love chapter Flashcards
what are the two primary perspectives of what love is
-Developmental science: childhood attachment and how love emerges between infants and caregivers
-Relationship science: romantic love how early childhood attachment can shape adulthood love relationships
problem with science about love
Emotion science does lag behind
Problem
-Love is complicated
-Varying perspectives from different sciences
-Love experiences vs. love relationships
-Milder experiences of love eclipses by intense connections
-Several constructs under umbrella term of love
-Desire, bonds, intimacy, commitments
solution to the problem
New perspective on love that emanates from emotion science while taking developmental and relationship sciences into consideration
Define; love is a pleasant and momentary experience of connection with another person or persons
-Constructs are viewed as products of accumulation of the fleeting experiences of love
-Relationships formed by accumulation of love experiences over time
what is the new perspective of love
love as micro moments of positivity resonance
what are the three core elements of positivity resonance
-Biobehavioral synchrony (developmental)
-Mutual care (relationship)
-Shared positive emotion (emotion science)
explain biobehavioral synchrony
-Resonance of both observable behaviors and unobservable mind and states emotions
-Arises from studies of infants and caregivers (still faced paradigm, caregiver depression)
-Synching of rhythms, verbalizations, facial expressions, eye contact
-These processes can occur automatically and effortlessly, innate form of intimacy and a way to find and show delight in relating
explain mutual care
-Mutual investment in well-being of other, for other’s sake
-Mutual perceived partner responsiveness to self
-Bidirectional transaction
-Present in childhood attachments, romantic attachments, social attachments, and even in brief encounters with strangers
what is shared positive emotion
Love feelings in multiple forms not just one: amusement, joy, serenity, gratefulness, pride, awe
-Quote about love not just being another positive emotion, but a momentary phenomenon in which we become a part of something larger than ourselves, day-to-day shared positivity
positivity resonance products
-Foundation for desire
-Motivates secure attachments
-Accumulation builds trust and loyalty
-Seeds social bonds
-Broaden and build
positivity resonance research
-Preliminary studies support theory
-Research remains scant
-Future research: develop valid and reliable measures of positivity resonance and utilize longitudinal research
positivity resonance theoretical implications
Fresh take on Duchenne smiles
-Genuine smile when you actually mean it
-In a fake smile the corners of your mouth go up, in a real smile the corners of your eyes also scrunch up
Blurs boundaries surrounding concept of emotion
Practical implications: improvement for individuals, couples, friends, families, communities, inform these therapies as well
preconditions of positivity resonance
-Perceived safety
-Sensory connection
