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Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the UL of the client.
(INSIDE ME: think, feel, sense, see, intend.)
What does the client want to accomplish? Why is this important?
What would it look/feel like if the objectives were met?
Explore how the client sees, relates to their topic / to the world: how does he explain it / feel about it? What value? Assumptions, expectations? Aware/ Not aware of?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the UL of the coach.
- Is my heart open?
- What am I feeling?
- What do my guts say?
- What images come to mind?
- Am I grounded?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the UR of the client.
(OUTSIDE ME: What I do that’s observable.)
- What have they done about their topic up to now?
- What has worked? Not worked?
- What is the impact of this topic on client’s body and agency?
- What practices are they currently engaged in?
- What are the day to day routines?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the UR of the coach.
- What position(s) / posture is my body taking?
- Heart rate? Energy flow?
- What is my tone and style of speaking?
- Am I covering what needs to be covered on the checklist?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the LL of the client.
(INSIDE WE: My perspective & yours shared meaning.)
- What is the cultural setting and relationships involved in the topic?
- What is the impact of this topic on relationships and groups involved?
- To what degree and in what form are relationships and groups part of the client’s day-to-day world?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the LL of the coach.
- What kind of relationship are we (am I) cultivating?
- To what degree am I distinct yet connected?
- Am I able to see the world through their eyes?
- Are expectations being clarified?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the LR of the client.
(OBJECTIVE WE: What we do, institute, are supported by, build, produce.)
- Where does this topic ‘fit’ in terms of systems, processes & structures?
- What do these groups do, build, produce?
- To what degree does the client draw upon systemic knowledge, processes, environment, structure in day to day?
Intake inquiry worksheet: some questions to shine light on the LR of the coach.
- Am I using the Assessment Lenses and Intake Conversation Process to learn about the client`s AQAL Constellation and their topic?
- What profiles of the client and the topic are taking shape as information is gathered?
What are the 4 steps during an Intake conversation?
1) Opening
2) Learn about the Client and the topic
3) Clarify expectations
4) Closing and path forward
Sequence of the ‘Opening’ (Intake):
- Establish connection
- Ensure there’s a shared understanding of the purpose and focus of this Conversation
- Describe what you will be doing (and not doing) during the meeting
- Learn what they know about coaching and how they feel about it.
- Provide an overview of the Integral Coaching approach to change & development.
Sequence of the ‘Learn about the Client and the Topic’ (Intake):
- Ask questions that help to gain clarity as to what actually is their coaching topic, making sure that you are both on the ‘same page’ of understanding.
- Ask questions that help to learn more about the way in which the client sees, relates to and approaches their topic (their way of being).
- While following the tread, use the dimensions of the quadrants and lines lenses to guide the formulation of questions so that you are shining the light on these various dimensions.
Sequence of the ‘Clarify Expectations’ (Intake):
- Discuss what it means to be in a Coaching Relationship - that it calls for working on the subjective and objective aspects of their topic and development.
- Discuss what a coaching relationship looks like and requires and what you can offer.
- Discuss what it will require of the client.
- Answer any questions the client has of you.
Sequence of the ‘Closing and Path Forward’ (Intake):
- How was this conversation for you?
- Reach an agreement to go forward or stop here.
- Describe the next steps in the process and the focus of the next meeting.
- Schedule sessions for your work together.
- Agree on how you will communicate between now and then.
Explain the ‘Lens’ through which we arise… our Current Way of Being:
- It is our unique way of perceiving ourselves, others, the world.
- Our Current Way of Being has a particular structure defining what we uniquely
a) can see (and not see), our Way of Seeing,
b) actions that we think are available to us (and not), our Way of Going and
c) ways we check for how things are going, our way of checking.
Explain the Subject - Object Theory:
- I am the ‘subject’, I live as a ‘subject’, it is my identity.
It is simply Me: My way of perceiving, acting, being that I am not usually aware that I am living from. - Development tends to occur when the ‘subject’ as unconscious driver in my life becomes seen by me so that I have a way to work with it consciously.
- Once it becomes “seen” by me, I am no longer identified as the “I” (subject) that has now become the “It” (object).
- Subject becomes object and becomes integrated as I transcend to my next developmental step.
Explain step 1 for changing Awareness of the Current Way of Being (past-based):
- What has been an unconscious driver in the client’s way of approaching their topic needs to become conscious and accessible.
Explain step 2 for changing the Access to a New Way of Being (possible future):
- The client needs to have access to a New Way of Being in their topic that includes and transcends the parameters of the Current Way of Being.
- This gives the client a new vision, a new future way of Seeing, Going & Checking that opens up new possibilities towards fulfilling their topic.
Explain step 3 for changing the Embodiment through Cycles of Development:
- Awareness of ‘what is’ and being inspired by ‘what is possible’ are essential for change and it isn’t enough to sustain change.
- New capabilities need to become embodied in the client’s body, heart, mind and spirit through Cycles of Development that enable the client to be aware of their Current Way arising in real time and not follow it and to build the new muscles needed to inhabit their New Way of Being.
What is the purpose of the Offer conversation?
- You set the context and focus for the entire Coaching Program.
- You bring to light for the client their Current Way of Being in their topic in a way that they have never seen before.
- You open up a whole New Way of Being in their topic that takes them beyond any possibility they would have come up with on their own.
- You lay out the map of the focus and approach of the Coaching Program and the first step(s).
What are the 5 steps during an Offer conversation?
- Establish a connection
- Bring forward ‘offers’ of Way of Being
- Walk through the Coaching Program
(Give them a written copy, upgrade as needed) - Introduce the Self-Observation Exercise
(Give them a written copy, upgrade as needed) - Close the conversation
Sequence of the ‘Bring forward ‘offers’ of Way of Being’ (Offer):
- Offer your sense of their Current Way of Being in the topic.
(Check in for ‘fit’ with the client and have them elaborate on the meaning of this to them) - Honor what this Current Way of Being has allowed for up to now.
(See if there is anything they would add) - Acknowledge what this Current Way of Being is closing down.
(See if there is anything they would add) - Offer a New Way of Being in the topic.
(Check for ‘fit’ with the client and have them elaborate on the meaning of this to them) - Speak to what this New Way of Being could allow for regarding their topic
(See if there is anything they would add)
Sequence of the ‘Walk through the Coaching Program’ (Offer):
- Confirm the Coaching Topic (What and Why)
- Go through the Development Objectives explaining ‘why these’, how they link to CWOB and NWOB and the coaching topic.
- Confirm the estimated duration of the Coaching Program.
- Discuss what this program will involve in terms of their involvement as well as the general process.
Sequence of the ‘Introduce the Self-Observation Exercise’ (Offer):
- Explain purpose of an Self-Observation Exercise.
- Show the focus of this SOE links to their Current Way of Being.
- Walk through the SOE and make sure it both makes sense and is ‘doable’.
- Speak to what might ‘get in the way’ of fully engaging in this exercise and how to attend to this.
Sequence of the ‘Close the Conversation’ (Offer):
- Anything else they want to ask
- Acknowledge client’s willingness to be in this work
- Agree on next time will meet
Sequence of the ‘Establish a connection’ (Offer):
- Connect with your client and let them connect with you.
- Anything new that has come up for them since the Intake Coaching Conversation.
- Confirm the purpose of today’s conversation.
What are the four components of ILP?
- Body
- Mind
- Shadow
- Spirit
What are the ‘mini-practices’ of Integral Life for the Body?
Physical Exercise: 3 times each week for 20 minutes.
While engaging in exercise, be aware of your body, your breath, your sensations of being tense or relaxed, energized or depleted. Be aware of the environment that your are in. Get curios WHILE you are in the exercise that you choose.
What are the ‘mini-practices’ of Integral Life for the Mind?
a) Journal Writing: 10 minutes 5 day a week.
One of the cornerstones of Integral Coaching includes the ability to self-reflect and learn from the perspectives that you are gaining access to throughout the Module.
b) AQAL Scan (Perspective taking): On Going Practice
It can be done at various moments throughout the day. The ability to take and hold multiple perspectives is a critical competency as an Integral Coach
What are the ‘mini-practices’ of Integral Life for the Shadow?
Projection & Categorizing: Use for focused periods of time.
a) When do you notice that you are projecting your way of being or your way of finding solutions on to your client? When are you giving them a practice that you think you should be doing or perhaps giving them something that ‘you did’ and so ‘if they did it too’ it would help them out? Use your Coaching Journal when you are taking your perspective into account and not your client’s. Try speaking as though you are the client using “I” language.
b) Be aware of categorizations you make like deciding things are “good” or “ bad” … ways of splitting off various aspects of yourself or your client.
Again use your Coaching Journal.
What are the different perspectives you can take in the AQAL Scan?
- INSIDE ME (Feel inside of me…):
- Notice my thoughts, feelings
- What does my ‘I-ness’ feel like in this moment? - OUTSIDE ME (Feel my physical body…):
- Notice my posture and the overall state of my body
- What does my physical being feel like in this moment? - INSIDE WE (Feel into ‘us’…):
- Notice what it feels like to be in relationship… in this ‘we’
- What does the ‘we-ness’ feel like in this moment? - OUTSIDE WE (Feel into the physical space…
- Notice how it is supporting you… us
- What does this physical space feel like in this moment?
What are the ‘mini-practices’ of Integral Life for the Spirit?
Mindfulness Practice: 10 - 15 minutes 5 days a week.
Engage in a ‘mindful pratice’ or ‘sitting practice’ or ‘meditation’. It supports your development in terms of your ability to be present, to be still, to have quieted your mind so that you can hear the client…
What is the purpose of Cycles Of Development Coaching Conversation?
This type of Coaching Conversation is about richly learning and building upon the client’s experience of having engaged in self-observation exercises and practices and as well as determining the next step in their developmental cycle.
- Continue to hear and see the patterns of the client’s CWOB showing up as you look for evidence of their NWOB.
- Using all four quadrants speak to the progress and impacts.
- Explore the degree to which they are developing the capabilities that the current exercises and practices have been designed to develop.
Explain Otto Scharmer’s “U” Model:
Download (past info) - Suspending the download to see from the outside - Redirecting attention to sensing from within SENSING - Letting go (highest possible) Future - Letting come PRESENCING - Crystallizing what is envisioned - Enacting or prototyping: Moving to action with small steps cycles Embody (institutionalize) REALIZING
What are the 3 important pilars of the Integral Coaching Method?
- Current Way Of Being:
Metaphor for client’s curent way of Seeing, Going, Checking - Cycles of Development:
Building new muscles to integrate (INCLUDE) healthy aspects ofCWOB and grow into NWOB (TRANSCEND) - New Way of Being
Metaphor for client’s new way of Seeing, Going, Checking
What is critical to do after naming the CWoB in their coaching topic?
- To specifically and directly “honor” what this way of being has allowed for up until now.
What it has allowed for in this client’s life up until now (honoring)
- To be able to directly name what this way of being is preventing, not allowing for, or ‘closing down’ as it relates to the client pursuing the topic that has been brought forward.
What it is closing down or preventing in the client’s life now (limitations), particularly in their topic.
What is the natural developmental tension between the two Ways of Being, between CW and NW?
CW longs to preserve itself, stay intact, stay predictable and reliable to keep the client ‘safe’.
NW calls for progression, development, moving to a new level of development, breaking new ground.
Name the Integral Coaching Relationship:
I: RIGHT MIND & HEART
- Openness, appreciation, integrity
- Intuition and sensing ability
- Honest, grounded, compassionate
IT: RIGHT BODY
- Rested, relaxed physical container
- Ability to objectively assess
- Ability to monitor change & behavioral development
WE: RIGHT RELATIONSHIP
- Responsibility to own parts of the coaching work
- Mutual regard
- Appropriate “fit”
- Able to speak difficult items
ITS: RIGHT PROCESS & METHOD
- Accurate use of Integral Coaching tools
- Ongoing use of assessment
- Development models
- Appropriate space for meetings
Why is the ability to pause so important?
1) We need the ability to pause to be able to notice when our actions are in disagreement with our intentions.
2) We need to actually observe what is occurring in this moment and to discern what is required in this moment. Right here. Right now. And not based on what we planned or what we are unconsciously carrying out but on what is actually going on.
Note:
Without the ability to pause, observe, or reflect, our actions, words, and ways of perceiving are primarily driven out of reflex or ‘doing what we have always done’.
How old is your past? How young is your future?
The future is not known and therefore, our weaker ‘behaviour muscles’ can tend to be those associated with how we wish to be or what we wish to do.
We don’t know how things will go. We don’t know if it will be safe. We don’t know if we can do/be the things we hope.
The past is reliable.
The future is uncertain and in the midst of uncertainty, we can tend to revert to old behaviours.
These behaviours are reliable even if they don’t support our new intentions for how we want to be.
What means pausing in the Integral Coaching® work?
Pausing is the ‘in-between’ step.
It lies in-between our old ways and our new ways.
It lies between this breath and the next one.
It lies in-between a conscious action and an unconscious reaction.
It is very difficult (if not impossible) to follow through on the statement, ‘I will just stop being one way and start being another’ as though we could just trade behaviors.
Identify the four components that make up the ‘Pause Competency’:
1) Pace
2) Space
3) Openness
4) Connectedness.
‘PAUSE COMPETENCY’ COMPONENTS:
What are the observed behaviors of ‘Pace’?
1) moving fast; speaking fast
2) next, next, next orientation
3) only noticing or looking for what facilitates moving faster
4) checks watch often
