Characteristics

Question 1

What is a “Growth mindset”

Answer 1

I believe failure is not permanent.

I believe that I have the ability to learn and grown.

I practice having a positive working effort and response to challenges can help you grow.

I am able to fail because I know I am getting better everytime and I will get it.

I have confidence in myself.

Question 2

What is Zest

Answer 2

I show zest when I approach life filled with enthusiasm and energy.

Question 3

What is Optimism

Answer 3

I show optimism when I believe that the future holds positive possibilities. I have confidence that, with effort, these possibilities become likelihoods.

Question 4

What is the Bravery Ladder

Answer 4

10 step plan that will gradually help me get better at a quality, behavior or outcome I am working on.

I make small steps “up the ladder” to progress

Question 5

What is self-control

Answer 5

I have the ability to control my thoughts, feelings, or behaviors when they conflict with my goals and things I need to get done.

Question 6

What are examples of self-control in relation to school?

Answer 6

I always challenge myself with school and try to learn. I measure my success against the best but don’t feel like a failure when I fail.

I come to class prepared even ahead.

I remembered and follow directions

I plan and work ahead in my classes and with learning.

I resist distractions.

Question 7

What is self-control in relation to yourself and interactions with other people?

Answer 7

I know when it is time to not be selfish and I know when it is time to be selfish.

I practiced good communication between me and others.

I work to remain calm even when criticized or otherwise provoked but willing to stand up for myself if necessary.

I allow others to speak without interrupting;

I am polite to adults and peers;

I keep temper in check.

Question 8

What does the following mean: “We teach people how to treat us.”

Answer 8

I am understand what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in friendships.

I know that “someone disagreeing with me is not the same as being bullied or devalued.” I do not let people bully or devalue me.

I know what I need and want and I am able to communicate to others.

I understand I am not always right and I am happy for others to be right so I grow.

Question 9

How can you teach others to treat you well? One way is to start with yourself. What does this mean?

Answer 9

I know I can’t change anyone else. But I can create a different reaction in others by being brave, confident and valuing myself. This creates mutual respect.

I understand that the way I believe about me and how I treat myself sets the standard for others on how to treat me.

I know people learn how to treat me based on what I accept from them.

Question 10

What is Gratitude

Answer 10

I appreciate what other people do for me

I show appreciation for opportunities

I express appreciation by saying thank you; Did something nice for someone else as a way of saying thank you.

Question 11

What is Social Intelligence

Answer 11

I know to ask myself what other people’s motives are I know to consider others feelings in situations

I work to find solutions during conflicts with others;

I try to show that I care about the feelings of others;

I am adaptable to different situations

Question 12

What is Curiosity

Answer 12

I am eager to explore new things;

I ask questions to help me learn better; T

I take an active interest in learning.

Question 13

“Your _________ is God’s gift to you, what you do with it is your _____ back to ______.

Answer 13

“Your talent is God’s gift to you, what you do with it is your gift back to God.

Question 14

Regarding God’s mercies and states the Bible states the following: “The steadfast _____ of the Lord _______ ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” (ESV Lamentations 3:22-23)

Answer 14

God’s mercies. “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” (ESV)

Question 15

What is will power?

Answer 15

It is the inner strength to make a decision, take action, and handle and execute any aim or task until it is accomplished, regardless of inner and outer resistance, discomfort or difficulties. It provides the ability to overcomes laziness, temptations and negative habits, and to carry out actions, even if they require effort, are unpleasant and tedious or are contrary to one’s habits.

Question 16

What is self discipline?

Answer 16

It is the rejection of instant gratification in favor of something better. It is the giving up of instant pleasure and satisfaction for a higher and better goal. It manifests as the ability to stick to actions, thoughts and behavior, which lead to improvement and success. Self-discipline is self-control, and it manifests in spiritual, mental, emotional and physical discipline.

Question 17

What is GRIT?

Answer 17

Grit is a very significant predictor of success Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in and day out. Grit is not about intensity in limited bursts but consistency of effort over time.

Question 18

Inferiority complex causes inaccurate feelings of:

Answer 18

Inferiority complex causes people to feel they are not as good as others, but they don’t really know why that is a generalized feeling of inadequacy not based on rational judgements.

Question 19

Whatever the reasons for inferiority complex, what are a few ideas to help.

Answer 19

1) Get specific As I said, we can know we’re inferior in some ways. If you find yourself feeling inferior, ask yourself: “Okay, exactly who do I feel inferior to?” Narrow it down. Emotional thinking is always sloppy, so tighten it up to make it less emotional. There are close to seven billion people on this planet (last time I counted). What kind of person do you feel inferior to? Rich people? Good looking people? Very academic people? People you view as accomplished? Most people aren’t these things. Now get even more specific; name names to yourself. “Actually, I feel inferior to Bob down the street.” Why? How, specifically, is Bob better than you? So from ‘feeling inferior’ we’ve gone to ‘feeling inferior to specific types’ to ‘feeling inferior to Bob down the street’. Now ask yourself in what ways Bob isn’t superior to you. Does he have your humility? Wit? Life experience? If we are too narrow with what constitutes ‘good’ or ‘successful’, then we’re more likely to come off feeling worse. Believe me, ‘Bob’ has issues of his own. 2) Drop the mime No one has written on his tombstone: “Here lies Ralph; he was quite like Bob.” All Ralph can be is Ralph (or the best possible version of himself); he ain’t ever gonna be Bob. Wanting to be someone else is okay(ish) when you’re fifteen. But how can an impersonator ever be true to themselves? Being inspired by someone else means assimilating some of their traits into who you are. It doesn’t mean trying to have their exact same life. Inferiority complexes thrive on people wanting to be someone they’re not. This doesn’t mean we have to limit ourselves as to what we can do, but it does mean that we can get by much better when we don’t try to be someone else. 3) Dare to be different Life is much less restrictive now in westernized counties. In the ’50s, you were expected to be married (perhaps in your early twenties); to have kids and a ‘respectable career’ (grave robbers need not apply); to have short hair or longer hair, depending on gender; to dress ‘properly’ and have all the right opinions. We haven’t cast aside all these norms and I’m not suggesting they are all bad, but people are much freer now to live a bit differently. No one is a ‘failure’ if they are unmarried at forty (or eighty), or if they don’t have kids or a traditionally professional career. Not in terms of current societal norms; though your parents may still have these retrospective expectations which may have influenced you. But the kind of thinking that prompts: “Oh no! I’m forty-five now. I should have a mortgage, a partner, 2.4 children! I should be like how other people are!” is a trap. If you really want these things, that’s one thing; but if you only feel they are expected of you, then remember that your life can only really be lived by you. 4) What would make you feel as good as others? Recall that in Hans Christian Anderson’s tale ‘The Ugly Duckling’, the young swan felt a failure as a duckling because, well, it wasn’t really a duckling, was it? How could it be a successful something that it was not? If you feel inferior, imagine for a moment how you’d need to be to not feel inferior. What would you need to look like, to own, to be doing? Now reflect: Would all of that really be you? Or would it be like a swan posing as a duck? For a taste of this exercise, click on the free audio session below. 5) Beware utopian thinking People who feel inferior tend to think in ‘all or nothing’ ways (any emotion will drive us to do this). ‘Utopianism’ is a type of this simplified emotional thinking. It’s a kind of ‘if only’ thought. “If only my nose was straighter…then I’d be confident and happy!” “If only I earned ten thousand more a year…then my life would be good!” “If only I could be exactly the same as Bob…then I’d feel great about my/himself!” Life doesn’t work like that. Because much of what we feel inferior about is relatively superficial; the non-superficial part of us will always feel left wanting by external band-aid remedies. Sure, you might have more confidence with a straighter nose for a while, but you are much more likely to forget about comparing yourself to others (either favourably or unfavourably) when you live your life in a sustainable way that utilizes your real core character strengths, values, and personal ideas. As the explorer and translator Sir Richard Burton wrote: Do what thy manhood bids thee do, from none but self expect applause; He noblest lives and noblest dies who makes and keeps his self-made laws.

Question 20

What does Courage look like

Answer 20

Courage is personal bravery in the face of fear. It is doing what needs to be done even when it is really hard or scary. Courage is going ahead even when you feel like giving up for quitting. Courage is needed in trying new things, in facing the truth and then picking yourself up after a mistake, ready to try again. It comes from knowing them deep what is right for you and believing in yourself to do it. Courage can come from prayer, and the trust that God will help.

Question 21

Ways to practice bravery

Answer 21

Don’t be afraid to ask a question, or express an opinion in a class, or a meeting even if you believe you have a different view to other people Volunteer to help demonstrate something to your class Don’t be afraid to play with, or talk to someone who you think is a good person, but may be different, or unpopular with others Resist peer pressure or conformity where you believe the expected behaviour is wrong Stand up for someone who is being criticised, or treated unfairly Look out for examples of bravery in the news In situations where you feel anxious, pretend to be someone who handles such situations with confidence Practice positive statements, or affirmations that promote courage and self belief e.g. “I can do it”

Question 22

There are three parts to fear. What I _____; What I _____; What I ____.

Answer 22

There are three parts to fear. What I think; What I feel; What I do

Question 23

______ is only as deep as the mind allows.

Answer 23

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows

Question 24

A fear is a _______ ________ that occurs in kids and adults every day. A _______ is an exaggerated fear; an ________ is a future oriented fear. Facing and talking about fears vs. ________ them decreases the chance of a fear turning into a phobia or anxiety.

Answer 24

A fear is a natural emotion that occurs in kids and adults every day. A phobia is an exaggerated fear; an anxiety is a future oriented fear. Facing and talking about fears vs. avoiding them decreases the chance of a natural fear turning into a phobia or anxiety.

Question 25

I don’t fear ______. I only fear the _______ of the engine inside of me which is ________, saying, “Keep going, someone must be on top, why not you?”

Answer 25

I don’t fear failure. I only fear the slowing of the engine inside of me which is pounding, saying, “Keep going, someone must be on top, why not you?”

Question 26

Dependent

Answer 26

A

Question 27

Craving

Answer 27

C

Question 28

Competent and capable

Answer 28

C

Question 29

Assertive

Answer 29

A

Question 30

Passive

Answer 30

P

Question 31

Aggressive

Answer 31

A

Question 32

Describe an “emotional victims”

Answer 32

their emotions control them, they possess unhealthy and unproductive emotional habits, and their emotions hinder their ability to perform well and achieve their goals.

Question 33

Describe “emotional masters.”

Answer 33

Person can gain control of their emotions. They can develop healthy and productive emotional habits. And their emotions can facilitate their ability to perform well and achieve their goals.

Question 34

What kind of response can occur when someone goes down the bad emotional road?

Answer 34

Going down the bad emotional road can cause people to respond emotionally in ways that are unhealthy and result in poor performance

Question 35

One of the four emotional styles is Rager. Describe this emotional style.

Answer 35

Rager also feels anger and frustration strongly, but it is expressed immediately and openly. For this type of athlete, showing strong emotions acts as a form of relief (or so they think). The emotions arise, are expressed and released. By doing this, the rager is able to maintain a kind of emotional equilibrium. Up to a point, this ongoing emotional outlet helps their performances by increasing motivation and intensity. However, though these athletes let the negative emotions out, they do not really let them go. If the competition turns against them, the rage builds until it finally engulfs and controls them. At this point, their emotions become their enemies and their performances deteriorate.

Question 36

One of the four emotional styles is the Brooder. Describe this emotional style.

Answer 36

The brooder also feels strong emotions, but, unlike the seether and the rager, the most common emotions are despair and helplessness. These athletes tend to dwell on negative experiences, thoughts, and feelings and can be seen as pouting during a competition. Brooders are very sensitive to the highs and lows of a competition and their emotions tend to mirror its course. If they’re performing well and winning, they’re fine, but if they perform poorly and are losing, the “down” emotions emerge and hurt their performance. They may possess a strong defeatist attitude and are best known for their giving up in pressure situations. There are no world-class or professional athletes who completely fit this emotional style because someone could not reach such a high level of performance if their dominant emotional style was as a brooder. However, there are many successful athletes who have some brooding qualities, which can prevent them from getting to the very top of their sport.

Question 37

One of the four emotional styles is Seether. Describe this emotional style.

Answer 37

Seether feels frustration and anger build slowly during the course of a competition. They appear to be in emotional control, but that is only because the negative emotions haven’t surfaced yet. They’re able to keep the frustration and anger in check as long as they are performing well and the competition is mostly going their way. If the competition turns or they make a crucial error, they can explode and lose control emotionally. Often, they’re not able to reestablish control and end up losing the competition.

Question 39

What is confidence

Answer 39

Like all mental skills, confidence is a skill that develops with practice. There is no more important mental factor than confidence because you might have all ability in the world to achieve your goals, but if you don’t have confidence in that ability, you won’t use that ability. Many athletes defeat themselves even before the competition begins with doubts and negative self-talk. A deep faith in your capabilities comes from total preparation, exposure to adversity, support from others, and training and competitive success.

Question 40

What is Intensity in competition?

Answer 40

Intensity may be the most important contributor to sports performance once the competition begins. It’s so important because all of the motivation, confidence, focus, and emotions in the world won’t help you if your body is not physiologically capable of doing what it needs to do for you to perform your best. Intensity involves the amount of physiological activation you feel before and during training and competition and lies on a continuum between sleep (very low intensity) to terror (very high intensity). Somewhere between those two extremes you perform your best and your challenge is to find the ideal level of intensity that works best for you in your sport.

Question 41

What does focus in competition involve?

Answer 41

Focus involves the ability to concentrate on those things that help you perform your best, shift focus when the demands of the situation change, and avoid distractions that are ever present in athletic arena. The ability to focus effectively is especially important in technically complex sports or those that last a long time, and when there are considerable expectations and pressure.

Question 42

What are some factors emotions play in sports?

Answer 42

Emotions are the ultimate determinant of your ability to perform consistently under the most challenging conditions. Emotions also contribute significantly to your abilities as a leader and a team member. Most powerfully, emotional mastery gives you the power to use emotions as tools to facilitate individual and team performance rather than weapons that hurt you and others.

Question 43

What is one reason the best athletes in the world are at the top is because those athletes have the ability to control what?

Answer 43

One reason why the best athletes in the world are at the top is because they have the ability to control their emotions rather than their emotions controlling them.

Question 44

Emotional reactions athletes have to their sport: emotional threat vs. emotional challenge What is at the heart of an “emotional threat”

Answer 44

At the heart of emotional threat is the perception that winning is all-important and failure is unacceptable. Emotional threat is most often associated with too great an emphasis on winning, results, and rankings.

Question 45

What is the most common reaction to an “emotional threat?”

Answer 45

most common reaction to an emotional threat is the desire to avoid the threat. Often a loss of motivation to perform and compete, especially when the threat of losing is immediate, for example, when you are behind in a competition (think of giving up as a major loss of motivation).

Question 46

Emotional threat also suggests to you that you’re incapable of overcoming the situation that is causing the threat, so your confidence is hurt and you’re overwhelmed with negative and defeatist thoughts. What are some of the negative and defeatist thoughts you might experience?

Answer 46

Produces strong negative emotions such as fear, anger, frustration, despair, and helplessness. Makes it nearly impossible to focus effectively because there are so many negative things pulling your focus away from a useful process focus.

Question 47

Emotional reactions athletes have to their sport: emotional threat vs. emotional challenge What is at the heart of an “emotional challenge”

Answer 47

Emotional challenge is associated with your enjoying the process of your sport regardless of whether you achieve your goals. The emphasis is on having fun and seeing the competition as exciting and enriching

Question 48

What are some of the reasons it is better to see sports and life as an emotional challenge and not a emotional threat?

Answer 48

Generates many positive emotions such as excitement, joy, and satisfaction. It also stimulates your body to achieve prime intensity, where your body is relaxed, energized, and physically capable of performing its best.

Question 49

What are the four emotional styles among athletes?

Answer 49

Seether Rager Brooder Zen Master

Question 52

One of the four emotional styles is Zen Master. Describe this emotional style.

Answer 52

The Zen master is the rarest of the emotional styles because they’re largely unaffected by threat and negative emotions. Errors, poor performances, and losing seem to slide right off of them, as if they are made of Teflon. They have the ability to not let pressure situations affect them and they’re able to let go of past mistakes and failure. The Zen master rarely shows emotions, either negative or positive, and maintains an consistent demeanor even in the most critical competitive situations. This equanimity results in consistently high performance and positive reactions to the normal ups and downs of sport.

Question 53

Describe a what you feel and look like when you are a “confident person.”

Answer 53

A confident person has the belief that he/she has what it takes to be successful no matter what is happening in life or on the field/court/mat. His thoughts are positive, in the moment, and directed to the task at hand. By focusing on strengths, believing that they can make a difference in the outcome of the game, and staying in the moment he creates confidence

Question 54

What is GRIT?

Answer 54

Having Grit often is the first step of success Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals by having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in and day out. Not for a week or a month but for years. Grit is working really hard to make that future a reality. It is not about intensity in limited bursts but consistency of effort over time.

Question 55

Why do many talented people not reach the top or win championships? What do they often lack?

Answer 55

Many talented individuals simply do not follow through on their commitments because the lack Grit. Grit is usually unrelated or inversely related to measures of talent. This means that just because you have talent it does not mean you have Grit. You need Grit and talent to be a champion.

Question 56

What is will-power?

Answer 56

Will-power is the inner strength to make a decision, take action, and handle and execute any aim or task until it is accomplished, regardless of inner and outer resistance, discomfort or difficulties. It bestows the ability to overcomes laziness, temptations and negative habits, and to carry out actions, even if they require effort, are unpleasant and tedious or are contrary to one’s habits.

Question 57

What is self-discipline?

Answer 57

Self-discipline is the rejection of instant gratification in favor of something better. It is the giving up of instant pleasure and satisfaction for a higher and better goal.

Question 58

Self-discipline helps you in what ways?

Answer 58

Self-discipline gives you the ability to stick to actions, thoughts and behavior, which lead to improvement and success. Self-discipline is self-control, and it manifests in spiritual, mental, emotional and physical discipline. The purpose of self-discipline is not living a limiting or a restrictive lifestyle. It does not mean being narrow minded or living like a fakir. It is one of the pillars of success and power. It bestows the inner strength to focus all your energy on your goal, and persevere until it is accomplished.

Question 59

What does the quote below mean? “There is no success without failure.”

Answer 59

A person who makes no mistakes is unlikely to make anything at all. It’s better to have a life full of small failures that you learned from, rather than a lifetime filled with the regrets of never trying.

Question 60

Addictive, Addiction and addicting

Answer 60

A

Question 61

Envy

Answer 61

E

Question 62

Pettiness

Answer 62

P

Question 63

resilience: noun: the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change

Answer 63

To be resilient… 1. Focus on results. Embrace that results are what we’re all really after. Effort and attempts are great first steps, but we need to commit to delivering (just like we want people to do for us). 2. Make lessons of failures. Minimize the tendency to make a mistake anything more than a lesson on how not to do something. We need to learn from our mistakes and accept them as tuition for future success. Our mistakes might put us in a bind at times and have some uncomfortable consequences, but that’s real life. 3. Continue on. Smarter. 4. Reinforce. Support each other (and ourselves) by continually reminding and encouraging one another to deliver on these points. resilience: noun: the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change We all fail from time-to-time (our doing, someone else’s doing, something else’s doing, a combination of each). To succeed, we need to be resilient.

Question 64

4 unhelpful thinking styles involved in social interactions.

Answer 64

In particular, ask yourself if you’re engaging in any of the following unhelpful thinking styles: Mind reading – Assuming you know what other people are thinking, and that they see you in the same negative way that you see yourself. Fortune telling – Predicting the future, usually while assuming the worst will happen. You just “know” that things will go horribly, so you’re already anxious before you’re even in the situation. Catastrophizing – Blowing things out of proportion. If people notice that you’re nervous, it will be “awful,” “terrible,” or “disastrous.” Personalizing – Assuming that people are focusing on you in a negative way or that what’s going on with other people has to do with you.

Question 65

In order to reduce self-focus when feeling nervous

Answer 65

1) pay attention to what is happening around you, rather than monitoring yourself or focusing on symptoms of anxiety in your body: 2) Look at other people and the surroundings. Really listen to what is being said (not to your own negative thoughts). 3) Don’t take all the responsibility for keeping conversations going—silence is okay, other people will contribute., pay attention to what is happening around you, rather than monitoring yourself.

Question 66

Define “virtues”

Answer 66

Virtues: are positive traits. They promote health, harmony and balance.

Question 67

What are “vices”

Answer 67

Vices: are negative traits. Vices detract from health, harmony and balance