Existentialism Flashcards
History of existential therapy
Not a formal school of psychotherapy
More of a philosophy/way of thinking
Integrated with other formalized approaches
Why are we afraid of death? Why are we here? Etc.
Kierkegaard and Nietzsche
Dehumanization of people in the technical world
Sartre
coined the word existentialism- brought philosophy that talks about the human condition (big, broad questions)
Choices matter
Rollo May
Classification of people is existential
Against objectification of human beings or making them all into institutions or robots
Talking about existentialism is un-existential
Understanding psychological distress arises from…
A confrontation with our existence
Theory of Personality
People are meaning-making beings who are subjects of experience of self-reflection
How you are viewed to the outside world
Can be in or out of our own awareness (may cause conflict)
What is the central conflict between?
The individual and the ultimate concern of existence
Big ultimate question
Are we living meaningfully?
Must live authentically
Theory of defenses
Drive –> anxiety –> Defenses
Existential theory
Ultimate concerns –> anxiety –> defenses
No such thing as human nature - everything is a choice
Anxiety is caused by the ultimate concerns
What does experiencing ‘angst’ lead to?
Being deeply troubled over the questions that lead to the defense mechanisms
Defense mechanisms come from…
The anxiety we face over overcoming the ultimate concerns
4 ultimate concerns
Freedom
Isolation
Meaning
Death
Freedom
We are the authors of our own lives
Puts a lot of responsibility on us
True freedom is confronting the ultimate concern and will drive us to try to escape the responsibilities
Try to escape where you feel like you have no choices
Not choosing is a choice
We have ultimate choice and that scares us
Givens in life and we can choose how we respond
Destiny
the patterns of the givens of life and then there are things that we think are givens, and we have to be able to tell the difference
We must confront the givens and choose how we respond
there are some things that we start out with that we can change and some things we think we can’t change but we really can and we need to choose how we respond to those things
Freedom requires…
Responsibility and Will
Living without taking responsibility is to live in bad faith
Failures of willing give rise to pathology
Impulsivity
Compulsivity
Decisional Panic
Impulsivity
An idea pops into their head and they just do it
Failure of willing because they aren’t being intentional
Compulsivity
Doing things that don’t make sense outwardly and don’t help us achieve things
Keep us stuck/doing things on repeat
Decisional Panic
Failure of willing where you have an inability to choose
We see people delegate the decisions and acting in a way that says the decision has been make for them and pretending they don’t have to make a decision
“I stopped at a red light, I didn’t have to - I would have made a choice to blow through the red”
This is an example of what ultimate concern?
Freedom
There are things that are set up to make it seem like we don’t have to make choices
Existentialists would tell us that it is a defense that makes us feel better
Must live authentically
Isolation
We can be isolated from ourselves, from others
idea of existential isolation in terms of what does it mean to exist
Requires balance between wish for contact and knowledge of aloneness
Interpersonal
Intrapersonal
Existential
Interpersonal
Isolated from others
Cannot fully share our consciousness with others
Can try to express ourselves, but we can never fully share that consciousness
Boundary and being ok with that boundary
Intrapersonal
Isolated from ourselves
Can be isolated from parts of ourselves that we aren’t fully conscious of (want to be fully conscious)
Can spill over into other parts- all tied together
Existential
Feeling of loneliness
Inherent aloneness in the universe
Born alone, die alone
Not necessarily that we feel lonely, loneliness is a function of interpersonal isolation; some barriers you put up
Defenses against isolation
Crave Witness
Fusion
Crave witness
Live lives as a way to buffer against feelings of isolation
Looking for how authentic someone is
Looking for people to provide us with services rather than relating to them authentically
Example- if you’re on a beach somewhere and no one knows who you are or you’re there, what is the purpose/meaning? Why are you there?
Example 2- Social media
Fusion
Let go of our boundaries
Awareness of interpersonal boundary between yourself and your partner (must have limits with that boundary)
If not- you will try to become your partner and adopt their preferences or beliefs
Example- when someone starts dating someone new and they become a new person
Example- Stephanie and AJ - Unrealistic expectations for what a relationship should look like especially around boundaries; desperation
Meaning
Ultimate concern with meaning
Search for a purpose
Existence precedes essence
Nothing will mean anything until we make meaning
How does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?