Final Flashcards
Breaking down conflicts from one big mass into several smaller, more manageable conflicts
Fractionation
Used to help people broaden their thinking, reflect, and build on integrative ideas; language that leads to moderated emotion; express appreciation and all the core concerns, use “we” language, involve people in decisions that affect them and show respect by asking for opinions and advice from others
Use of positive language and strong emotions
The most effective level of intensity for resolving emotionally-charged conflicts; XYZ formula for clarity
mid-range of emotions (zone of effectiveness)
When you do___
In situation ____
I feel ___________
X,Y,Z Formula for Clarity
Draws not on knowing about something but on clarity; we are clear when we can use all our senses to tell what is actually happening; change perspective
Awareness
We make space for our own feelings and the feelings of others; calm reflection leads to compassion
Compassion
Encourages new integrative outcomes because most conflicts are based on the perception of scarce resources; expanding the resources alters the structure of the conflict
Expanding the Pie
A process in which one of the parties is paid off with some creative form of compensation (i.e. trade-off, cost cutting, bridging)
Non-specific compensation
Occurs when one offers to trade off issues that are the top priority for the others, the arrange agreements so that each of you gets the top priority items while giving on the lower-priority item.
Trade-off (logrolling)
Minimizes the other’s costs for going along with you. For example you want to go skiing with your friend. She is overloaded with work, so you offer to ski only half a day and not let her incur the cost of missing all her work time.
Cost-cutting
Invents new options to meet the other side’s needs. You want to rent an apartment but it is too expensive. You discover that the landlord is concerned about the appearance of the property. So you offer her a rent amount somewhat below what she wants but agree to do 10 hours of fix it work each month. She receives property improvements, and you receive reduced rent.
Bridging
A process in which parties present their case before a judge or jury; assumes that parties are unable to solve their own conflicts, and a decision must be imported from outside
Adjudication
A third party is empowered to decide the outcome of a conflict; parties who cannot resolve their conflict go before one acting as an _______ or judge/jury to solve their conflict.
Arbitration
No power to render a decision or impose a solution; this person helps the parties themselves to work out their differences and to construct a mutually acceptable solution; helps the parties negotiate to reach agreement facilitated by this 3rd party.
Mediation
A dispute resolution option for those who are unable or unwilling to engage in mediation; requires a systems level of thinking and is designed to empower clients to handle conflict; can be integrated with other approaches
Coaching
Individuals, couples, and families often seek the services of a professional to help them resolve disputes; this person has certain credentials or licensing; focuses on all the issues at stake–the emotional and relational issues in addition to the topic dispute.
Counseling
Requires specific training or education; can be paid or unpaid; some religious organizations use a form of this; differ according to the degree to which conflict parties determine the final outcome+
Formal Intervention
The help or assistance of friends, neighbors, supervisors, peers, and other natural helpers in every day conflicts
Informal intervention
Whether you like it or not, you are what?
A negotiator
In the debate between hard and soft negotiation, what is a third way that is to decide issues on their merits rather than through a haggling process focused on what each side says it will and won’t do?
Principled negotiation
It is a growth industry meaning that more and more people want to be involved in making decisions that affect them.
What kind of industry is conflict?
It is an all purpose strategy and unlike others, if the other side learns this one, it doesn’t become more difficult to use, but becomes easier.
How are strategies of “Getting to Yes” different from other strategy books?
Position bargaining where each side takes a position, argues for it, and makes concessions to to reach a compromise.
What is the traditional form of negotiation? What does it mean?
1)It should produce a wise agreement if agreement is possible
2) It should be efficient
3) It should improve or at least not damage the relationships between the parties
A fair negotiation
Changing the game; a game about a game; negotiation on the merits
What metaphors do others use to describe the third, alternative option of negotiation?
1) Separate the people from the problem
2) Focus on interests, not positions
3) Invent options for mutual gain
4) Insist on using objective criteria
principled negotiation