Infidelity

Question 1

What are the steps to reconciliation and restoration?

Answer 1

1. Join with couple
2. Evaluate necessary pre-reqs for treatment (affair has ended, willingness to work in counseling)
3. Assess marital health (history of marital health, ind health, projected ease of treatment)
4. Give hope - people can heal
5. Present a plan

Question 2

What are the necessary pre-requisites for treatment after infidelity?

Answer 2

1. affair has ended
2. willingness to work
3. willingness to be in counseling

Question 3

How long does it take to rebuild trust after infidelity?

Answer 3

1-2 years

Question 4

True or false: The spouse that was cheated on can forgive too quickly.

Answer 4

TRUE: the cheated on spouse needs to deal with the hurt in order to heal.

Question 5

Is it easier to get over a one-night stand or an emotional affair?

Answer 5

one night stands are easier to recover from

Question 6

What percentage of married couples have affairs?

Answer 6

15-30%

Question 7

True or false: couples dealing with infidelity often present with confusion and overwhelm

Answer 7

True. They often don’t think they can heal from it and don’t know where to start.

Question 8

List 5 legitimate questions concerning marital betrayal

Answer 8

1. How and when did you meet?
2. Who pursued who in the relationship?
3. Who else knew of your relationship?
4. How much money did you spend on him/her?
5. What attracted you to him/her?
6. When did the relationship become sexual?
7. How do you feel about him/her now?
8. Has there ever been anyone else?

Question 9

List possible interferences to the reconciliation process

Answer 9

1. A lingering obsession
2. Justification:
   “I was wrong — but not really” attitude
3. Resentment
4. Lingering attachment
5. Control issues