Chapter 6 Forgiveness

Question 1

Enright’s stages of Forgiveness

Answer 1

1. Revengeful or restitutional forgiveness
2. Expectational and lawful expectational forgiveness
3. Forgiveness as social harmony and forgiveness as love.

Question 2

What is NOT forgiveness?

Answer 2

Pardoning: Exempt From penalty
Condoning: Involves justifying the event
Excusing: Implies extenuating circumstances
Forgetting: Implies memory decay
Denial: Implies unwillingness/inability to perceive harm
Reconciliation: Implies restoration of fractured relationship

Question 3

Forgiveness as a Response:
Definition:

3 Targets of Forgiveness

Answer 3

Cognitive-affective transformation that includes:
Realistic assessment of the harm done.
Acknowledge perpetrators responsibility.
Freely choosing to “cancel the debt”
Giving up the need for revenge.
Giving up negative emotions related to event.

3-Another, Oneself, Situation

Question 4

Reach:

Answer 4

Recall the hurt as objectively as possible
Empathize with the transgressor
Altruistic gift of forgiveness
Commit to forgive publicly
Hold on to forgiveness