Exam Two

Question 1

Two assertions for this section of the course

Answer 1

the who i am question we see to avoid answering by being in a relationship are the questions we answer bc we are in a relationship

the who i am question is threatening and so tend to focus on the other member of the dyad by asking who are they and why do they act that way

Question 2

4 themes for the section of the course

Answer 2

interdependent tension (response interference) is a human universal
interdependent tension (unresolved) is an opportunity to clarify the relationship
Managed interdependent tension forces us to examine and clarify the sources of response interference
unmanaged interdependent tension can cause us to seek simple answers

Question 3

what does it mean for interdependent tension to be universal

Answer 3

it exists across time

Question 4

what causes us to face the “who am i” question

Answer 4

interdependent tension

Question 5

what is the takeaway from the movie Castaway

Answer 5

we are social by nature

Question 6

Baumeister and Leary

Answer 6

we have a need for belonging

Question 7

what does the need of belonging require of us

Answer 7

that we have a few people with whom we have frequent and mostly positive interactions

Question 8

what must we believe in order to feel like we belong

Answer 8

that one or more of our interaction partners will be in contact with us overtime with real emotional concern for us

Question 9

what is critical to our social interactions

Answer 9

self definition

Question 10

what about self definition makes relationships more difficult to manage

Answer 10

confronting our true self is hard for us

Question 11

to have any chance of developing a healthy relationship

Answer 11

we must develop an authentic self knowledge

Question 12

authentic self knowledge means

Answer 12

we are honest with ourselves about our strengths and limitations

Question 13

what does authentic self knowledge require with our partners

Answer 13

to be honest with them and reveal our true strengths and weaknesses
to be vulnerable to sharp teeth

Question 14

how is a relationship like being in a dance

Answer 14

coordinated and linked behavior

Question 15

what to do first and second in a relationship

Answer 15

learn and ackowledge your own tendencies

learn the other persons tendencies

Question 16

to be in a healthy relationship

Answer 16

you must know yourself first

Question 17

what pushes us towards authentic self knowledge

Answer 17

interdependent tension

Question 18

what is critical to the success of our social interactions

Answer 18

self definition

Question 19

three things in understanding the role of the self in social interaction

Answer 19

social psychologists have tried to determine what are the most useful ways about thinking about the self
we tried to study how knowledge of the self develops
we tried to determine what situations and circumstances the self influences behavior

Question 20

Useful ways of thinking about the self

Answer 20

self concept
self esteem
self schemata
self presentation
possible selves

Question 21

self esteem

Answer 21

you know what it is about you but do you like it

Question 22

self presentation

Answer 22

strategies for presenting ourselves in our social interactions

Question 23

possible selves

Answer 23

who will i be?

Question 24

how does knowledge of the self develop

Answer 24

through social interactions

Question 25

reflected appraisals

Answer 25

we see ourselves reflected in the way people react to us and the things we do

Question 26

how do we get to know who we truly are

Answer 26

in healthy relationships

Question 27

why do healthy relationships teach us who we are

Answer 27

it is only in encountering response interferences that we are forced to look beyond our ideal self to our real self

Question 28

unrealistic sense of self

Answer 28

someone making you feel you have someone wrong

Question 29

two general ways of thinking about the self that is useful

Answer 29

the self as the knower | the self as the known

Question 30

the self as the knower

Answer 30

the I the process of actively experiencing a moment or event also gives us a sense of continuity of experience overtime

Question 31

the self as known

Answer 31

the me | the self we experience when we become the object of our own observation

Question 32

Epstein says

Answer 32

the self is a theory that the individual has unwillingly constructed about themselves

Question 33

why do we pay attention to self esteen

Answer 33

it is an internal psychological monitor of something that is important to us

Question 34

being social equals

Answer 34

belongingness

Question 35

the self esteem system

Answer 35

designed to monitor and respond to other peoples responses to us

Question 36

when do we become objectively self aware

Answer 36

when the me is activated

Question 37

the theory of objective self awareness

Answer 37

a state of consciousness where are attention is focused exclusively on the self

Question 38

what does objective self awareness cause us to see within ourselves

Answer 38

the discrepancies between our real and ideal self

Question 39

why are we forced to look outward in self awareness

Answer 39

to avoid the pain of seeing our real self

Question 40

two reasons why psychological inconsistency is important

Answer 40

cognitive economic motivation | nature of attitudes

Question 41

cognitive economic system

Answer 41

made up of cognitive processes that serve to reduce and simplify that vast info that floods pepoles lives

Question 42

the purpose of simplifying

Answer 42

to finish efficient processes and not get overwhelmed

Question 43

cognitive shortcuts

Answer 43

the self | beuristics

Question 44

nature of attitudes

Answer 44

a predisposition to evaluate some objects positively or negatively

Question 45

any attitude has three components

Answer 45

cognition affect conation

Question 46

cognition

Answer 46

thikning-what you know

Question 47

affect

Answer 47

feeling/emotional

Question 48

conation

Answer 48

behavioral

Question 49

conation

Answer 49

behavioral

Question 50

cognitive consistency theory

Answer 50

we are motivated to keeo the components of an attitude consistent with each other

Question 51

cognitive dissonance theory

Answer 51

we experience dissonance when we are aware that we have at least two cognitions that are inconsisten

Question 52

the greater the dissonance you experience

Answer 52

the greater the pressure to relieve it

Question 53

cognitive elements

Answer 53

these are the things a person knows or believes about the world

Question 54

cognitive

Answer 54

how cognitive elements exist in relation to each other

Question 55

inconsistency causes

Answer 55

us to engage in person perception

Question 56

person perception

Answer 56

the act of a perceiver encountering another person and forming impressions of and possible making attribution about the other person

Question 57

attributional analysis

Answer 57

how we give meaning to social instances and circumstances

Question 58

two possible ways of making attributions

Answer 58

environmental enducement | personal force

Question 59

three stages in making an attribution

Answer 59

observation of an action judgement of intention dispositional attribution

Question 60

what are we trying to figure out with attribution

Answer 60

the other persons dispositions

Question 61

attributional fire

Answer 61

a set of hot emotions that results when two people make negative internal dispositional attributional about each other

Question 62

in our relationships we have two goals

Answer 62

to predict how that other person will bhevae | to gauge whether that persons attitude toward the relationship matches ours

Question 63

two cognitive bias that keep us from seeing the truth in the ones we love

Answer 63

the fundamental attribution error | the actor observes difference

Question 64

the fundamental attribution error

Answer 64

the tendency to discount situational causes and emphasize dispositional causes as influences on another persons behavior

Question 65

the actor observer diference

Answer 65

the tendency to explain our own behavior as an actor in situational terms and the behavior of our partner, whom we observe in dispositional terms

Question 66

kellys covariation model

Answer 66

distinctiveness consistency consensus

Question 67

6 steps towards management of response interference

Answer 67

-agree on time to talk -admit your tendencies -listen to strengths and limitations -be reasonable -work toward agreeable behavioral strategies not all dyads are supposed to last

Question 68

self schemas

Answer 68

represent peoples beliefs and feelings about themselves

Question 69

working self concept

Answer 69

the idea that only a subset of a persons vast pool of self knowledge is brought to mind in a given context

Question 70

social comparison theory

Answer 70

people seek out information about themselves through comparison with other people

Question 71

sociometer hypothesis

Answer 71

readout of our standing amongst others

Question 72

better than average effect

Answer 72

most people believe they are above average