final exam Flashcards
2 types of questioning responses
closed: for yes/no answers or precise information
open: for more information or elaboration
empathy formula
you feel because
youre feeling because
examples of questioning responses
closed: what is your cats name?
open: what is your cat like?
what is paraphrasing
to confirm with the speaker that you have been listening and heard them correctly
3 parts of a perception check
- Description of behaviour
- 2 possible interpretations of behaviour
- Request feedback
4 steps of perception process
Selection
Organization
Interpretation
Negotiation
Selection
of the data we will pay attention or notice
Depends on:
Intensity
repetition
contrast
change
motives
emotional state
Organization/observations
of the data that we notice into a meaningful packages
organizing perceptions of people and events
split into:
physical traits
role based
interaction-based
psychological
past experiences
Interpretation
making sense of the data that we have constructed
Dependent on:
degree of involvement
relational satisfaction
past experiences
assumptions about human behaviour
expectations and knowledge of others
Negotiation
process by which communicators influence one another’s perceptions through communication
only one that informs other peoples perceptions
difference between sympathy and empathy
s: feeling bad or good for someone, having compassion
e: feeling bad or good with someone, experiencing it with them
“I” language
takes responsibility for personal feelings
less defence provoking
can be egotistical or self absorbed
“We” language
signals inclusion and commitment
can speak improperly for others
“you” language
signals other orientation, particularly when topic is positive
can be judgemental or accusatory esp during confrontation
passive
- Inability or unwillingness to express thoughts or feelings in a conflict
- Often comes from lack of confidence, awareness, or skill
- Sometimes people are aware but choose to behave passively
aggression
Lashing out to attack source of displeasure
Non-verbal emblems (shaking fist, waving arms)
Character attacks
Swearing
Ridicule
Can result in a destructive spiral
assertion
Facing conflict directly, trying to find solutions that meet needs of everyone in relationship
Speaker’s statement expresses thoughts and feelings clearly, without attacking the other person