Gottman and Tannen Flashcards
What is a characteristic of “report-talk” in male conversations?
maintaining status
What cultural factor does Tannen suggest impacts American communication styles?
Gender-specific language socialization
Why is recognizing bids important in a relationship?
It fosters connection and understanding
Which action exemplifies turning toward a bid?
Responding with empathy and curiosity
What is an example of report-talk
Tannen Method
Men negotiating status in conversation
What is the primary focus of the Gottman Method in couples therapy?
Understanding and responding to bids for connection
What is the purpose of an emotional bank account
Gottman Method
build trust through positive interactions
what is a benefit of building rituals of connection?
Gottman Method
Strengthening the relationship bond
What is the primary role of “report-talk”?
report talk pertains to men
Information sharing and maintaining status
fact based
What is one example of a “bid” in a relationship?
Asking for advice
What is the goal of the Gottman Method in relationship building?
To cultivate a deeper sense of intimacy and trust
What can “troubles talk” cause when misinterpreted by men, according to Tannen?
It may be taken too literally
What is an “emotional bank account” in the Gottman Method?
The accumulation of positive interactions in a relationship
What effect does turning toward bids have on the emotional bank account?
It builds trust and connection
In the context of the Gottman Method, what are “bids”?
Attempts to connect with a partner
How does “high involvement” speaking differ from “high considerateness”?
High involvement includes more enthusiastic support
How does Tannen believe cross-cultural understanding could help relationships?
By reducing misunderstandings between genders
What is Tannen’s suggested approach to gender differences in communication?
View them as cross-cultural
What is “turning away” in response to a bid?
Ignoring or missing the bid
What does turning toward a partner’s bid create?
Emotional safety and intimacy
What percentage of bids did couples who divorced turn toward each other?
33%
Which action demonstrates “deepening emotional attunement”?
Actively tuning into the partner’s bids
Why do women often use “rapport-talk” according to Tannen?
To create closeness and understanding
What does Tannen claim is essential for cross-cultural understanding between genders?
Awareness of gender-specific communication styles
What might “high considerateness” speakers avoid in conversation?
Overlapping speech
How does Tannen describe “one-upmanship” in conversation?
A tendency to maintain superiority
How does the Gottman Method encourage emotional attunement?
By responding positively to bids
Why does Tannen believe boys learn competitive communication?
To avoid feeling subordinate
