Midterm - Dating and Marriage Flashcards
Name and describe the key task young adults focus on in relationships
- Developing intimacy : disclosing their innermost selves
- In North America, intimacy is often seen as a prerequisite for marriage
Explain the possible Family Cycle & Mate Selection paths
- Mate selection methods : couple-decided or family-decided
-Possible paths : cohabitation without marriage, marriage before cohabitation, cohabitation before eventual marriage - Cultural influences : individualist (personal rights and achievements) & collectivist (group goals and values)
Name the four functions of dating
- Going out with the intent to marry
1. Identity : Understanding oneself in a partnership
2. Intimacy : Forming close connections
3. Status : Enhancing social standing
4. Sex : Exploring sexual experiences
Explain the difference between Homogamy vs. Complementary Needs
- Homogamy : Similarities in intelligence, education, socioeconomic status, and other factors
- Complementary Needs : Attention based on complementary traits (opposites attract)
Explain what is Romantic Love (3) + Sue Johnson’s Ideas
- Intimacy : Togetherness and warmth
- Commitment : Trust and responsibility
- Passion : Excitement
- Sue Johnson : Love can be shaped, offering security, stress protection, and exploration opportunities
What is the difference between Endogamy and Exogamy?
- Endogamy : Marrying within one’s class or group
- Exogamy : Marrying outside one’s group
- Influenced by geography and social/family approval
What is Assortative Mating?
- Choosing partners based on desirable traits
- Homogamy is common : marrying similar individuals
- Some diversity in relationships occurs with open-mindedness
What are the 3 benefits of Romantic Love as Attachment and what is Secure Attachment?
- Secure Attachment : Key to balanced emotional regulation and health benefits
- Benefits :
1. Emotional balance during stress
2. Renewed bonds through support
3. Health advantages of social connections
What are the 4 Phases of the Wheel of Love?
- Rapport : Comfort and openness
- Self-Revelation : Sharing private feelings
- Mutual Dependencies : Relying on each other
- Personal Need Fulfillment : Growing rapport and relationship renewal
Explain the 4 different roles in marriage
- Conventional roles : men = work, women = stay home to take care of house and kids (still traditional gender lines if women are working more now + taking on other responsibilities)
- Shared roles : shared exactly in both realms (house responsibilities and working, doesn’t mean 50-50)
- Dual-career roles : both people have careers (more hired help, ex. house cleaner, nanny, delivery service, etc)
- Reverse conventional roles : ex. stay at home dad and mom works and brings most of the income
What is the difference between Cohabitation and Marriage?
- Cohabitation increasing, more common law unions
- Differences :
1. Marriage often more permanent
2. Legal rights differ (ex. property and spousal support)
3. Hospital visitation and inheritance rights favour marriage
What are the Government Regulations (in Canada) for common-law and types of relationships?
- Common-law criteria : Living together for one year
- Exclusions : Incestuous, underage, multiple partners
Name the 3 Factors Influencing Family Types (increase in common-law union because…)
- Population aging, less religious influence
- Economic challenges and higher education
- Provincial differences (ex. Quebec and Nunavut)
- Decrease in common-law couples after young adulthood (except Nunavut and Quebec), proportion of couples who intend to live together decrease with age
Name 3 things that will Influence Cohabitation on Divorce
- Greater risk of divorce with premarital cohabitation
- Selection Theory : Characteristics of those cohabitating may pre-determine marriage outcomes
- Inertia Theory : Cohabitation increases constraints, making breakups harder
Describe the Marriage Fraud & Legal Issues
- Fraud cases : Marriages for immigration benefits
- Government policies updated to protect individuals from fraudulent partners
What does Sue Johnson say about Sexual Intimacy and Emotional Connection?
- Sue Johnson : Safe and emotional connection is vital for fulfilling sexual experiences
- Secure connections lead to deeper, satisfying sexual bonds
- Safely and communication enhance relationship quality
- Best sex = long term happy relationships, why? when we think about or have sex we’re flooded with oxytocin which stops habituation so we can look at partner after 30y and still be interested
