Key terms from readings Flashcards
Singlism
Prejudice and discriminations against those who choose to remain single and opt not to devote them-selves to a primary romantic relationship
technoference
frequent interruptions of their interactions that are caused by their various technological devices
phubbing
one partner snubs the other by focusing on a phone
Instrumental traits
Masculine task-oriented traits
expressive traits
feminine social and emotional skills
humility
a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness
sociometer
measures the quality of relationships with others
parental investment
time and energy one must provide in order to preproduce
paternity uncertainity
how certain you are your child is yours
a women can be 100% sure a man cannot
Sources of change
Economic changes, increasing individualism, new technology, sex ratio
high sex ratio versus low sex ratio
high -> more men -> more traditional
low -> more women -> less traditional
waist-to-hip ratio
men find women attractive when their waist is noticeably smaller than their hips
matching
romantic partners tend to have similar attractiveness
complementarity
when two partners have different skills, each is usually happy to allow the other to take the lead on those tasks at which the other in more talented
Positive illusions
Portray partner is best possible light
mix of realistic knowledge and idealized perceptions of them
attributions
Explanations we generate for why things happen
marital paradigms
Beliefs of when how and when we should get married
Ingratiation
Do nice things so that we get a good image of ourselves
supplication
Pretend you cant do something so that others will do it for you
Display rules
cultural norms that dictate what emotions are appropriate in particular situations
visual dominance ratio
Look in the eye when they speak look more when you speak (usually vise versa)
behavior description
tell partner what is on our mind and focus on behaviors that CAN be changed
Social exchange
Two people offer each other rewards
principle of lesser interest
Partner who depends less on a relationship has more power
5-to-1
To stay satisficed in a relationship we need a rewards costs ratio of 5-1
self expansion model
we are attracted to partnerships that expand the range of our interests, skills, and experiences
What causes unanticipated costs
lack of effort, interdependency is a magnifying glass, access to weaponry, unwelcome surprises, unrealistic expectations
investment model
commitment emerges from all elements of social exchange that are associated with peoples CLs and CLalts
commitment readiness
when one feels unprepared and incapable of planning a future with anyone
personal commitment
When people want to continue a relationship because they are attracted to their partners and the relationship is satisfying
constraint commitment
When people feel they have to continue a relationship because it would be too costly for them to leave
moral commitment
have a moral obligation to your partner
ex: feel it is morally wrong to end a marriage
Willingness to sacrifice
give up own self interests for the good of the relationship
derogation of tempting alternative
judge other potential partners to be less attractiveness than they would seem to be if we were single or unattached
reduces allure of those who might otherwise entice us away from out potential partners
Capitalization
give good news to our friends and receive enthusiastic, rewarding responses
Invisible support
dyadic withdrawal
people see more and more of their lover and therefore less and less of their friends
Socioemotional selectivity theory
old people have less connections but have just as many close friends. Because they have different interpersonal goals compared to younger people.
social loneliness
we lack a social network of friends and acquaintances
emotional loneliness
we lack affection and emotional support from at least one intimate relationship
