Preparing For Eternal Marriage Flashcards
While research confirms that marrying after your teenager years and getting more education are associated with greater marital stability, there is also strong evidence that an attitude of personal independence may weaken some marriages. Why?
An attitude of personal independence may undermine the need for mutual partnership
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What is one of the most dramatic changes influencing marriage preparation in the last quarter century? It is the emergence of a new period of life.
The emergence of a new period of life between adolescence and adulthood that has been labeled “emerging adulthood.”
This pattern of delayed marriage has created an extended period of nearly 10 years on the family cycle where many adults have left adolescence and are beginning to view themselves as adults, but have not yet entered into the commitments and lifestyle patterns of married adult life.
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What have numerous scholars noted about the current dating and courtship culture?
In particular, these family professionals have noted an erosion of traditional courtship patterns and a dating culture that la is socially defined norms, rituals, and relationship milestones that guide young people toward marriage.
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What are some of the effects of the changes in current dating and courtship patterns?
A number of pitfalls exist in our current dating and courtship culture:
A growing pessimism about marriage and a focus on personal independence before and after marriage
A primary focus on personal financial independence for both men and women
Widespread sexual permissiveness
High rates of couples living g together before marriage
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What is the best predictor of future behavior?
Past behavior
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior
How not to marry a jerk power point
What are important takeaways from “How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk” PowerPoint?
How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk by John Van Epp. He suggests that many well-meaning people set themselves up for failure by developing trusting, relying upon, committing to and making physical contact prematurely-moving beyond the level which we really know each other.
People need to properly pace themselves in a relationships. Or doing so can cloud their judgement and keep them from seeing red flags. For instance, forming a strong emotional or physical attachment when not truly knowing the person .
Physical intimacy or touch has an almost intoxicating effect. It always changes a relationship..Once you put your lips on someone it changes the relationship forever. If kissing is like glue then greater physical/sexual contact is like superglue. It acts like a bonding agent to bind couples together. It’s supposed to be that way. It just isn’t supposed to happen outside of relationships in which the knowing, trust, reliance, and commitment are not firmly in place (5 fundamental dynamics of adult attachment).
Also, kind people are at special risk for staying in a relationship with a jerk, because very kind people are more likely to overlook problem behaviors, to forgive violations when they are evident and to give second (and more) chances. Don’t do it! This sets up kind-hearted people up for a lot of heartache and disappointment.
With regard to the communication process, ___________ refers to such things as dropping hints, flattering someone, and behaving seductively.
Manipulation
Marriage and Family: The quest for intimacy Lauer
True or False
The communication patterns practiced before marriage are good predictors of marital success.
True
Marriage and Family: The quest for intimacy Lauer
