Codependency

Question 1

Codependency warning questions

Answer 1

• Do you worry about others so much that it consumes all of your time
  
  • Do you constantly give to others but find it hard to receive
  • Do you feel guilty if you focus on your own needs
  • Do you seem to attract people who are troubled, needy or dependent?
  • Do you do things for others that they should be doing for themselves?
  • Do you feel it is your responsibility to solve others problems?
  • Do you find it difficult to say no if someone needs help?
  • Do you feel guilty if you don’t solve other peoples problems?

Question 2

definition

Answer 2

A co-dependent is a person who feels compelled to solve other people’s problems.

Question 3

How does it hurt the pastor

Answer 3

they end up failing to care for themelves because they are tied up in others
they burn out

Question 4

How does it hurt the parishoner

Answer 4

it encourages dependency

it creates powerlessness within them

Question 5

how to tell if I am codependent?

Answer 5

I was more invested emotionally than the client
I wanted to fix their issue
it was not my job to fix their issue but here I am…

Question 6

How to shift back to healthy boundaries

Answer 6

• nip dependent behaviour in the bud when someone is seeking codependency
  
  • remember, you cannot fix it - someone greater than you is the one to fix it
  • Finding a healthy balance
    • Is this person doing his absolute best to help himself?
    • Are your actions helping this person to feel more self-empowered?
    • Are you working harder to deal with their issue or solve their problem than they are?
    • Don’t deprive others from the opportunity to learn from the consequences and actions