Same person for rest of your life Flashcards
How to have sex with the same person for the rest of your life (The Guardian)
1/ Seeing someone all the time is not sexy after the first few months. It leads to something called habituation, which must be avoided at all costs if you want to continue having sex with your partner. Anticipation is a powerful aphrodisiac and distance lets erotic imagination back in, which leads to fantasy.
2/ The major stumbling block to sex in a long-term relationship is that you’re after two opposing things: security, reliability and then fire, passion, risk, danger, newness. The two camps are opposed.
3/ Try to get pockets of distance. Try to remain true to yourself. Socialise on your own sometimes. It’s distance that’s at the heart of keeping an erotic charge between you and your partner.
4/ Sharing good experiences is better than spending money on stuff for each other
5/ Learn the difference between wanting someone and neediness. The first is sexy, the latter isn’t.
6/ Don’t expect your partner to be everything to you. There’s an oft quoted phrase in relationship circles: “don’t expect your partner to do the job a whole village once did.”
7/ The secret of sex with the same person forever is letting go of “the myth of spontaneity”. Committed sex is willful, premeditated, focused and present.
Women have a better understanding than men that female orgasms are not primarily associated with vaginal sex.
A combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex is the “golden trio” for women when it comes to increasing their likelihood of reaching orgasm with a sexual partner.
Women are tremendously variable in how readily they orgasm and what makes one woman orgasm compared to another. Explicit and direct communication with one’s partner is key.
