Not Psychopathology

Question 1

Aristotle: pleasure friend

Answer 1

the person makes you feel good, there’s an attraction, you like doing activities together, having fun on positive engagements (someone you’d go bowling with) - not super deep

Question 2

Aristotle: utility friend

Answer 2

based on materially what you’re giving each other, there’s nothing really more, you can have a nice interaction but you’re giving each other something (ex: if friend has a car and can get you places like a hike)

Question 3

Aristotle: deep/intimate friend

Answer 3

based around wanting the best for the other person in the relationship, means sometimes there will be sacrifices, periods that don’t feel fun at all, and difficult conversations
- Lucky if you even had 1 friend like that at any given time - limited category

Question 4

What is the significance of using volume sliders when discussing relationships?

Answer 4

• it is a way to quantify elements of a relationship
• anxiety and fear go hand and hand with elements of relationships
• our knowledge guides where trust should be

Question 5

A trust star:

Answer 5

• Has to do with the idea that trust is better conceptualized as a bunch of intercepting scales, and each of them would be for different things:
• ” I trust them not to attack me” - YES
• “I trust they wouldn’t share my secrets” - YES
• “I trust they will be on time” - NO
• “I trust they would drive me to the hospital if I were injured”- YES

Not all of them matter as much as the other, we choose based on our values

Question 6

Where does the trust star idea come from?

Answer 6

Cognitive processing theory for PTSD
- beliefs about trust are part of what’s disrupted after a shocking experience

Question 7

What should you be aware of when sharing information with others?

Answer 7

The context you’re in - and how vulnerable you are

Question 8

“Play the tape forward”

Answer 8

• It might not be obvious what the consequence would be of sharing information
• Instead of telling someone what to do, you play the tape forward and say, “Okay, 2 weeks from now, what do you think is going to happen if this keeps happening?” and then you get insight into what the person knows
• simulate the possible future based on other situations

Question 9

what should parents do when creating rules for their kids?

Answer 9

match their development to their freedom

• use freedom wish lists
• staying positive is much better than focusing on the negative

Question 10

“Recognize kernel in bad behaviour - Remember core goodness”

Answer 10

• This suggests that even in negative actions or behaviors, there’s a core cause or essence (the “kernel”) worth examining. It could be an invitation to look deeper—beyond the surface of the behavior—to understand why it’s happening.
• A reminder not to lose sight of the inherent goodness in people, systems, or even yourself. Even when things go wrong or someone acts badly, there’s an encouragement to remember the underlying positive potential or intention.