control basics Flashcards
Never Outshine the Master
Make those above you feel superior. Do not draw too much attention to your own talents. Example (Praise your boss’s ideas in meetings while subtly showcasing your own contributions.)
Never Put Too Much Trust in Friends, Learn How to Use Enemies
Build strategic relationships with a mix of allies and rivals. Use enemies to gain valuable insights. Example(Collaborate with a former competitor to leverage their expertise and insights.)
Conceal Your Intentions
Keep your long-term goals and strategies private to prevent others from interfering. Example (: If starting a new business, keep your plans confidential until you are ready to launch.)
Always Say Less Than Necessary
Communicate clearly but avoid revealing too much. Silence can be powerful. Example (During a negotiation, stick to key points and avoid over-explaining.)
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard It with Your Life
Protect your reputation by consistently demonstrating reliability and integrity. Example (Follow through on commitments and address any issues promptly to maintain a strong image.)
Court Attention at All Costs
Make yourself stand out and be memorable through dramatic and bold actions. Example( Launch a high-profile marketing campaign to ensure your brand is noticed.)
Get Others to Do the Work for You, but Always Take the Credit
Assign tasks to team members but highlight your role in coordinating and achieving success. Example(Assign tasks to team members but highlight your role in coordinating and achieving success)
Make Other People Come to You – Use Bait if Necessary
Create opportunities where others are motivated to seek you out rather than you pursuing them. Example( Offer valuable content or expertise that attracts potential clients to approach you.)
Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument
Demonstrate your capabilities through performance rather than engaging in disputes. Example(Deliver results on a project to showcase your skills rather than arguing about your qualifications.
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Be cautious of negative individuals who can impact your own success and morale.
Avoid associating closely with pessimistic people who may drag you down. Example (Avoid associating closely with pessimistic people who may drag you down.
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Create scenarios where others rely on your skills or resources to achieve their goals.
Become the go-to person for critical information in your organization. Example (Become the go-to person for critical information in your organization.)
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm Your Victim
Employ strategic acts of kindness or honesty to build trust and gain influence. Example ( Offer a helpful insight to a key stakeholder to build rapport and facilitate future negotiations.)
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to Their Mercy or Gratitude
Frame requests to show how the assistance will benefit the other person. Example ( Emphasize how their support will help them achieve their own goals when asking for help.)
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Gather information subtly by building relationships and listening carefully. Example (: Engage in casual conversations to learn about industry trends or competitors.
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Crush Your Enemy Totally
After a successful business takeover, implement measures to solidify your market position. Example (After a successful business takeover, implement measures to solidify your market position.)
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Step back periodically to create anticipation and enhance your perceived value. Example (Take breaks from public appearances to build intrigue and appreciation for your contributions.
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Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Be adaptable and unpredictable to keep others uncertain and responsive. Example (Change your approach or strategy periodically to prevent others from predicting your moves.)
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
Stay connected and engaged with your network to remain informed and supported.
Example: Attend industry events and maintain communication with key contacts to stay relevant
Know Who You’re Dealing With – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
Understand and be cautious of the people you interact with to avoid conflict.
Example: Research key stakeholders’ backgrounds to avoid offending them in negotiations.