SJ New Era PCEP 2017 Flashcards
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Full Reference of article
Johnson, S. (2017) The new era of couple therapy - innovation indeed. In: Person-Centered and Experiential Psychotherapies.
What do we now know that love is?
a wired in survival code designed to keep those we can depend on close, so they come when we call
What do we now know that love is not?
a slightly psychotic mix of sex and sentiment
What is the simple fact that is the reason for SJ’s passionate allegiance to Attachment?
it never let’s her down, it gives a map - way of making sense of the drama
why do we need to have a map to romantic love?
so our interventions are ‘on target’
what has ‘our absolute, primary need for connection’ shaped?
our brain, our nervous system and our emotional realities
what is the map to the territory of romantic love?
attachment
what does attachment privilege?
emotion
essentially what is attachment theory?
a theory of affect regulation
what does our emotion tell us?
what we want and need
what does emotion prime us for?
to move to meet our needs
what kind of experiences do humanistic therapists believe is necessary to create change?
corrective emotional experience
the EFT therapist helping clients deepen emotion and share it openly with their partner significantly predicts what?
significant positive relationship changes at the end of therapy (Greenman and Johnson, 2013)
the essential element is that the therapist knows how to move into the emotional channel and ….
stay there WITH the client, discovering, ordering and distilling that client’s experience
what does attachment science stress is prime requirement for full attention to and engagement with experience?
a felt sense of emotional safety, of a ‘safe haven’
Attachment science tells us that connection with others is not only a source of safety to go to but also …
a ‘secure base’ - a continuing source of strength and growth throughout life
if we are securely attached what will our internal model of self be like?
we are acceptable and entitled to care and see others as trustworthy and able to be relied on
our species greatest strength is our ability to turn to others as a secure base, what is the term for this?
effective dependency
what pathologising terms have other couples therapy models used for needing others?
enmeshment, fusion, lack of individuation, co-dependency
a key part of any attachment-oriented therapy is to enable clients to use health effective dependency strategies - what does this look like?
accepting and acknowledging their attachment vulnerabilities and needs and ‘reaching’ for others in a way that evokes connection
The EFT therapist reflects and accepts clients need to push (Pursuer) or turn away (Withdrawer) and paints this picture as what?
both partners caught in a dance of aloneness and unfulfilled longing for connection
Attachment theory states that separation distress, disconnection from loved ones, induces what?
cascading panic, disorientation and pain in the mammalian brain
who has shown that the emotional pain of rejection is coded in the same part of the brain and in the same way as physical pain?
Naomi Eisenberger, Lieberman & Williams, 2003
Relationship distress is not about conflict per se or the result of differences between partners, instead it is about what?
disconnection and its impact on the mammalian brain