Attachment Flashcards
Who first articulated attachment theory?
John Bowlby
According to attachment theory what is the relationship between secure dependence and autonomy?
they are complementary
Secure attachment offers us both a safe ….. and a secure ….
safe haven and secure base
What are the 3 key ways in which adult attachments tend to be different from parent-child attachment?
- adult love relationships are more representational and the smaller the child the more there is a need for physical contact
- adult relationships are more sexual
- adult relationships are more reciprocal
Who said ‘to be more fully connected is to be more fully oneself’.
Minuchin 1993
What is key in organising attachment behaviours and the way self and other are experienced in an intimate relationship?
emotion
What is the simple fact that is the reason for SJ’s passionate allegiance to Attachment?
SJ 2017 PCEP
it never let’s her down, it gives a map - way of making sense of the drama
What do we now know that love is not?
SJ 2017 PCEP
a slightly psychotic mix of sex and sentiment
What do we now know that love is?
SJ 2017 PCEP
a wired in survival code designed to keep those we can depend on close, so they come when we call
what has ‘our absolute, primary need for connection’ shaped?
SJ 2017 PCEP
our brain, our nervous system and our emotional realities
what is the map to the territory of romantic love?
SJ 2017 PCEP
attachment
what does attachment privilege?
SJ 2017 PCEP
emotion
essentially what is attachment theory?
SJ 2017 PCEP
a theory of affect regulation
what does attachment science stress is prime requirement for full attention to and engagement with experience?
SJ 2017 PCEP
a felt sense of emotional safety, of a ‘safe haven’
Attachment science tells us that connection with others is not only a source of safety to go to but also …
SJ 2017 PCEP
a ‘secure base’ - a continuing source of strength and growth throughout life
if we are securely attached what will our internal model of self be like?
SJ 2017 PCEP
we are acceptable and entitled to care and see others as trustworthy and able to be relied on
our species greatest strength is our ability to turn to others as a secure base, what is the term for this?
SJ 2017 PCEP
effective dependency
a key part of any attachment-oriented therapy is to enable clients to use health effective dependency strategies - what does this look like?
SJ 2017 PCEP
“accepting and acknowledging their attachment vulnerabilities and needs and ‘reaching’ for others in a way that evokes connection”
Attachment theory states that separation distress, disconnection from loved ones, induces what?
SJ 2017 PCEP
cascading panic, disorientation and pain in the mammalian brain
what are defining features of secure attachment?
SJ 2017 PCEP
accessibility/openness to one’s own experience and to others and the ability to evoke attuned emotional ‘responsiveness’ from others and give it back
supporting someone to stay open to present experience, slow down and taste that experience without sorting it into judgments or categories, and grasp how we construct that experience creates what new ability?
SJ 2017 PCEP
to integrate life events
whose research shows that secure connection with others shapes not only more affective balance but also a more aware and coherent mind that is able to consider different alternatives, integrate different kinds of information and generally come up with more coherent narratives and views of self and other to capture multifaceted experiences?
SJ 2017 PCEP
Mikulincer and Shaver 2007
What skill is being used when the therapist says ‘So, you could never turn to him and …’?
Seeding attachment
Creating Connection, SJ, 2004
At what point does the relationship become redefined as a secure base?
When the second partner joins the first in Step 7 - when they are both engaged in their own emotional experience and accessible it leads to new bonding events and a redefinition of the relationship as a secure base
Creating Connection, SJ, 2004
