Purpose Flashcards
Purpose and Edge
As a man, you need a purpose that drives you in life. This is often a goal you are trying to achieve, or your family could be your purpose. This purpose is at the core of your life and should be aligned with everything you do in life to ensure integrity and authenticity. Here you could apply the celery test to you and see if your choices align with your purpose. To truly strive for this purpose you need to always play at your edge and lean a little into the fear on the other side of your edge, pushing you forward. It is honorable for a man to admit his fears and limitations and acknowledge where his edge ends. The superior man is a fearful man living by the edge and working his very best towards his purpose even when afraid, and this type of man will always be more inspirational and trustworthy than the fearful man hiding in his comfort zone. He ought to be careful, because even though he should acknowledge his fear and lean a little past his edge into his fears, he should never violate them by pushing too far and stressing himself unnecessarily, nor should he retreat into comfort. Men also have the “do mode” where they can put the nose to the grindstone and produce results, which is important for achieving your purpose. It’s just important your purpose doesn’t get lost in petty tasks when you activate “do mode” and need to remember to pick the right grindstone, so sometimes raise your eyes, get some perspective, and make sure your work is aligned with your purpose.
A purpose can also change, and then you should commit to the change. As a man you need the ability to completely let go and be truly free from everything. In this period you can enter a period of unknowingness where you await your next calling in life, and it’s fine. This is just you shedding layers to get to the truth within you. Some simple points for knowing if you fulfilled or completed a layer of purpose are:
- You lose complete interest in a mission that motivated you highly just before.
- You have no feeling of regret when starting a new purpose or ending one.
- You may not know what to do next, but still feel clear and unburdened instead of stressed and afraid.
- You feel an increase in energy when thinking about ending your current project or mission.
- Your mission or project seems almost silly, like collecting shoelaces, you can do it, but it’s silly.
Prioritize Your Purpose
Your relationship is important and if you chose your relationship as your deepest purpose, it should always be prioritized over anything else. If you, however, have another deeper purpose, you should not prioritize the relationship above your deepest purpose. Imagine a guy wanting to chase his purpose, but instead decides for a day in bed with his girlfriend, cute it may seem, but he is robbing his girlfriend of the man who he can become that unlocks his fullest potential, and your woman will see this weakness within you, and he can later come to regret not unlocking his fullest potential. Instead, next time you are “giving in” to your woman and denying your purpose, tell her that you love her and you will spend a specific period where you give her absolute attention and presence. You also tell her you can’t deny your heart’s purpose and after having to go work on your mission, but the important thing is that she will be more fulfilled with let’s say 30 minutes of absolute attention and presence rather than a few hours with mediocre attention, because she can feel your lack of enthusiasm. A thing about your woman is that she says she wants to be the most important thing in your life, but what she truly wants is a man willing to sacrifice the relationship for his deepest purpose even though she would never admit it. Just imagine the soldier going to war with his crying wife, but instead of going he goes back to safety to his woman, and she might be excited and happy, however deep down she is disappointed and let down.
A man might also establish a family and use his family as an excuse to compromise his purpose just as he might do with his girlfriend. The same principle applies here, where you want to give your kids a specific period with undivided love and attention rather than a longer specific period of mediocre attention. At the same time as a man, you should participate as fully as the woman in raising the kids while not giving up your deepest purpose. It’s a fine line between too much purpose and too little family and the other way around, but it’s a task worthy of the superior man.
