Relationships and Families Flashcards

Question

Describe Christian beliefs against sex before marriage

Answer 1

* For many Christians sex expresses a deep, life long union that requires the commitment of marriage. * Paul warns against sexual immorality: "whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit?", if you have casual sex you are damaging your body and mind * They also believe that God ‘married’ Adam and Eve – he ‘blessed them’ before he told them to multiply so sex before marriage is wrong. * Some Catholics believe that God made sex for married love and it should only happen to make children. * You should be sexually pure before marriage, sex should not be for temporary pleasure * Wrong to use people for sex as it is irreponsible

Answer 2

* “Every sexual act must be within the framework of marriage,”

Answer 3

* Some liberal Christians, however, think that sex before marriage can be a valid expression of love for each other, particularly if the couple are intending marriage.

Answer 4

* Muslims believe sex is a gift from God that must be managed responsibly within marriage. *The Qur'an forbids sex before marriage; under Islamic law (Shari'ah), sex before marriage is considered a serious sin, like adultery and rape.

Answer 5

* Muslims believe sex is a gift from God that must be managed responsibly within marriage. *The Qur'an forbids sex before marriage; under Islamic law (Shari'ah), sex before marriage is considered a serious sin, like adultery and rape. * Sex should not cause harm- Children could be born out of wedlock. * Casual sex could lead to promiscuity and other evils such as rape and deception.

Answer 6

* Adultery breaks vows Christian couples make before God and threatens the stable relationship needed for their children's security. * It is against one of the Ten Commandments: "You shall not commit adultery." * It is against Jesus' teaching that lust, which could lead to adultery, is wrong: "Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" * Jesus forgave a woman caught in adultery but ordered her to leave her life of sin. * Lust is one of the 7 deadly sins and people should restrain themselves. St. Paul said if you cannot restrain your lustful thoughts you should get married * It is wrong because it involves secrecy, lies and a betrayal of trust. * It can effect children and cause pain to all concerned. * Adultery breaks the promises made before God during the wedding. * It threatens the relationship between parents and therefore children can suffer. * Marriage is unbreakable that demands total faithfulness.

Answer 7

* Muslims should avoid situations that could lead to sexual sins. * The Qur'an forbids adultery: * Married couples should not have to go outside of marriage for fulfilment. * Adultery often destroys marriage because of betrayal of trust. - it goes against the promises made at the wedding. * In some Muslim countries under Shari’ah law, the punishment for adultery is death by stoning

Answer 8

* "And do not go anywhere near adultery: it is an outrage, and an evil path" * "A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion unless he is a Dhu-Mahram"

Answer 9

* methods used to prevent pregnancy

Answer 10

* Artificial - they are actual physical things that can help prevent pregnancy (e.g. condoms, the pill) * Natural - involves contraceptive practices or behaviours aimed at limiting the chance of pregnancy. (e.g. rhythm method) * Permanent - are operations that prevent the production of sex cells (sterilisation)

Answer 11

* In Britain, there is widespread acceptance of contraception to help family planning, prevent unwanted pregnancies, reduce global overpopulation and prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections.

Answer 12

* Controlling how many children a couple has and when they have them

Answer 13

* All Christian Churches believe having children is God's greatest gift to married couples * But there are times when it may be acceptable to avoid bringing children into the world.

Answer 14

* Artificial contraception goes against natural law/purpose of marriage and can encourage selfishness/infidelity. * The purposes of sex (having children and expressing love) should not be separated. * "Every sexual act should have the possibility of creating new life." * The Orthodox Church agrees with the Catholic position but recognises individuals' needs.

Answer 15

* It should not be used to limit their families. * Contraception goes against natural law. * God’s purpose for marriage is to have a family. * Prevents God’s plan. * Sex is for making new life- therefore the two purposes should not be separated. * It encourages selfishness and infidelity.

Answer 16

* Rhythm method/ avoiding sex at fertile times of month (Catholic) * Non-abortive forms of contraception only (Orthodox)

Answer 17

* Economic, environmental, physical and physiological reasons are acceptable reasons for not bring children into the world. * Catholic church is not against family planning, but they should use the rhythm method to space out their children. * Natural methods are not reliable and medical methods should be used as long as they do not cause an abortion. * Help against STI’’s * Unfair to bring unwanted babies into the world or children that you cannot take care of. * Allowed if it affects the mothers health.

Answer 18

* People should only have as many children as they can care for * Allow contraception to enable couples to develop relationship first/space out pregnancies to avoid harming mother's health. * The Anglican Lambeth Conference approved artificial contraception used "in the light of Christian principles" (1930). * Preference for non-abortive forms of contraception

Answer 19

* Contraception is not for unmarried people, but may be used for family planning, * e.g. if a wife's health is at risk, to space out pregnancies or to avoid serious financial difficulties. * Some prefer natural methods, but artificial contraception is fine as long as it does not cause an abortion or prevent children altogether (permanent forms).

Answer 20

* No direct teaching in the Qur'an, but some scholars say this text shows that God does not want to make life difficult for people so would accept contraception: "God wishes to lighten your burden; man was created weak" * Some hadith suggest Muhammad was aware of birth control and accepted it in appropriate circumstances. * Allowed within the context of a marriage. * A couple should be able to decide when to start a family and also how many children to have. * Acceptable for the mother’s health, to help space out pregnancies or to avoid serious financial difficulties.

Answer 21

* Some Muslims think contraception goes against God's will and God gives people strength to cope with any children. * These Muslims may quote this text, which is against killing infants once they are born, and argue it also applies to contraception: * "Do not kill your children for fear of poverty - we shall provide for them and for you - killing them is a great sin."

Answer 22

* Marriage is a legal union between a man and a woman (or in some countries, including the UK, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship.

Answer 23

* A civil partnership is a legal union of same-sex couples (2004).

Answer 24

* Same-sex marriage is marriage between partners of the same sex (2014).

Answer 25

* Cohabitation refers to a couple living together and having a sexual relationship without being married to one another.

Answer 26

* The purpose of marriage is to provide a stable, secure environment for family life. * Procreation: men and women are created to have children. * Union: a loving partnership of living together supporting each other. * Rearing Children: Marriage is a place providing nurture and security. * Pattern for society: To teach forgiveness, love and commitment. * One flesh: Marriage is for sexual intimacy as an expression of love. * Sacred= It is a contract blessed by God. * Endless = Marriage should be a life-long faithful relationship.

Answer 27

* “The Husband should fulfil his marital duties to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.” * Jesus said: “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Answer 28

* The purpose of the hymn is to focus everyone’s minds on God. It shows that the marriage is done before God.

Answer 29

* The witnesses and the couple ask if there is any reason the couple cannot get married. * This makes sure that the vows will be kept and that the couple are entering into marriage with the right intensions. * This makes the marriage legal.

Answer 30

* The couple make their promises to God and to one another in the presence of witnesses. * The couple have a responsibility to stay together and God will help them to do this.

Answer 31

* A ring is a symbol of unbroken unity of the couples love, trust, and devotion. * It is a reminder of the promises they have made to each other.

Answer 32

* The couple are now husband and wife. * The kiss symbolizes the first time that these bodies are united as husband and wife, and represents the seal of the bargain.

Answer 33

* Prayers for the couple are said and often a talk or a sermon about marriage is given by the priest. * This is a way of asking for God’s blessing on them.

Answer 34

* The register is signed by the couple and witnesses. * This is to record that the marriage is a legally binding contract. * It shows to everyone that they have made a commitment to each other.

Answer 35

* Often followed by photos and a reception or party. * Commemorating the day. * Celebrating the act of commitment.

Answer 36

* Marriage is a gift from God at creation/part of the natural law; it's part of God’s plan for creation that men and women should live together * It is a sacrament/a lifelong union blessed by God that reflects the sacrificial love of Jesus. * It is a covenant (agreement) before God in which the couple promises to live faithfully till death. * "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." * It is a spiritual bond of trust that reflects the love of Christ for the Church. * It is natural for a man and women to leave their parents and bring new life into the world. * A married couple share companionship through good and bad times and try to bring up children the way God would want. * The purpose of marriage is to provide a stable, secure environment for family life. Only place to enjoy sex.

Answer 37

* Marriage is a faithful, lifelong commitment, intended by God for the sharing of love and companionship. It is an equal partnership under God. * It is a social contract that brings two families together, impacting the whole community. * It helps people develop spiritually by avoiding sexual sin and by adding value to worship. *According to the Qur'an, husbands and wives are like garments for each other, meaning each should support and care for the other. * Marriage is the foundation for family life. * When a man marries half of his religious responsibilities are complete. * Marriage was intended by God for the sharing of love and companionship. * Husband and wife are equal in partnership the God. * Adults are expected to marry as it is a normal part of life. * Poverty should not stop marriage. * Marriage prevents sinning.

Answer 38

* Both Christians and Muslims believe marriage is the proper place to enjoy sex, raise children in a religious faith and provide lifelong support and companionship for a partner.

Answer 39

* In Islam, marriages can be arranged (where parents help to find a suitable partner) but young people have the right to refuse. * Forced marriages are not allowed * "if a man gives his daughter in marriage while she is averse to it then such marriage is invalid."

Answer 40

* A Muslim woman must marry a Muslim * A Muslim man can marry a Muslim, Christian or Jew.

Answer 41

* Hadith - "to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish. till death us do part; according to God's holy law" * Anglican marriage service vows - "There is no institution in Islam more beloved and dearer [to God] than marriage"

Answer 42

* Catholic and Orthodox Churches (and Islam) oppose cohabitation as they believe sex should only take place within marriage.

Answer 43

* Many Anglican and Protestant Christians accept that although marriage is best, people may cohabit in a faithful, loving and committed way without being married Islam forbids homosexual relationships.

Answer 44

* Muslims are against cohabitation because they believe a sexual relationship should only occur within a marriage.

Answer 45

* Many Muslims were opposed to the changes in law that made same-sex marriages legal.

Answer 46

* Many Christians were also opposed to legalisind same-sex marriage, because it seemed to be changing the nature of marriage. * The law protects Churches that oppose homosexual marriage and they are not forced to conduct same-sex marriages against their beliefs.

Answer 47

* Legal ending of a marriage allowed after one year of a marriage cannot be saved

Answer 48

* Adultery, domestic abuse, addiction, lines, disability, work or financial pressures, falling out of love, inability to have children

Answer 49

* Remarriage is when someone marries again while their former husband or wife is still alive .

Answer 50

* An annulment is a Catholic Church ruling that a marriage was never valid.

Answer 51

* In cases of marriage breakdown, Christian clergy offer counselling, prayer and sacraments, and may refer couples to outside agencies such as Relate and Accord. * Vows made in God's presence must be kept.

Answer 52

* The Catholic Church teaches that marriage is a sacrament that is permanent and cannot be dissolved between two baptised people by civil divorce. * Catholics can separate but not remarry while their partner is still alive, or they can obtain an annulment if there was never a true marriage.

Answer 53

* Other Christians believe marriage is for life, but sometimes divorce is the lesser of two evils. * They think the Church should reflect God's forgiveness and allow couples a second chance for happiness. * Most Anglican, Protestant and Orthodox churches allow divorce and remarriage in church as long as couples take the vows seriously.

Answer 54

* Jesus said that anyone who divorced and remarried were committing adultery. * The Catholic Church do not accept remarriage. * However they allow remarriage if their first marriage was annulled. * Divorced Anglicans can marry someone else in church with the Bishop’s permission. * Protestant and Methodist Christians allow remarriage in church as long as the couple take their vows seriously. * The Church should reflect the forgiveness of God and allow people who have made mistakes the opportunity to find happiness in a second marriage,

Answer 55

"He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery." * If a man divorces his wife for any cause other than unchastity (unfaithfulness) he involves her in adultery'" * Jesus taught that anyone who divorced and remarried was committing adultery.

Answer 56

* The Qur'an encourages the couple to try to reconcile their differences by allowing a member of each partner's family to help bring them back together, if God wills * The Qur'an guarantees rights of both men and women to divorce, but divorce is 'hateful to Allah' (Hadith). * For a religious divorce, the husband must declare it to his wife verbally or in writing, followed by a three month waiting period (iddah) to see whether his wife is pregnant. If so, they must wait until the baby is born. "when any of you intend to divorce women, do so at a time when their prescribed waiting period can properly start... if you are in doubt, the period of waiting shall be three months." * A wife can apply for divorce, but if her husband is not at fault he does not have to support her and she must repay the marriage gift. * The husband must support his children in all cases. * Legally, Muslims in the UK require a British civil divorce. * Religious divorces are granted through the Muslim Law (Shar'iah) Council in Wembley, Middlesex or through their local mosque. * After divorce, Muslims can remarry, and it may be considered beneficial to do so particularly if there are children.

Answer 57

* People related by blood, marriage or adoption

Answer 58

* Two parents and their children living together

Answer 59

* A family that has new people added to it, for example step parents or stepbrothers and sisters.

Answer 60

* Formed on the remarriage of a divorced or widowed person that includes a child/children

Answer 61

* One parent raising the children in a home where they are the only adult in the house.

Answer 62

* Includes grandparents/other relatives beyond just parents and children

Answer 63

* Same-sex parents are people of the same sex who are raising children together.

Answer 64

* Christian parents raise their children in the Christian faith, teaching them to pray. * Some parents send children to religious schools and teach them traditions of their faith. * They teach them right from wrong and pass on values such as generosity, compassion and tolerance, enabling them to form loving relationships. * Provide an example of community * Teach agape and forgiveness * To educate the young * 'Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.’

Answer 65

* Muslim parents bring children up in the faith of Islam: how to pray, keep halal food laws and live a good Muslim life. * They support children in finding a suitable marriage partner. * They also send children to a madrassah (mosque school) to learn how to read the Qur'an in Arabic. * 'a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it...’

Answer 66

* Both Christian and Muslim children are expected to respect and obey their parents, and care for them when they are old * 'Honour your father and your mother.’ - 10 commandments * "care for elderly parents with kindness and respect because they loved and cared for their own children when they were young." - Muslims * ‘A father gives his child nothing better than a good education.’ - Muhammad, shows parents duty is to make sure children are well educated

Answer 67

* Biblical times, people lived in extended families through which the religion, customs and traditions were passed to the next generation. * Christians must 'love one another';it is in the family that a child learns to love. * The Commandment 'Honour your father and mother' is important, particularly when parents are elderly and need support.

Answer 68

* The extended family is the basis of Islamic society, part of God's plan for humanity. * The family shapes the moral values and character of children. * Muslims care for elderly parents with kindness and respect because they did the same for them when they were young

Answer 69

* Custom of having more than one wife at the same time

Answer 70

* There are examples of polygamy in the Bible, but Christians believe one man and one woman for life was created at the beginning.

Answer 71

* Islam allows polygamy with the consent of the first wife but only if a husband is able to support, love and treat additional wives equally.

Answer 72

* Polygamous marriages cannot be performed in Britain because bigamy is illegal.

Answer 73

* The offence of marrying someone while already married to another person

Answer 74

* Some Christians believe that the ideal is for children to grow up with a male and female role model as parents. * Other Christians think it is more important for children to be in a secure and loving family regardless of the gender of their parents.

Answer 75

* Musims oppose same- sex parents because they believe homosexuality is morally wrong so same-sex parents would not provide a good example for their children.

Answer 76

* The family is the main building block of society where procreation takes place * Happy healthy family creates stability, safety and security for their members and society

Answer 77

* The family provides stablity because it is where people learn to live as part of a community: parents teach children right from wrong and how to get along with others. * Christians believe God reveals himself as Father, with (C Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ Jesus his Son and humankind his children, so the idea of family is very important. loved the Church and gave himself up forher. g, * The family reflects Christ's relationship with the Church.

Answer 78

* The Quran addresses married people as 'guarded' and 'protected; as if their relationship is like a fortress protecting them from sin, loneliness and danger. * This protection is also offered to the extended family. * Muslims have a responsibility to care for their elderly parents, so many have them living with them: "He who is good to his parents, blessings be upon him" * Most Muslims would not consider putting their elderly parents in a care home, but value their wisdom and experience and feel honoured to repay them for their love and support in life.

Answer 79

* Parents and children have responsibilities to each other. * Children have duties to obey, love and respect their parents for their care * "Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old." * Children are gifts from God so parents must respect their dignity. * Christian parents are expected to be good role models, teach children their faith, pray with them, teach them moral values and nurture their spiritual lives. "Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged" * Some Christians send children to faith schools or groups run by their church for religious education.

Answer 80

* Children have a duty to respect their parents, even in adulthood. * The Qur'an teaches that to be unkind or disrespectful to one's parents is a great sin. * "Lower your wing in humility towards your parents] in kindness and say, "Lord, have mercy on them, just as they cared for me when I was little." * Children are a blessing from God. * Parents have a duty to provide a stable environment and raise their children to be good Muslims * "Honour your children and perfect their manners" * Some Muslims send children to faith schools or groups run by their mosque for religious education.

Answer 81

* Gender equality means that men and women should be given the

Answer 82

* Gender prejudice means unfairly judging someone before the facts are known; holding biased opinions about people based on their gender.

Answer 83

* Sexual stereotyping means having a fixed idea of how men and women will behave.

Answer 84

* Gender discrimination means acting against someone on the basis of their gender. usually seen as wrong and may be against the law.

Answer 85

* In the past, men held more positions of power and had more rights than women. * nations roles saure crotons note gender discriminator meg , er for the home and moked.any cater. * There are paid less than men for the same and house work and a higher proportion of sentor positions. * Roles are changing as more women work, and housework and childcare are shared.

Answer 86

* All people are created equal in the image of God * Jesus respected women, welcomed them as disciples, and showed that they were capable of more than domestic tasks * The command to love one's neighbour means that discrimination is wrong. Paul taught that all people are equal * Some traditional Christians interpret Bible texts literally and think husbands should rule over their wives and that women should mainly stay at home and care for children, but most * Christians today see marriage as an equal partnership. * Some traditional Christians believe that men are the head of the family and that women should mainly stay at home and care for children. * Some see marriage as an equal partnership where the different gifts of each person, male and female, strengthen family life.

Answer 87

* "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male or female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

Answer 88

* God created all people equal, from a single soul and with the same spiritual human nature Muhammad worked to unite the tribes in Madinah into one community (ummah) under God, with equality and justice for all. * Men and women have the same religious and moral responsibilities, and will be rewarded by God for their good deeds * Islamic law recognises the full property rights of women before and after marriage. A wife can keep her maiden name and be financially supported. * Muhammad taught that anyone, man or women, who does a good deed for God’s sake will be rewarded. * Mother’s are of high value within Islam. They bring up the children. * Modern Muslims in the UK share financial and raising the children as both their responsibilities.

Answer 89

* “People, We created you all from a single man and a single woman, and made you into races and tribes that you should recognise one another"

Answer 90

* Today Christians would oppose all forms of prejudice and discrimination, although some would argue it exists within the Christian Church

Answer 91

* Some Muslim women suffer prejudice and discrimination over issues such as wearing the veil, girls' education, employment or freedom to drive or vote in some countries. * This may be due to different cultural practices rather than because of teachings in the Qur'an.

Answer 92

* In Britain, other reported examples of gender prejudice and discrimination include: - sexual harassment in the workplace - women being asked unfair questions in job interviews - top women earning less than top men in sport.