Dynamics of Commitment - Module 2 Flashcards
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life, Research shows that a healthy relationship can help you live longer, deal with stress, be healthier, and feel richer
Imagine this scenario: “Why would you put ketchup all over my tries?” Jacks asked, Then Jill replied. “Well, you should’ve told me that you don’t like ketchup. This is an example of how oftentimes people deflect ownership of their behaviors and play the blame game. Is Jack responsible for his ketchup-covered fries, or should J have taken responsibility for her behavior? Taking responsibility in your relationship is the acknowledgment and ownership of every action and word you say and do,
Why taking responsibilty is important? Taking ownership and responsibility for your actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing so is an empowering reminder that you have control over the role you play in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate to your partner, family, and friends that your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which encourages them to be open and authentic with you.
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN A RELATIONSHIP
Taking responsibility is not just a one-sided practice. It looks like practicing self- awareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility are important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your relationship
How to become responsible in real life?
“You have to love yourself before you love others is a versatile phrase that has multiple meanings when applied to relationships. It can translate to “You have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others. Being honest with yourself begins with a healthy sense of self-awareness. And being self-aware means you acknowledge that what you say and do impacts your family, friends, and partner.
For example; Referring back to the ketchup situation, imagine you’re Jill. A healthy response would be to take ownership of her actions and respond with something like, “Oh, I’m sorry! I should have asked you before I added ketchup. I did not realize you didn’t like ketchup, and this is my mistake,
Be honest
When people are held accountable for their behaviors, they often become defensive. Getting defensive is a reaction. When you act on a situation, you can respond with clarity and awareness. You can practice acting on situations instead of reacting by taking deep breaths or counting to ten. It also helps to take a second and look at the situation from your partner’s perspective. It can be hard to think from the other perspective, especially in the heat of the moment. By being honest with yourself and your partner, you can effectively respond by taking responsibility.
For example:
Jill is reacting to Jack being upset instead of acting on her need to take responsibility. Acting instead of reacting allows you to clearly define a self-aware and honest answer to unhealthy behavior,
Act on Situations, Don’t React
Everyone makes mistakes and forgiving yourself or your partner is important for moving past challenges and making your relationship stronger. When you view taking responsibility for your mistakes as an opportunity to learn, your relationship can become a place that fosters and celebrates growth. Forgiveness builds trust and accountability in your relations breaks down resentment, and stops the never-fun “blame game,” Taking responsibility for your behaviors in your relationship requires honest and communication and a willingness to address unhealthy excuses with your family, friends, partner. They’re not always easy discussions to have, but you’ll find that doing so builds trust within your relationship over time and is an empowering way to learn and grow.
Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself
