Planning How to Make Family Members Firmer and Gentler with Each Other - Module 6 Flashcards
A spiritual, emotional, and social legacy is like a three-strand cord. Individually, each strand cannot hold much weight, But wrapped together, they are strong. That’s why passing on a positive, affirming legacy is so important and why a negative legacy can be destructive. The good news is that you can decide to continue to pass a positive legacy on to your future children whether you have received one or not.
Family Legacies
Is fostering a sense of security and stability nurtured in an environment of safety and love. This legacy is creating an atmosphere that provides a child’s fragile spirit with the nourishment and support needed for healthy emotional growth. It requires time and consistency to develop a sense of emotional wholeness, but the rewards are great.
Emotional Legacy
Is teaching the family the fine art of relating to people. If a person learns how to relate well with others, he or she will have an edge in the game of life.
Social Legacy
As we are spiritual beings, we should adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters from one source or another.
Spiritual Legacy
One factor also that makes a family firm or gentle is how the parents lead and form their children. As you go through the next section, rediscover how this model affects you and will guide you to contribute to the well-being of your family.
Parenting Styles
Refers to how parents manage their children’s behavior which may range from overly-demanding to give hardly any rules or demands.
Parental Control
Refers to whether parents are accepting and responsive or rejecting and unresponsive to their children. The four types of parenting are driven by these two aspects
Parental Warmth
Parents tend to express little affection and warmth to their children. They believe that children “should” follow these rules without questioning. The downside of this style is children are not encouraged to express themselves, And if not addressed, children will likely become unsociable, unfriendly, rebellious, or dependent.
Authoritarian.
Parents are warm; however, they set no dear rules for their children. Thus, when they reach adolescence, they realize that there are no clear boundaries and there will be no consequences for their actions. As a result, adolescents may have problems with their future relationships
Permissive
Parents are firm and warm and set limits with their children, They explain and reason to their children which helps clarify the rules with them. They actively listen to their children, allow questions from them and entertain ideas from them. Children with authoritative parents become competent, cooperative, Ekable, and autonomous. This type of parenting is considered to balance parenting.
Authoritative.
It is an important component in any relationship. Talking with each other whether about trivial things or serious decisions can help improve relationships. Sharing what happened during the day, what food they ate, what they learned at school, etc. Adolescents can also become involved even in solving problems, so all members will know that they are part of the family and their ideas are respected
Communicate
It cannot be denied that the need to be appreciated is fundamental to all. When family members are appreciated, their self-esteem is enhanced. Appreciation also promotes healthier relationships because it establishes a more positive home environment. Appreciation is enhanced by hugs, kisses, and thoughtful actions like simple “thank you” notes.
Learn to Appreciate
No matter how busy family members are, it is important to schedule a shared activity like watching movies, hiking, bowling, or even as simple as sharing a meal. These enhance cohesiveness in the family and fosters a sense of belongingness
Share Activities
The well-being of the family is considered to be the top priority. Members are committed and loyal to the values and rules implicitly or explicitly set by them to keep the family together,
Be committed
There will be times that families will experience difficulties, challenging the cohesion of the group. However, if members can extend support to each other, chances are that they will be able to overcome the problems.
Show support to each other
