LESSON 9 Flashcards
involve the act of relating and allowing your person to connect with
others.
Personal Relationships
examples of teenage relationships
parents & family
friends & peers
romantic relationships
casual relationships
- integral part of your lives
- likely to emulate and imbibe the behaviors and attitudes
- The level of closeness to, support of and communication with the family can have an impact on your future romantic relationships.
Parents and Family
can be your stronghold and support, providing you with sense of belonging, value and security. They can be a source of information related to physical and emotional during this stage of development.
Friends and Peers
- part of the major developmental
milestone that involves the physical, social and emotional aspects of a person, partly characterized by his/her growing interest and desire for independence, space, and privacy. - relating with the element and taste of romance
Romantic Relationship
a pleasurable feeling based on attraction to another person
Romance
- This type of relationship without a real and defined sense of seriousness and commitment.
- may mean non-committal
- Depth and intensity are not part of
this kind of relationship. For adolescents, this is a passing experience and may not have a strong reason to look back to
Casual Relationship
act, process, or power of attracting and evoking interest, pleasure, liking for someone
attraction
forms of attraction
crush
courtship
- An adolescent may be attracted to another person
- can be romantic or intense infatuation for someone.
crush
Emulating the observed admirable qualities of the person can be considered an
identity crush
This includes stages in the romantic relationship whereby one gets to
know more about other person in an exclusive manner through dating. Some go dating to simply be with each other.
courtship
a stage where two individuals
officially decide to deepen their relationship by leveling up their commitment through higher exclusivity.
Going Steady
engaging in an exclusive relationship is a
preparation for marriage (T or F)
T
- You can easily declare that you are in love.
Being in love, for most people, may mean being very happy, or being on cloud nine, or living in a dream land. Love is deeper than this feeling.
Love
3 components of Love (Psychologist Zick Rubin)
attachment
caring
intimacy
refers to the desire for the presence of
the other person, which includes emotional support.
Attachment
refers to the concern for the other person’s
well-being.
Caring
refers to the desire for privacy, closeness
and communication.
Intimacy
a cognitive process. It happens in the mind and is a conscious effort to decision to love another person.
- helps maintain and sustain relationships despite varied challenges (Sternberg)
Commitment
Components of Love (Sternberg)
passion
intimacy
commitment
Adolescents have their particular ways of expressing attraction, love and commitment. (Acceptable)
Glancing at your crush
sending positive messages and
encouraging words
writing letters
going on group dates
building friendships are acceptable expressions
Adolescents have their particular ways of expressing attraction, love and commitment. (Unacceptable)
- determined based on varied perspectives such as religion and social norms
- schools define unacceptable behavior through the students’ handbook
ex. public display of affection.