SJ New Era PCEP 2017 Flashcards
Full Reference of article
Johnson, S. (2017) The new era of couple therapy - innovation indeed. In: Person-Centered and Experiential Psychotherapies.
What do we now know that love is?
a wired in survival code designed to keep those we can depend on close, so they come when we call
What do we now know that love is not?
a slightly psychotic mix of sex and sentiment
What is the simple fact that is the reason for SJ’s passionate allegiance to Attachment?
it never let’s her down, it gives a map - way of making sense of the drama
why do we need to have a map to romantic love?
so our interventions are ‘on target’
what has ‘our absolute, primary need for connection’ shaped?
our brain, our nervous system and our emotional realities
what is the map to the territory of romantic love?
attachment
what does attachment privilege?
emotion
essentially what is attachment theory?
a theory of affect regulation
what does our emotion tell us?
what we want and need
what does emotion prime us for?
to move to meet our needs
what kind of experiences do humanistic therapists believe is necessary to create change?
corrective emotional experience
the EFT therapist helping clients deepen emotion and share it openly with their partner significantly predicts what?
significant positive relationship changes at the end of therapy (Greenman and Johnson, 2013)
the essential element is that the therapist knows how to move into the emotional channel and ….
stay there WITH the client, discovering, ordering and distilling that client’s experience
what does attachment science stress is prime requirement for full attention to and engagement with experience?
a felt sense of emotional safety, of a ‘safe haven’
Attachment science tells us that connection with others is not only a source of safety to go to but also …
a ‘secure base’ - a continuing source of strength and growth throughout life
if we are securely attached what will our internal model of self be like?
we are acceptable and entitled to care and see others as trustworthy and able to be relied on
our species greatest strength is our ability to turn to others as a secure base, what is the term for this?
effective dependency
what pathologising terms have other couples therapy models used for needing others?
enmeshment, fusion, lack of individuation, co-dependency
a key part of any attachment-oriented therapy is to enable clients to use health effective dependency strategies - what does this look like?
accepting and acknowledging their attachment vulnerabilities and needs and ‘reaching’ for others in a way that evokes connection
The EFT therapist reflects and accepts clients need to push (Pursuer) or turn away (Withdrawer) and paints this picture as what?
both partners caught in a dance of aloneness and unfulfilled longing for connection
Attachment theory states that separation distress, disconnection from loved ones, induces what?
cascading panic, disorientation and pain in the mammalian brain
who has shown that the emotional pain of rejection is coded in the same part of the brain and in the same way as physical pain?
Naomi Eisenberger, Lieberman & Williams, 2003
Relationship distress is not about conflict per se or the result of differences between partners, instead it is about what?
disconnection and its impact on the mammalian brain
what are defining features of secure attachment?
accessibility/openness to one’s own experience and to others and the ability to evoke attuned emotional ‘responsiveness’ from others and give it back
supporting someone to stay open to present experience, slow down and taste that experience without sorting it into judgements or categories, and grasp how we construct that experience creates what new ability?
to integrate life events
whose research shows that secure connection with others shapes not only more affective balance but also a more aware and coherent mind that is able to consider different alternatives, integrate different kinds of information and generally come up with more coherent narratives and views of self and other to capture multifaceted experiences?
Mikulincer and Shaver 2007
What does Sue Johnson call Stage 2 in her 2017 PCEP article?
restructuring attachment
What is Step One of the EFT Tango?
The therapist ‘reflects present process’ both within and between and invites fuller engagement, capturing the essence of what is happening in the session
What is Step Two of the EFT Tango?
The therapist ‘deepens a partner’s reality’
What is Step Three of the EFT Tango?
The therapist distils what has emerged in Step Two and shapes the partner’s new formulation of their emotions, the new emotional music, into ‘new steps in an enactment’
What is Step Four of the EFT Tango?
The therapist ‘processes the enactment’ - ‘What does it feel like to say this?’ and validates the risk taken and also asks if the partner can take in the message and validates any difficulty.
What is Step Five of the EFT Tango?
The therapist moves to a meta-level and reflects the process, ‘integrating the new dance’ that has occurred. Therapist gives the message ‘you are capable, competent and can make sense of your emotions and of love and loving’.
The therapist does the 5 steps of the EFT Tango again and again through therapy, what changes?
it gathers intensity
