Meta-cognition

Question 1

是什么？（确认自己理解是否正确）

Answer 1

1. Am I correct to infer from your response that…
2. From our conversation, it seems that…
3. Is it kinda left unsaid there…that they are primarily involved. There might be others out there.
4. I thought it was implied in your response that you think it is okay to take away the licenses of the TV network

Question 2

不是什么？

(1) 没有本身是结论
(2) 我不是说xxx

Answer 2

It’s not what you are mentioning that I think is interesting but what you are not.

I am not saying …

Question 3

还有什么？

Answer 3

did I miss anything?

do you agree with this reading or is there something better for us here?

Question 4

为什么？

Answer 4

why not？

Question 5

怎么样?

Answer 5

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Question 6

言下之意是
表象 v 本质

Answer 6

What’s the message here?
What’s left unsaid is that
What’s the metaphor?
Read between the lines
Emblematic of the problems
symptomatic of the lack of parental care

Question 7

时间穿越

Answer 7

In hindsight, it is probably a good thing
Fast forward ten years from now, where do you see yourself

Question 8

自我对话

Answer 8

positive/negative self-talk

Question 9

non-answer

Answer 9

That’s a lovely non-answer. - I was thinking about it before I go to bed. I will let you know after I got an answer.

It was different at the beginning than it was towards the end. But it was a natural progression in between

Do you believe in love? I believe people believe in love?

I will let you know when I have an answer

Question 10

recognizing self-deception

Answer 10

I would be lying if I say my career path is some kind of grand design

I often get lost more than I would like to admit.

Question 11

limits of hypothetical

Answer 11

We’ve learned rational actor in school,I don’t know about you but I’ve never met that person.

Question 12

假装合作

Answer 12

I am not trying to make life difficult for you, it’s just we can not do more than the subpoena what tells us to do.

I am trying to be as helpful as I can

I want to help but my hands are tied.

Question 13

good questions to ask

Answer 13

What’s the most satisfying part of your job/life?

How did you get into it?

What’s on your mind?

Say more

Question 14

Validation

Answer 14

I hear you.
That is a good question.
That is a valid point.
That’s fair.

Question 15

Positive opposites

Answer 15

I admire people who don’t just go for low-hanging fruit

Question 16

I know what you are saying + I agree with you + I want you to talk

Answer 16

Can you believe it

Question 17

完全同意

部分同意

明显您跟我的感觉不一样

Answer 17

I am a 100% with you on that

I don’t totally disagree with that

Obviously it hits you a little differently but I thought

Question 18

接着你的话讲

我正好碰到个类似的事情

换个话题

我有一些想法 （不成熟的）

我有一些想法（成熟的）

我同意

Answer 18

just to finish the thought,

Just to exemplify your point,
Speaking of which,

I wanna pivot and talk about /are we ready to pivot and talk about

I am just thinking out loud here,

I have some musings on why.

Question 19

承认一些大家都能理解的局限

Answer 19

I don’t have research to back this up b/c I can’t have control group

Question 20

Euphemism

Answer 20

1. It is not wrong. It is just flawed.
2. It is not I don’t want to. It is just it takes a bit of commitment.
3. It is not unugly. It is unattractive.

Question 21

Reframing

Answer 21

• “I hate myself” - it sounds like you are not super satisfied with your life and is looking for ways of improvement;
  
  • “I don’t think you love me” - it sounds like I didn’t love you the way you want to be loved a

Question 22

Compliment
- have that quality - ppl want the credits
- does not have that quality - cognitive Dissonance - loss aversion - they want that compliment to go on

Answer 22

• cuz we don’t want the compliment to stop e.g. that’s very self-disciplined and I admire that