Final Flashcards
Differences begets childhood and adolescent friendship
Childhood friends talk about sharing, helping and common activities. ( friendship means having companions)
Adolescent friend talk about common interests, similar attitude/values, loyalty and commitment (friendship means having strong bonds)
Components of intimacy (4)
1) feeling of emotional closeness/ emotional bonds
2) interconnectedness - concern for each other
3) disclose private information
4) sharing of common interests and activities
How do adolescent shows good intimacy skills?
Be honest and self disclosing
Know how to engage in trust and feel disappointed when someone is breaks their trust
Cognitive changes allow adolescents to have …
Better understanding of social relations
- I.e. Advances in social understanding, self disclosure, sensitivity and empathy
Changes in social roles give adolescents ….
Opportunities to be with friends alone
Through friends they acquire emotional experiences
Develop social autonomy
Spend hours in conversation
Physical changes give adolescent
Bring common concerns
Interest in romance
Emerging sexuality
How does having a secure attachment with parents impact intimate relations with peers?
1) advanced social competencies (trust)
2) internal working model (beliefs and expectations of the relationship
3) allows one to talk enter more satisfying intimate relationship
4) ability to be more assertive and autonomous
How does insecure attachment with parents impact intimate relations with peers?
1) more sensitive to rejection
2) more emotional problems
3) more behaviours problems
- anxious avoidant –> indifference/avoids
- anxious/ resistant –> distress and anger
Reaction vrs sensitivity
Adolescent is a time of heightened sensitivity
- some adolescent at normal, some are highly vulnerable to rejection (rejection sensitive), often ending up being excluded (mind =reality)
- high risk of depression and anxiety
What traits develop from a secure attachment ?
Less anger
Appropriate assertiveness
Autonomy
What are the likely outcomes of secure attachment?
1) More stable relationships
2) more social competence
3) school success
4) less likely to be involved in drugs and alcohol
What traits develop from insecure attachment?
1) anger
2) sadness
3) can be dependent and independent
What are the outcomes of insecure attachment
Many problems including
1) maladaptive coping
2) mental health problems ( depression, anxiety, eating disorders, etc.)
Intimacy in the physiological sense means
Formation, maintenance and termination of close relationships
Sullivan’s perception of interpersonal needs and how they are met at:
1) Infancy
2) Early childhood
3) Middle childhood
4) Preadolescence
5) Middle adolescence
5) late adolescence
1) Infancy - Parental interaction
2) Early childhood - Play
3) Middle childhood - Playmates
4) Preadolescence - need for intimacy = a few close friends (a consensual relation where individuals learn value of supportive caring relations and which provides foundation for later relations)
5) Middle adolescence - Interest in opposite gender (mixed groups)
5) late adolescence - Opposite sex relationship
Erikson’s perspective on the development of intimacy.
Intimacy vrs isolation
- pseudo-intamcy stage
- Need to develop ability to have relations composed of selflessness, sexuality and deep devotion.
- Failure leads to loneliness and isolation.
Pseudo-intamcy means ….
during this stage
1) formation of identity (rather then a pseudo identity) is important for true intimacy
2) identity intimacy influences
Elements of intimacy
1) greater importance on shared values/attitudes
2) Have intimate knowledge of friends
3) Intimate self disclosure
What is jealously?
Concerns about loyalty and rejection due to low self esteem and high rejection sensitivity.
Skill adolescents learn as they mature to stable intimate relations
1) Increased sensitivity to feelings and need for friends - responsiveness
2) provide comfort if having problems - conflict resolution
3) less controlled and more tolerant of individuality
4) better at problem solving
Differences between male and female problem solving ?
Girls = more self disclosure, more intimate
Boys = less intimate (homophobia?)
No difference in initiate knowledge
Males and problem solving
Conflicts are briefer (can be physical)
Conflicts are about power and control
Resolved by letting go
Female conflict
More likely to mention intimacy-sensitivity and be empathetic
Expresses greater interest and concern
More intimate conversation
More likely to ruminate
Reasons for conflict in adolescents
1) over loyalty
2) over anxiety about rejection
3) over anxieties about betrayal or break in confidence
Only resolved through apology
4 stages of developing a bond
1) infatuation - interest in socializing with prospective partners
2) status -focus establishing, improving and maintaining peer status
3) intimate - establishing true and meaningful attachments
4) focus on commitment, (caring more than passion and pleasure)
Why is late dating better ?
- Associated with improved mental health
What are the positive impacts of parents peers and media on intimacy?
Parents: model good relationships, provide answers, constructive feedback and provide support
Peers: provide social support, have shared experience = similar perspective and a degree of expertise.
Media: pseudo friends
How does witnessing violence effect intimacy ?
Increased relational difficulties, verbal and physical aggression
Dating violence results in ….
A) suicidal thought
B) illegal drug use
C) premature pregnancy
D) school drop out
Negative impact of parents, peers and media violence on intimacy?
Parents: insecure attachment, relational conflict and fighting between parents and teens
Peers: frequent conversations abut personal problems leads to too much introspection and provides opposites for jealousy, Insecurity, conflict and mistrust among peers
Media: glorified violence and sex = inappropriate models
3 categories of problem behaviours
1) internalizing disorders - depression, anxiety, eating disorders
2) externalizing disorders - aggression, delinquency, antisocial
3) substance abuse accompanies both internalizing and externalizing disorders
Comorbidity
More than one disorder - may include both internalizing and externalizing
E.g. Suicide or drugs and alcohol
Problems behaviour syndromes
Comorbidity of externalizing behaviours
- conduct disorders, juvenile delinquency
Biopsychosocial approach to problem behaviour
A) emphasizes the biological (brain)
B) psychological (thoughts, turmoil, learning)
C) social factors and interaction (cultural, economic, religion)