Domestic Violence Flashcards
What are the 3 phases that make up the cycle of violence?
- Tension Building
- Acute Explosion
- Honeymoon
During the tension building phase what are some responses you would see in the victim? (8 total)
((he)CA(3)NT(2)W(in))
- Compliant
- Attempts to calm
- Agrees
- Avoidance
- Nurtures
- Tries to reason
- Tries to satisfy with food
- Withdraws
During the tension building phase what are some responses you would see in the abuser? (11 total)
(ICE NYPD SWAT)
- Isolates her
- Crazy making behavior
- Engaging her to argue
- Nitpicks
- Yelling
- Put downs
- Destroys property
- Sensitive
- Withholds affection
- Accusations of unfaithfulness
- Threatens
During the acute explosion phase what are some responses you would see in the victim? (5 total)
(PT FML)
- Protects self any way
- Tries to reason and calm
- Fights back
- May or may not call police
- Leaves
During the acute explosion phase what are some responses you would see in the abuser? (16 total)
- Verbally abuses and humiliates
- Beats
- Slap
- Punch
- Choke
- Grab
- Kick
- Forces
- Restrains
- Sex
- Stalks
- Spits
- Use of weapons
- Objects thrown
- Prevents her from calling police or leaving
- Harasses and abuses children
During the honeymoon phase what are some responses you would see in the victim? (7 total)
R, SAD, F, H, H
(R(eally) SAD F(orgives), H(ope), (and) H(appiness))
- Relieved
- Sets up counseling for him
- Agrees to return, stay and take him back
- Drops legal proceedings
- Forgives
- Hopeful
- Happy
During the honeymoon phase what are some responses you would see in the abuser (12 total)
(BIG F D C A, P (3), J, or T)
(Big F(aker) D(on’t) Cry, Apologize, Promise (3), Justify, or Threaten (suicide))
- Blames drugs or alcohol
- Wants to be Intimate
- Buys Gifts
- Enlists Family support
- Declares love
- Cries
- Apologizes
- Promises it won’t happen again
- Promises to get help
- Promises to go to church
- Tries to justify his behavior
- Threatens suicide
What are 7 lethal risk factors?
(the more factors a pt has the more of a risk of being killed)
(H, T, T, S, C, P, A)
(H(e) T(hreatens x2), S(o), C(all), P(olice), A(lways))
- History of Domestic Violence
- Threat to Kill
- Threats of Suicide
- Separation
- Coercive/Controlling Behavior
- Prior Police Contact
- Alcohol or Drug Use by Suspect
What are some barriers that DV victims face? (15 total)
(LISTEN T, F, C, G, L, L, P, F x I)
(LISTEN To Females Closely Go Learn to Love and Protect Forever x Infinity)
- Low self-esteem
- Isolation
- Societal attitudes
- Threats to being killed for leaving
- Emotional dependence
- Nowhere to go
- Traditional value system
- Financial dependence
- Children
- Guilt
- Learned behavior
- Leaving is dangerous
- Promises to change
- Family pets
- Internalized fears/beliefs
What is one of the most important thing domestic violence advocates can do for their clients?
Provide a safety plan
- safety planning saves lives
What should a DV victim do to plan ahead?
- Develop an age-appropriate plan with your children
- Include a code word telling them to “get out immediately”
- Arrange to have a place to go
- Make copies of important papers and hide them
- Have important phone numbers available - “do not forget your address book”
- Pack and hide an overnight bag, including toys for the children
- Put aside money and spare keys
During an incident what should the DV victim do?
- Call for help, dial 911
- Get out if you can
- Remove children from the situation, preferably to a designated safe neighbor
- Bring important items that were planned and stored away
If the DV victim cannot leave the situation what should they do?
- Avoid rooms with only one exit
- Avoid the kitchen, bathroom, and garage
- Call for help
In a DV victims house what necessary steps should be taken to secure the house?
- Change locks, secure doors and windows
- Arrange to have someone stay with you
- Change your phone number and/or block numbers
- Obtain a protection order if appropriate and report every violation
- Notify trusted friends and family
In a DV victims work place, school or public place what should be done?
- Consider telling your work, daycare, schools and neighbor
- No contact order with pictures
- Change your daily routine
- Plan ahead for unexpected contact with the abuser
