 18

Competency box three

Answer 18

Problem definition and set goals

Change problem to a goal

Question 19

Competency box four

Answer 19

Use Presuppositional, future oriented questions in goal setting

Question 20

Box four video description question

Answer 20

If I had two video tapes, one of you when you are standing up to the influence of the problem, and another when the problem is getting the best of you, what would I notice about the one where you are in charge?

Question 21

Box four scaling question

Answer 21

On a scale from 0 to 10, where 10 means the best things could ever be, and 0 means the worst things have been, where would you say you are right now?

Question 22

Box four scaling follow-up question?

Answer 22

What would it take to get the problem from a “ “ to a “ “

Question 23

Coping question

Answer 23

What have you been doing to keep the problem from getting worse?

Question 24

Competency box 5

Answer 24

Exceptions

Question 25

Competency box 6

Answer 25

Questions that highlight pre-session change

Question 26

Competency box 7

Answer 26

Exceptions-Finding Questions

Question 27

Exception-finding question

Answer 27

“When is the problem less frequent (intense, severe)?”

“When is it (the problem) different in any way?”

Question 28

Creating Exceptions: Influence of the problem

Answer 28

In what ways has this problem had an effect on you/your life?

In what way has this problem kept you from moving forward in a way you would like?

Question 29

Creating exceptions: Influence of the person

Answer 29

“When have you been able to affect the (timing, length, intensity) of the problem?

Question 30

Competency box 8

Answer 30

Interpreting the Exceptions

Question 31

Making exceptions meaningful question

Answer 31

“How do you account for your ability to deal with the problem?”

“What was different about this situation compared to the one when the problem is more in charge?”

Question 32

Competency box 9

Answer 32

Keep change going

Question 33

Box 9 statement

Answer 33

Summarize session

You have identified a small step you can take over the next to move from a “ “ to a “ “