Detatchment is key Flashcards
What should you do if you feel you yourself becoming too easily attached?
Step away and create distance for yourself. By having a full life, having friendships, and creative pursuits.
Give your man space when he needs it instead of taking it personally because
You will get a better version not him at the end of the day
Feminine chooses
masculine gets chosen for what they do
Don’t over compliment him or go out of your way
“I haven’t done anything for this girl and looks what shes doing for me. She must know something that I don’t. She must not value herself and therefore neither do I”
You cannot control what your partner does and the events that happen BUT
You can control how you react.
What is detachment
The conscious acknowledgment that you cannot control other people and you will drive yourself crazy if you try.
Why is it important to create an internal sanctuary?
It ensures that everything external is simply delightful enhancement. The essence of who you are remains unaffected. External circumstances are not a part of your core composition.
What does phone checking do
Sabotage your relationship
How do you make somebody respect you?
Speak light into them and truly believe that they want to do right by you.
Why should you never put too much energy into another person?
where your attention goes, energy flows. be obsessed with yourself, not another person.
How do you practice putting energy into yourself?
Get obsessed with who you are and where you are going.
What should you do while you’re with your partner?
Relish your time with them, savor the experiences you’re having together, and resist the urge to fixate on the future.
What is a myth?
Certainty
What is the strategy to secure attachment?
Fake it till you make it
who needs to regulate your emotions?
YOURSELF
How do secure people communicate needs effectively?
They say what they WANT as opposed to what they did not receive.
