Part Two - Private Victory - Habit One Flashcards
We can examine our paradigms to determine if they are…
A) Reality/Principle based
B) Functions of conditions or conditioning
(the Social Mirror/Determinism)
Habit one
Be Proactive
Three types of Socially Determined Paradigms
1) Genetic
2) Psychic
3) Environmental
Excuses of Genetic Determinism
1) it’s in my DNA
2) it’s just how are people are
Historical
Excuses of Psychic Determinism
1) my parents did this to me
2) it’s how I was raised
Childhood
Excuses of Environmental Determinism
1) it’s my spouse’s fault
2) my kids bring it out in me
3) my boss drives me crazy
Now
Liberty…
More options to choose from in your environment.
Freedom…
More internal power to choose response and exercise options.
Between stimulus and response their exists the…
Freedom to choose
If you can’t control your response…
You can’t change your programming
Four endowments within the freedom to choose
1) self-awareness
2) imagination
3) conscious
4) independent will
Behavior is a function of…
Decisions not conditions
Proactivity is the ability to subordinate feelings to…
Values/Principles
Reactive behavior is
Behavior based on feelings and conditions
The essence of proactivity is…
The ability to subordinate impulses to principles
I am what I am today because…
Of the decisions I made yesterday
The crucibles that from our character and our internal strength are…
Our most difficult experiences
Obstacles are overcome by…
R&I
Resourcefulness and Initiative
List the three types of problems
1) direct (your behavior)
2) indirect (other’s behavior)
3) no control (situational reality)
How do you solve direct problems?
The first three habits of private victory
How do you solve indirect problems?
Habits 4, 5 & 6. The habits of public victory.
How do you solve no control problems?
We don’t. We peacefully accept them and learn to live with them so that we don’t empower them to control us.
“If I had” is a ________ statement
Reactive
It’s outside-in
“I can be” is a _______ statement
Proactive
It’s inside-out
