Control your social game Flashcards
What kind of person annoys people the most?
Fake people
A genuine smile (happiness) is…
contagious
Lacking confidence is…
noticeable and contagious
Why should you NOT go to events that make you unhappy?
People will pick up the feeling that you are unhappy and don’t want to be there.
Say yes only to events that…
play to your strengths
A social game plan is about…
leveraging your strengths
Identify places/situations where you enjoy spending time with people, and where you don’t.
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What are the three zones when to identify in any given social situation/room?
Start Zone, Social Zone, Side Zone
What happens at the “start zone” of a social situation/room?
People are most nervous, worried about first impressions, and overall distracted. They’re signing in, surveying the room, looking for bathroom or food, or for people they know. DON’T TRY TO TALK TO PEOPLE HERE.
What happens in the “side zone” of a social situation/room?
People are sidelined and not in the mix, talking with people they already know, going to the bathroom, visiting the food table, looking busy doing something on the sidelines.
What happens in the “social zone” of a social situation/room?
Magic! Places like the ends of the bar/drink line, near the host and in the host’s line of sight, couches and bar tables where people are already drinking/eating.
If you don’t like big groups or want to move on or meet new people, you be a…
Grazer - only get small plates of food at a time and use going to get more food as a reason to move on to the meeting a new group of people. Can also take a break by going to the bathroom and refilling your drink.
Who are your people - who support you, you love spending time with, makes you laugh, values you, helps you strategize, you go to in crisis, makes you feel like your best self, you look forward to seeing, or you wish you could know better?
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Your “winger” is….
Someone who can come alongside you, join you on this social journey, help you try out social skills and hacks, and shares in your desire for personal growth.
Your “riser” is…
Someone you want to improve your relationship with, a new friend, colleague or business contact.
