Chapter 3.2 Flashcards
Deciding to divorce
Emotional transition
Accepting inability to resolve tension, continue relationship
Developmental issue
Accepting one’s own part in failure of the marriage
Planning system breakup
Emotional transition
Supporting viable arrangements for all parts of system
Developmental issues
Working cooperatively on custody, visitation, finances
Dealing with extended family
Separation
Emotional transition
Cooperative coparenting and joint financial support of children
Resolution of attachment to spouse
Developmental issues
Mourning loss of nuclear family
Restructuring relationships and finances
Adaptation to living apart
Realigning relationships with extended family
Divorce
Emotional transition
Emotional divorce
Overcoming hurt, anger, guilt
Developmental issues
Retrieving hopes, dreams, expectations
Post divorce
Single parent custodial
Emotional transition
Maintain financial responsibility
Continue parental contact
Support children’s contact with parent and extended family
Developmental issues
Flexible visitation arrangements
Rebuilding financial resources
Rebuilding own social network
Post divorce
Single parent noncustodial
Emotional transition
Maintaining parental contact
Support child’s relationship with parent, extended family
Developmental issues
Continuing effective parenting relationship
Maintaining financial responsibilities
Rebuilding own social network
Remarried family formation
Entering new relationship
Planning new family
Remarriage and reconstruction
Entering new relationship
Emotional transition
Recovery from loss of first marriage
Emotional divorce
Developmental issues
Recommitting to marriage
Readiness to deal with complexity, ambiguity
Planning new family
Emotional transition
Accepting fears
Accepting need for time and patience
multiple new roles
boundaries: space, time, membership, authority
affective issues: guilt, loyalty, unresolvable past hurts
Developmental issues
Work on openness
Avoiding pseudomutuality
Maintaining cooperative financial, coparenting
Help children deal with fear, loyalty
Realign relationships with extended family
Remarriage and reconstruction
Emotional transition
Resolution attachment to previous spouse and ideal of “intact” family
Accepting different model of family with permeable boundaries
Developmental issues
Restructuring family boundaries
Interweaving of systems, realigning relationships
Making room for children’s relationships with all family
Enhancing stepfamily integration, sharing history , memories
Differences: stepfamilies and nuclear
Loyalty
Seeing family together initially may be unproductive
Transitional stress
Focus first on transitional adjustment processes rather than intrapsychic processes.
Negative societal comparison
Need for acceptance and validation as a worthwhile family unit.
Stages in long integration period
Stage in family development is important in assessment of whom to see.
Establishing equilibrium vs break in homeostasis
Normalize, educate to promote stability
Complicated “supra family system”
Keep complications in mind
Draw a genogram
History of losses
Grief work may be necessary
Preexisting parent-child coalitions
Permission to develop a secure couple relationship
Couple relationship does not = stepparent stepchild relationship
Step relationships take special attention separate from the couple relationship
Different balance of power
Stepparent initially has little authority
Discipline handled by bio parent
Positive channels for children’s power
Influential parent elsewhere
Foster appropriate control to reduce anxiety, helplessness
More than two parent figures
Think in terms of parenting coalition
Ambiguous boundaries differing histories
Attention to these possible sources of loss, stress
Initially, no family history
Share past histories
Develop rituals, ways of doing things
Emotional climate intense, unexpected
Encourage empathy, understanding of unmet human needs:
to be loved, appreciated
to belong
to have control over one’s life
Adoptive families
Continuum of openness
International adoptions
Adoptive families represent range of family forms
How/when the story of adoption told
Recognize unique strengths, challenges
Adoption breakdown
Genetic, hereditary factors
Deficiencies in prenatal, perinatal care
Conditions in adoptive home
Temperamental differences
Fantasy, communication, attitudes
Identity and adolescence
Parent child age differences
Hajal & Rosenberg (1991) in Wright & Leahy
LGBT family life cycles
Manage multiple views of relationships
Differences among “traditional” families as well as from LGBT families
“Traditional” family life cycle with unique differences
LGBT families with adolescence
Rituals in individuation, identity absence
Parenting to “protect” vs “prepare”
LGBT leaving home
Family of origin modeling
Focus on strength of relationship
Gender scripts in relationship roles
LGBT families with children
Multiple stuctures/forms
Biological
Stepfamily
adoptive family
Biases
Gender scripts
LGBT families later life
Continuing adaptation negotiation with families of origin
Impact of illness/aging
Intergenerational caregiving/legacies
Care facilities and next of kin
Function Instrumental
activities of daily living
Emotional Communication
Functioning Expressive:
Who in your family tends to start conversations about feelings?
How can you tell when your _____ is happy? Angry? Sad?
Verbal Communication
Functioning Expressive
Who among your family members is the most clear
and direct when communicating verbally? When you state clearly to your young
adult son that he has to pay you rent, what effect does that have on him? When
your teenagers talk directly to each other about the use of condoms, what do
you notice? If your adolescents were to talk more with you and your husband
about safer sex, what do you think your husband’s reaction might be?
Sometimes we talk to person A when the message is about person B
There’s also indirect messages when we talk. “Cover up your shorts are too short” also can mean “there’s sometjing wrong/shameful with your body”
If you have unclear communication, you have boundary issues
Problem Solving
Functioning Expressive
This subcategory refers to the family’s ability to solve its own problems effectively.
Family problem solving is strongly influenced by the family’s beliefs
about its abilities and past successes. How much influence the family believes
it has on the problem or illness is useful to know. Who identifies the problems
is important. Is it characteristically someone from outside the family or from
inside the family?
ROLES
Functioning Expressive
Established patterns of behaviour for family members
Influence and Power
Functioning Expressive
Who is more likely to request that their needs be met? Who is more likely to accommodate the other person’s requests?
Alliances and Coalitions
Functioning Expressive
Complementary and symmetrical are terms used to describe a two-person relationship
Threeperson relationship is triangle,
What are your Diads and triads in your home? When do they occur most often?
Terms used to describe a two-person
relationship
Complementary
Symmetrical
Dyad
