class lectures notes Flashcards
self leadership
process of leading oneself to overcome obstacles that hinder goal achievement
- the end result will be the achievement of goals
leaders
those are are able to influence others and posses managerial authority
example of best self-leaders from video (van heilan and brown mnms)
- van heilans goal was to produce best show possible
mike tyson
“everyone has a plan till they get punched in the mouth”
mental self-leadership
the process of influencing oneself through the purposeful control of ones thoughts
key MSL (mental self leaderships) questions
what are your primary thought patterns?
- example: opportunity vs. obstacle thinker
obstacle thinker
lets obstacles/challenges get to them and in the way of goals
opportunity thinker
uses challenge to be more focused
- opportunity thinkers exert more effort, persist longer, and ultimately perform at higher level
Jake video example of opportunity thinker
loosing both eyes to cancer
- goal was to be successful in what he did but obstacle was blindeness
- ended up playing college football
Mental self leadership (MSL) strategies
self talk + mental practice = thought patterns
what is self talk?
- what we tell ourselves
- our dialogue w/ ourselves
- research shows what we tell ourselves impacts us emotionally and physically
example of self talk: little engine that could
told herself she could, and she did
example self talk: dan obrien (olympic 1996 gold medal)
he said he won bc he changed his self talk
dysfunctional self talk categories:
- extreme thinking (seeing no middle ground)
- mind reading (assuming you know what someones thinking)
- fortune telling (worry self talk, predicting the future without evidence)
- should statements (gives no flexibility, aka using word should in self talk… don’t say “I should” say “I can”
example with self talk: dead poets society
- paralyzed in self talk
- he was dysfunctional self talking
- shut out the world and gave a good poem
declarative self talk
“I can do well in this interview”
interrogative self talk
“can i do well”
- makes you think
- interrogative is more effective
- research shows talking to yourself in third person is more effective
mental practice
imagining successful completion of an event before physically begin the event
ex of mental practice: cool runnings movie
- jamaican bobsled team
- mental practice in the bathtub together
- research shows those who use mental practice succeed more
communication
the act of transmitting info, thoughts, and process through various channels
effective communication
when the message the sender receives is accurately received
ineffective communication
message sent (sender) is not received in the right way by the receiver (example Dr. Neck and wife?)
example of inefective communication: swingers movie
- message that Mike wanted to send is he liked her, message she received is hers crazy/stalker, etc.
communication barriers:
- noise
- different perceptions
- language differences
- conflicting non-verbal cues
- poor listening
Pig story illustrates the five levels of listening:
- 1) ignoring
- 2) pretending
- 3) selective listening
- 4) attentive listening
- 5) active listening
example: video clip w/ the nail shows
- he was not listening and immediately tried to solve the problem
- research shows a lot of us do this or think of the next thing we’re going to say
how to speak to get people to listen:
- show people why your message is relevant to them
culture/communication relationship
- can affect the communication of organization
example of saving private Ryan movie shows:
- the culture/communication relationship
- culture dictates what is communicated up and down
- culture dictates who communicates (ex managers, staff, etc)
- culture dictates how communication occurs (memo, email,
phone) .
darrin chatter
guest speaker spoke on interviews
interview DOs
- reality check
- self awareness
- realistic goals/expectations
- practice, practice, practice
- start getting ready NOW
- lifelong learner
- find something besides college graduate
- build connections
- applicant tracking system
- use key words
- verbage
- skillsyncer.com - do your homework= research
- glassdoor - breath
- for phone interview:
- smile
- laptop ready
- notebook w questions - video interview
- top 10 lists
- research
- practice w others - the social dilemma
- use alias
“How to make people like you” by Nicholas Boothman - in person interview
- mock interview
- go to lots of interviews - salary discussions
- hand written thank you note
- questions
- best attribute in employees? - tell me more about your culture/personality
