Chapter 5 Flashcards
Romantic love
A strong emotional bond with another person that involves sexual desire, a longing to be with the person, a preference to put the other person’s interest ahead of one’s own, and a willingness to forgive the other persons transgressions
Commitment
A willingness to stick with someone no matter what happens, including to work through problems and conflicts, and good times and hard times. It is extremely important to a loving relationship
Love is not
Martyring, Manipulating, Limerence
Martyring
Giving more in a relationship than one receives in return
Manipulating
Controlling the feelings and attitudes and behavior of another in an underhanded way
Limerence
Being with someone as a result of a fantasy
Triangular theory of love
Intimacy, passion, commitment
Free choice
Men and women are free to select their mate
Factors that affect martial stability
Personal traits, beliefs & attitudes about the partner, social support, partner interaction, satisfaction, stability
Five benefits or functions of an “Arrange Marriage”
a. Affirms and strengthens parent’s power
b. Keeps family traditions and values systems
c. Consolidates and extends family property
d. Enhances value of kinship group
e. Helps young people to avoid the pressures and uncertainty in searching for a mate
Attachment theory
Based on the belief that each person develops a particular style of attaching to others. There are two types secured and insecured
Secured Attachment
Individuals who are nurtured and shown a lot of love as they grow up are more likely to form secure attachments and bond well with significant others when they begin dating
In-Secured Attachment
Children who feel abandoned, un-loved, or feel that they are a problem to their parents are more likely to grow up feeling insecure or anxious about relationships when they are old enough to being dating
Intergenerational Transmission of Divorce
Children of divorced parents are at greater risk of getting a divorce when they marry.
a. Children are at a greater risk of developing personality problems because of the impact they experience as their parents go through relationship problems and divorce
b. The children are not exposed to (or taught) supportive communications and problem solving skills
c. Children grow up and develop more accepting attitudes towards divorce and see divorce as the way to fix problems in a marital relationship instead of working through problems
Marriage Market
A process whereby individuals place themselves in situations or go to places, armed with the knowledge of their personal assets and actively seek a possible mate who possesses compatible personal assets. There are a number of Marriage Markets, such as church, school work, parties, social clubs, etc.
