Power, Decision Making and Communication Chapter 9 Flashcards
In a relationship, what is the ability to influence one’s partner to get what one wants?
Power
What do you call power that is bestowed by society on men and women as their right according to social norms?
legitimate power
Power that is given because a person is considered superior in knowledge of a particular subject is called________.
expert power
Power acquired because of extensive knowledge of a specific area is called_______________.
informational power
What is the theory that the person who is most interested in and best qualified to make the choice wil be more likely to?
Theory of primary interest and presumed competence
What is the ability to bestow or withhold affection?
Psychological power
What is the threat of physical force or other types of punishment to force compliance.
Coercive power
What do you call the ways in which power is applied?
Power processes
What is the power to make the important decisions that determine family lifestyle.
orchestration power
What is the power that sets decisions in motion?
Implementation power
What is the process by which 2 parties decide what each will give and receive in arriving at a decision?
bargaining
What is a patten of interaction that appears legitimate but actually has an ulterior motive?
psychological game
What is the process by which one person destroys the self-confidence, perception, and sense of reality of another person?
gaslighting
What is blaming someone else for every bad thing that happens?
Scapegoating
What is a message one person send and another receives?
communication
What are bodily reactions that convey feelings and reactions?
Body language
Name 10 body language presentations?
- posture 2.facial expressions 3. eye contact 4. tense muscles 5. blushing 6. panting 7. tears 8. sweating 9. shivering 10. increased pulse or thumping heart
What do you call conflicting messages sent when verbal messages and body language don’t agree?
double-bind communcation
What do you call the ability to identify with the emotional stat of another?
empathy
What do you call response another has send and disclosure of one’s own feelings and ideas?
feedback
Name 4 reasons people desire power?
- want to have control over their life
- society expects them to have it
- following patterns of parents
- psychological need to compensate for insecurity
What are the 3 theoretical frameworks that explain power?
- attachment theory
- social control theory
- feminist theory
What is power based on?
- cultural norms, 2. gender norms 3. economic resources, 4.education and knowledge 5. personality differences, 6. communication ability 7. emotional factors 8. physical stature and strength 9. circumstances.
Do children have power?
yes
What are the 4 types of marital power patterns?
- Egalitarian-equal distribution
- male-dominate,
- female-dominate
- anarchic - both try to dominate
Which power type has greatest degree of marital satisfaction?
Egalitarian
Which power type has the least marital satisfaction?
Anarchic
Female-dominated power type has marital satisfaction, true or false?
false
Name 6 helpful power tactics.
- discussing
- explaining
3.asking
4.telling - bargaining
6 negotiating
What are power tactics that harm called?
psychological games
What are psychological games for?
controlling others through manipulation
Name 11 psychological games?
- Corner 2. Sweetheart 3. Camouflage
- Jealous 5. Hard to Get 6. Prove your love to me
- Wooden leg 8. It’s your decision 9. Martyr
10 Gaslighting (crazy making) 11. Scapegoating
What would indicate the psychological game of Jealous? What theory would this likely fall into?
Constant monitoring, demanding all time and attention, putting excessive limits , creating isolation atmosphere for the other person. Attachment Theory
What is the psychological game of corner?
no matter what the victim does is wrong
Describe the psychological game of “sweetheart”.
Telling a demeaning story appearing to be about someone else but both know the reference is to the spouse as a criticism “right sweetheart”.
What psychological power game is use to avoid confrontation using indirect messages or hints?
Camouflage
What is the game that tries to make the other person feel guilty to try to get their way? “look what all I have done”
Martyr
What is the effect on marital satisfaction with an imbalance of power.
negative
What is lack of power associated with for men and women?
psychological distress
High levels of power are not destructive, true or false?
False, they are destructive
The power relationship the is fair and equitable to the couple usually results in __________ _________?
Marital satisfaction
How do women gain equity in a relationship?
through empowerment; raising capacities and abilities and recognizing feminine traits are strengths.
Name 3 things good communion leads to.
intimacy, family interaction, and marital satisfaction
What is one of the most important requirements for marital satisfaction?
Communication
Name the five categories of barriers to communication.
- physical and environmental
- situational
- psychological
- cultural
- gender
What are the 8 requirements of good communication?
- time 2. motivation and concern 3. empathy
- openness 5. transmit messages clearly 6. listening
- use of feedback 8. arguing constructively
Which psychological power game is a maneuver designed to elicit sympathy and as an excuse for failing to be responsible or independent?
Wooden Leg
Which psychological game is this: “she weeps quietly but say, ‘Nothing is wrong’”?
Gaslighting
What is the main aim of gaslighting?
To make someone doubt their sanity or “drive them crazy”.
Name 4 psychological needs and emotions as to why psychological games are played.
- Lack of trust
- Desire to Avoid Responsibility
- Fear of Close Relationship
- Unfamiliarity with alternatives
Satisfaction in marriages hinges on the perception of fairness or equity in exchanges , rather than on the existence of a particular power structure according to who?
Exchange theorist
What is one of the consequences of power imbalance in relationships?
the person who feels coerced or manipulated becomes frustrated and resentful.
Communication involves both ________ and ______.
content and process
In on study of couples , distressed and nondistressed couples had the ______ communication skills level.
same
In communication of distressed couples what caused the distress?
The intentions of the partner
What is nonverbal communication more subject to?
Misinterpretation