Gottman and Tannen

Question 1

What is a characteristic of “report-talk” in male conversations?

Answer 1

maintaining status

Question 2

What cultural factor does Tannen suggest impacts American communication styles?

Answer 2

Gender-specific language socialization

Question 3

Why is recognizing bids important in a relationship?

Answer 3

It fosters connection and understanding

Question 4

Which action exemplifies turning toward a bid?

Answer 4

Responding with empathy and curiosity

Question 5

What is an example of report-talk

Tannen Method

Answer 5

Men negotiating status in conversation

Question 6

What is the primary focus of the Gottman Method in couples therapy?

Answer 6

Understanding and responding to bids for connection

Question 7

What is the purpose of an emotional bank account

Gottman Method

Answer 7

build trust through positive interactions

Question 8

what is a benefit of building rituals of connection?

Gottman Method

Answer 8

Strengthening the relationship bond

Question 9

What is the primary role of “report-talk”?

report talk pertains to men

Answer 9

Information sharing and maintaining status

fact based

Question 10

What is one example of a “bid” in a relationship?

Answer 10

Asking for advice

Question 11

What is the goal of the Gottman Method in relationship building?

Answer 11

To cultivate a deeper sense of intimacy and trust

Question 12

What can “troubles talk” cause when misinterpreted by men, according to Tannen?

Answer 12

It may be taken too literally

Question 13

What is an “emotional bank account” in the Gottman Method?

Answer 13

The accumulation of positive interactions in a relationship

Question 14

What effect does turning toward bids have on the emotional bank account?

Answer 14

It builds trust and connection

Question 15

In the context of the Gottman Method, what are “bids”?

Answer 15

Attempts to connect with a partner

Question 16

How does “high involvement” speaking differ from “high considerateness”?

Answer 16

High involvement includes more enthusiastic support

Question 17

How does Tannen believe cross-cultural understanding could help relationships?

Answer 17

By reducing misunderstandings between genders

Question 18

What is Tannen’s suggested approach to gender differences in communication?

Answer 18

View them as cross-cultural

Question 19

What is “turning away” in response to a bid?

Answer 19

Ignoring or missing the bid

Question 20

What does turning toward a partner’s bid create?

Answer 20

Emotional safety and intimacy

Question 21

What percentage of bids did couples who divorced turn toward each other?

Answer 21

33%

Question 22

Which action demonstrates “deepening emotional attunement”?

Answer 22

Actively tuning into the partner’s bids

Question 23

Why do women often use “rapport-talk” according to Tannen?

Answer 23

To create closeness and understanding

Question 24

What does Tannen claim is essential for cross-cultural understanding between genders?

Answer 24

Awareness of gender-specific communication styles

Question 25

What might “high considerateness” speakers avoid in conversation?

Answer 25

Overlapping speech

Question 26

How does Tannen describe “one-upmanship” in conversation?

Answer 26

A tendency to maintain superiority

Question 27

How does the Gottman Method encourage emotional attunement?

Answer 27

By responding positively to bids

Question 28

Why does Tannen believe boys learn competitive communication?

Answer 28

To avoid feeling subordinate