Chapter 11

Question 1

Patterns of communication

Answer 1

Associated with relationship satisfaction

Question 2

Couple Communication

Answer 2

Personality Traits

Ecological Perspective

Question 3

Couple Characteristics

Answer 3

Imaginative
Agreeable
Intellectually Curiosity
Consciousness

Question 4

Consensual validation

Answer 4

To confirm that there is a consensus on how partners view reality

Question 5

Family cohesion

Answer 5

The emotional bonding of family members and each members are going to carry it on when they grow up

Question 6

6 Characteristics of a Cohesive family

Answer 6

1. Appreciation for one another
2. Arranged to be together
3. Commitment to providing happiness and welfare for one another
4. Presence of spirited orientation
5. Ability to deal positively with crisis
6. Good and positive communication skills

Question 7

2 ways of Verbal Communication

Answer 7

Talking is only half of communication

Listening is the other half

Question 8

Reasons for Listening

Answer 8

1. Shows respect, concern, love
2. Prevents the spread of negative messages
3. Helps one to understand his or her partner
4. Allow partners to claim ownership to his or her feelings
5. Reflects a good example

Question 9

3 forms of active listening

Answer 9

1. Giving feedback
2. Checking it out
3. Listener back channels

Question 10

Giving feedback

Answer 10

Partner simply repeats in his or her own words on what the other partner said

Question 11

Checking it out

Answer 11

One partner ask if their perception of what the other said is right; asking for clarification

Question 12

Listener back channels

Answer 12

Anything that you heard is acknowledge back to you; nonverbal communication

Question 13

10 rules for a successful and loving relationship

Answer 13

1. Express your love verbally
2. Be physically affectionate in your relationship
3. Express appreciation and admiration
4. Share more about yourself that you don’t to others to your partners
5. Offer each other emotional support
6. Express your love materially
7. Accept your partners demands and short comings if they are reasonable
8. Make time to be alone with each other
9. Don’t take your relationship for granted
10. Do unto others as you would have the other do to you

Question 14

3 ways of Denying Conflict

Answer 14

Passive- aggression
Sabotage
Displacement

Question 15

Passive-aggression

Answer 15

Person express anger at someone but does so indirectly

Question 16

Sabotage

Answer 16

When a partner attempts to spoil or under mind something that the partner has planned

Question 17

Displacement

Answer 17

A person directs anger at people that the partner your angry with really cherishes

Question 18

4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Answer 18

Contempt 
Criticize 
Defensiveness 
Stonewalling 
Belligerence

Question 19

Working Though Conflicts in Positive Ways

Answer 19

1. Express your anger directly in a kind way
2. Check out your interpretation of the others behaviors
3. Avoid attack statements instead use “eye” phrases
4. Avoid mixed and double messages
5. Choose the time and place for the argument
6. Address a specific issue and ask for a specific change
7. Be willing to change yourself
8. Don’t always try to win
9. Practice forgiveness
10. End the argument

Question 20

Personality traits

Answer 20

On how they influence relationships

Question 21

Ecological perspective

Answer 21

Couples are influenced by outside factors