Chapter 6 Flashcards

What the Hell: How Feeling Bad Leads to Giving In

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What is the relationship between real-world stress and cravings?

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Real-world stress increases the risk of relapse among smokers, recovering alcoholics, drug addicts, and dieters by triggering cravings as the brain seeks quick relief and happiness.

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Why does stress trigger cravings and reward-seeking behaviors?

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Stress activates the brain’s rescue mission, prompting it to seek anything that might provide happiness or relief, leading to illogical behaviors like binge eating or procrastination.

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How do negative emotions affect our decision-making?

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Negative emotions, such as anger and anxiety, shift the brain into a reward-seeking state, making the desire to feel better override self-control goals.

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What are common responses to stress for many people?

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Common stress responses may include procrastination, binge eating, or engaging in indulgent activities like watching movies or playing video games.

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What are effective stress-relief strategies according to the American Psychological Association?

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Effective stress-relief strategies include exercising, spending time with friends or family, meditating, engaging in creative hobbies, and other activities that enhance mood without relying on dopamine.

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What distinguishes effective stress-relief strategies from less effective ones?

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Effective strategies boost mood-enhancing brain chemicals like serotonin and oxytocin, and reduce stress hormones, while less effective strategies often rely on dopamine and the promise of reward.

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What should you consider when feeling stressed and tempted to seek immediate relief?

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Consider trying a more effective stress reliever that enhances your mood rather than simply seeking the immediate promise of relief.

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How can you remind your stressed-out self what truly makes you feel better?

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Record your voice while engaging in stress-relief activities, describing how good they felt, to remind yourself later that healthy activities are more effective than watching TV or eating for stress relief.

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What is the psychological phenomenon related to our awareness of mortality?

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The phenomenon is called terror management, which shows that reminders of our mortality make us more susceptible to temptations as we seek hope and security in rewards.

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How does thinking about death affect shopping behavior?

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When reminded of death, shoppers tend to create longer shopping lists, spend more on comfort food, and increase purchases of items like chocolate and cookies.

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What effect do death-related news reports have on consumer behavior?

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Death-related news makes viewers more responsive to ads for status products, such as luxury cars and watches, as these items bolster self-image and provide a sense of power.

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How do warnings about smoking impact smokers’ behaviors?

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Death warnings trigger fear in smokers, but this anxiety often leads them to resort to smoking as a stress-relief strategy, countering the intended effect of the warning.

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What should you be aware of that might trigger terror management and cravings for comfort?

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Pay attention to personal stressors such as job security, financial issues, health concerns, or life changes that may trigger cravings for comfort items as a coping mechanism.

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How can terror management lead to procrastination?

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Procrastination can arise when tasks evoke thoughts of mortality, such as making medical appointments or planning for retirement, as we may avoid facing our vulnerability.

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What can help address tasks you’ve been putting off due to fear?

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Recognizing and acknowledging the underlying fear can help you make rational choices; understanding motivations makes it easier to change behaviors.

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What is the “what-the-hell effect”?

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The “what-the-hell effect” describes a cycle of indulgence, regret, and greater indulgence, where feelings of guilt drive individuals to indulge more.

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How does guilt influence drinking and eating behaviors?

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The more guilt someone feels about their drinking or eating habits, the more likely they are to indulge again, leading to a cycle of behavior where they justify further indulgence.

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What thought often follows breaking a diet or resolution?

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People may think, “What the hell, I’ve already broken my [diet, budget, sobriety], so I might as well really enjoy myself,” leading to further indulgence.

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What role do feelings of guilt and shame play after a willpower failure?

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Feelings of shame, guilt, and loss of control following a willpower failure contribute to continued relapse, making it seem as though there’s no way out except to keep indulging.

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What should you pay attention to regarding your response to willpower failures?

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Notice how you handle setbacks: Do you criticize yourself, feel hopeless, or use the failure as an excuse to indulge further? Recognizing these patterns can help break the cycle.

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How can self-criticism affect the cycle of indulgence?

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Self-criticism can exacerbate feelings of guilt and shame, leading to more indulgence and reinforcing the cycle of failure and regret.

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How can self-forgiveness impact self-control?

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Self-forgiveness can help reduce guilt, preventing the cycle of continuous indulgence and supporting better self-control.

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What should you remind yourself after breaking a diet, like having a slice of pizza?

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Instead of feeling guilt, remind yourself that you’re not perfect and that it’s normal to be tempted. Acknowledge that the slice may not be as amazing as you expected.

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What is a common reaction after indulging that leads to further indulgence?

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People may think, “What the hell, I’ve already broken my diet, so I might as well keep indulging,” which perpetuates the cycle of indulgence.

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How does guilt influence our response to mistakes?

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While we may believe guilt motivates us to correct our mistakes, it often leads to more giving in, highlighting how feeling bad can trigger further indulgence.

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What misconception do many people have about self-forgiveness?

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Many believe that self-forgiveness is just making excuses that lead to greater self-indulgence, but research shows otherwise.

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What is the common belief about self-criticism in relation to willpower?

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Many think being harder on themselves boosts willpower, but studies show that self-criticism leads to less motivation and poorer self-control.

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What impact does self-criticism have on mental health?

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Self-criticism is a significant predictor of depression, which undermines both “I will” power and “I want” power.

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How does self-compassion affect motivation and self-control?

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Self-compassion—being kind to yourself in moments of stress or failure—promotes greater motivation and better self-control.

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How does forgiveness relate to accountability?

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Forgiveness helps individuals recover from mistakes by removing shame and pain, leading to increased accountability rather than guilt-driven avoidance.

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What is the “what-the-hell effect”?

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The “what-the-hell effect” is the tendency to indulge further in response to bad feelings after a setback, often driven by guilt and self-criticism.

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What happens when setbacks are viewed negatively?

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Viewing setbacks as proof of being a failure promotes feelings of self-hate, leading individuals to focus on soothing those feelings instead of learning from the experience.

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Why does self-criticism backfire as a strategy for self-control?

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Self-criticism fosters comfort coping behaviors, driving individuals to seek quick relief through indulgence rather than addressing the underlying issues.

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What can help you avoid a downward spiral after experiencing a setback?

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Consider three perspectives on your failure to reduce guilt and shame, helping you to avoid giving in again.

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What is the first perspective to take when reflecting on a setback?

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  1. Acknowledge your feelings: Notice and describe your emotions and physical sensations associated with the failure. Reflect on how you felt immediately after and recognize any self-criticism that arises.
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What does the second perspective remind you about being human?

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  1. You’re only human: Recognize that everyone struggles with willpower challenges and occasionally loses control. A setback doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
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What is the third perspective to adopt when facing a setback?

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  1. What would you say to a friend: Consider how you would comfort and support a close friend going through the same experience. This perspective encourages kindness and motivation to continue pursuing goals.
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How can considering the experiences of others help?

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Thinking of others you respect who have faced similar struggles can soften self-doubt and reduce self-criticism.

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What common tendency do we all have regarding self-perception?

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We tend to believe self-doubt and self-criticism, but doing so does not help us achieve our goals.

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What perspective should you try instead of self-doubt?

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Adopt the perspective of a mentor or supportive friend who believes in you and encourages you, especially during discouraging times.

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How can viewing yourself from a supportive perspective help?

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This perspective can boost your motivation and reinforce a positive mindset, steering you away from negative thoughts that hinder progress.

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How can feeling bad influence behavior regarding self-control?

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Feeling bad can lead to giving in to cravings, as stress heightens attraction to temptation; reminders of mortality and guilt trigger a cycle of indulgence.

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When are people most likely to decide to change?

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People most often decide to change when they’re at a low point, as setting a resolution provides immediate relief and a sense of control.

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What is a downside of unrealistic optimism when making changes?

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Unrealistic optimism can create false hope, making initial rewards less transformative than expected and leading to disappointment upon facing setbacks.

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What is “false hope syndrome”?

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False hope syndrome occurs when the excitement of deciding to change quickly fades, leading back to feelings of frustration and the cycle of feeling out of control.

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What distinction should we make regarding motivation for change?

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We should differentiate between using the promise of change to fix feelings versus fixing behaviors; motivation must focus on actionable change rather than just feeling better.

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How can we effectively set resolutions for change?

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A combination of optimism and realistic pessimism can enhance success; anticipating temptations and challenges increases the likelihood of keeping resolutions.

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What self-reflective questions can help you evaluate your motivations for change?

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Consider whether you feel motivated to change only when feeling bad, if you enjoy imagining future successes more than taking concrete steps, and how you use fantasies of your future self to influence present feelings.