Exam 3 Flashcards
Two major types of interpersonal relationships
Circumstance: unintentional
Choice: intentional
The three dimensions of interpersonal relationships
1.trust 2. Intimacy 3. Power
Degree to which we feel safe in disclosing personal. (Johari window).
Choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of some one else.
Trust
Way of looking at self disclosure
Johari window
Johari window
Known to self. Not known to self.
Known to others. Open. Blind
Not known to oth. Hidden. Unknown
Self disclosure onion, from outside in
Cliches, facts, opinions, feelings
Degree to which we can be ourselves and still be accepted
Intimacy
The ability to influence another in the direction we desire
Power
5 power sources
Legitimate, referent, expert, reward, coercive
5 power sources, respect for position
Legitimate
5 power sources, attraction (corisma, looks)
Referent
5 power sources, knowledge/Experience
Expert
5 power sources, needs can be satisfied
Reward
5 power sources, involves punishment
Coercive
An expressed struggle when two people cannot agree on a way to meet their needs
Conflict
3 Types of conflict
Pseudo, simple, and ego conflict
Type of conflict, fake (misunderstanding)
Pseudo
Type of conflict, different ideas, perceptions, goals, disagree
Simple
Type of conflict, different ideas, perceptions, goals, disagree. But it gets personal. (Name calling)
Ego
5 conflict myths
1.always avoided 2. Conflict is always from misunderstanding 3. Sign of poor relationship 4. Conflict always can be resolved 5. Conflict is always bad
Conflict process, expectation is the root of all heartache. The stage is set for conflict
Prior conditions stage
Conflict process, One person aware of potential for conflict (time to examine self)
Frustration awareness stage
Conflict process, approach the person in private at a mutually good time. The two people sit down and talk it out.
Use “I messages”
Active conflict stage
Conflict process, talk about solutions
Resolution stage