How to Win an Argument - Details Flashcards
What is the only way to win an argument?
Avoid it.
What is the first thing you should do when you first disagree?
Distrust your first instinct as it is normally defensive.
How do you keep a disagreement from becoming an argument?
Welcome the disagreement.
What should you control when having a disagreement?
Control your temper.
What are three things you can do when having a disagreement?
- Listen first.
- Give your opponent a chance to talk.
- Let your opponent finish.
What three things should you NOT do when having a disagreement?
- Defend
- Debate
- Resist
What should you look for when having a disagreement?
Areas where you can agree.
What is the first thing(s) to talk about when your opponent finishes talking?
Areas where you can agree.
When you are wrong what should you do?
Admit it and apologize
What should you say if you are not sure about her or your position/ideas?
Promise to think the position over and do additional research.
What should you suggest if the discussion is going nowhere?
Postpone action until both parties can think through the discussion - and suggest a new meeting time later in the day or the next day.
What are six things to consider when preparing for a discussion?
- Could my opponents be right?
- Is their truth or merit in their position?
- Will my reaction drive opponents or others away or draw them closer to me.
- Will my reactions elevate me in the eyes of others?
- Will it be a good thing if I win?
- Is winning this topic really that important?
