Headway Learnings Flashcards
What are the three steps to become free of the niceness cage?
- Decide not to be nice.
- Do the ‘not nice’ things that you usually are to shy to try.
- Work through the internal backlash afterward.
How do you work through the internal backlash of being ‘not nice’?
You will feel guilty
This is all you know
Do not allow these thoughts in your head from years of social conditioning break your resolve
How do you decide not to be nice?
It’s a mindset
You have to decide to:
- Stand up for yourself
- Say what you want
- Enforce your rights
How do you actually do the ‘not nice’ things you’re usually too shy to do?
You have to become aware of those things.
List out all of the ‘not nice’ things that would help you become more authentic.
What are the 5 habits of effective thinking (acronyms)?
Earth
Air
Fire
Water
Change
What does Earth stand for in the 5 habits of effective thinking?
- understand the basics deeply
- it’s the foundation of what you stand on
What does Air stand for in the 5 habits of effective thinking?
- Question everything; even things you know.
- Challenge assumptions
- Ask probing questions
- Provides an opening to insight
What does Fire stand for in the 5 habits of effective thinking?
- Mistakes - they are failures that you learn from.
- Expect to fail 9 times before resolving something
- Effective failure is the path to success
What does Water stand for in the 5 habits of effective thinking?
- Flow of ideas
- incremental evolutions of ideas and problems
- Ideas began in the past and will continue to the future
- New ideas are built on the ideas of past ideas
What does Change stand for in the 5 habits of effective thinking?
- It is constant and things will always be changing
- Constructive Change - don’t be afraid to change yourself
- Doing things differently is to do things better (writing w/your eyes closed vs open)
- Let people help you
- Come up with a plan for what you want
- Feelings cloud our judgment
- Expect and embrace change
- Perfectionism is a myth
